Nanny in 1br apartment with both parents WFH

[Anonymous]

DH and I will be wfh once my maternity leave ends in a few weeks. We live in a small 1br apartment- the bedroom is tiny and only fits a crib and our bed (no space for walking). Would a nanny work with this arrangement? It would involve all 3 adults plus baby in the living room almost all day. Cost is not an issue and we are willing to pay, but it’s not an ideal living situation. We are moving when our lease comes up in Sept but will need a nanny before that. We are not considering daycare.

[Anonymous]

I am sure you can find some nanny to take the job at the right price but it's so silly and unrealistic. You are now adding a third adult to your work environment and a baby who will become increasingly more alert and awake during the day.

[Anonymous]

Plus - think about the nanny. Would you want to work in such conditions? I wouldn't - how awkward.

[Anonymous]

It's just an absurd set of working conditions and not healthy for anyone. I think you at the very least need to consider a nannyshare.

[Anonymous]

No, this will absolutely not work. Time to think of other options.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It will be close to impossible and very hard to focus for you or the baby. The baby will see you and not understand why you are not paying attention to them.

[Anonymous]

Wait, the nanny and baby plus the two of you WFH are all going to be in the living room of your 1BR ALL DAY together? That sounds horrible. Why not just do daycare or find a nannyshare?

[Anonymous]

"We are not considering daycare but we are considering this much worse arrangement for all involved."

[Anonymous]

If cost is not an issue, break your lease and move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am sure you can find some nanny to take the job at the right price but it's so silly and unrealistic. You are now adding a third adult to your work environment and a baby who will become increasingly more alert and awake during the day.

+1. You’ll find someone. But this plan is going to result in 3 unhappy adults and one unhappy baby.

[Anonymous]

I can't say no fast enough or loud enough. Especially in the winter. Especially during a pandemic. The nanny can't go anywhere.

You or your husband need to take off work for half a year.

[Anonymous]

If cost is not an issue WTF do you have 3 people including a newborn in a 1BR until Sept? And no - you can’t WFH with the nanny and screaming baby a foot away in the living room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If cost is not an issue WTF do you have 3 people including a newborn in a 1BR until Sept? And no - you can’t WFH with the nanny and screaming baby a foot away in the living room.

This. If coat is not an issue break your lease now and pay the fee and move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't say no fast enough or loud enough. Especially in the winter. Especially during a pandemic. The nanny can't go anywhere.

You or your husband need to take off work for half a year.

Or move.

[Anonymous]

I always had nannies, but this seems unworkable as a practical matter. I would think about trying to find one of the following: a small in-home daycare that will provide very high touch care for your baby, but in their space (for the amount you would have to pay for the nanny you might be able to even get a special agreement on how many other babies with your caregiver); a nanny share that is hosted by the other family at least until September (again if you agree to pay extra you may be able to work this out); a nanny who lives nearby and you feel comfortable with who could do at least some of the sitting at her home/apartment; at least one if not both of the grownups rent an office space and work there while the nanny has the apartment (or at least work in the bedroom while nanny has living room/kitchen/bathroom.