Nanny in 1br apartment with both parents WFH

[Anonymous]

LOL cost is not an issue but you're cramming that many people into one room all day and compromising your job, marriage, relationship with your kid, etc. And I wouldn't be surprised if the nanny quits.

[Anonymous]

So you signed a lease on a 1-bedroom in your second trimester abd didn’t once consider this might be an issue?! I’m not even talking about the nanny - just you, the spouse and the baby.

[Anonymous]

You have two choices:

1. Break your lease. Even if you have one parent WFH and one of you doesn't work, you can't have the baby and the caretaker and WFH adult in the same room.

2. Another childcare arrangement such as daycare or nannyshare in someone else's home.

[Anonymous]

This will not work.

[Anonymous]

Money for a nanny is no object when you cram everyone into one little room all day!

[Anonymous]

Landlord here. Ask them to break your lease. Right now, there is a moratorium on evictions and many landlord-tenant courts are closed anyway. The landlord probably knows this. In other words, you could just stop paying and they cant' evict you, so might as well have you leave early and not have to deal with evicting you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't say no fast enough or loud enough. Especially in the winter. Especially during a pandemic. The nanny can't go anywhere.

You or your husband need to take off work for half a year.

Even if one person takes off work, that doesn't solve the space issue with them all being crammed in the same room as the WFH spouse.

[Anonymous]

OP- thanks to all for confirming this is impossible. Likely will break the lease (it was a 2 yr lease). We were planning to move to a 2br so baby and nanny have their own room. Would this work? This is NYC not dc hence the small spaces

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't say no fast enough or loud enough. Especially in the winter. Especially during a pandemic. The nanny can't go anywhere.

You or your husband need to take off work for half a year.

Even if one person takes off work, that doesn't solve the space issue with them all being crammed in the same room as the WFH spouse.

It's one fewer adult in the home, and one fewer adult trying to concentrate on a conference call where they're presenting, than if there was a nanny and two parents working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- thanks to all for confirming this is impossible. Likely will break the lease (it was a 2 yr lease). We were planning to move to a 2br so baby and nanny have their own room. Would this work? This is NYC not dc hence the small spaces

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- thanks to all for confirming this is impossible. Likely will break the lease (it was a 2 yr lease). We were planning to move to a 2br so baby and nanny have their own room. Would this work? This is NYC not dc hence the small spaces

It is honestly still not an ideal work situation and I can't imagine the good nannies out there wanting that job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- thanks to all for confirming this is impossible. Likely will break the lease (it was a 2 yr lease). We were planning to move to a 2br so baby and nanny have their own room. Would this work? This is NYC not dc hence the small spaces

Is this a live-in nanny?

I’d prioritize:

- A 2-bedroom with a separate den if possible.
- A ground floor unit with a private terrace or small outdoor space that the nanny can take the kid outside in without going to a park

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- thanks to all for confirming this is impossible. Likely will break the lease (it was a 2 yr lease). We were planning to move to a 2br so baby and nanny have their own room. Would this work? This is NYC not dc hence the small spaces

It is honestly still not an ideal work situation and I can't imagine the good nannies out there wanting that job.

Isn’t this par for the course for any nanny of working parents in Manhattan now though?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- thanks to all for confirming this is impossible. Likely will break the lease (it was a 2 yr lease). We were planning to move to a 2br so baby and nanny have their own room. Would this work? This is NYC not dc hence the small spaces

I think that works IF you and your husband can semi-comfortably work together in your bedroom, which I think only works if 1) you are both rarely on calls or 2) one of you is basically never on calls and can wear earplugs all day while the other is on calls. That leaves the nanny with the baby the run of the rest of the apartment - kitchen, living room, and baby's room. That should be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- thanks to all for confirming this is impossible. Likely will break the lease (it was a 2 yr lease). We were planning to move to a 2br so baby and nanny have their own room. Would this work? This is NYC not dc hence the small spaces

It is honestly still not an ideal work situation and I can't imagine the good nannies out there wanting that job.

Isn’t this par for the course for any nanny of working parents in Manhattan now though?

Umm no. Most nannies aren’t living in the same bedroom as the child. They have their own - sometimes attached.