Why do guys cheat with women opposite from the ones they date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I having deja vu it feels like this thread keeps coming up a lot. Does the op hate fat women?

OP is probably pretty miserable and the only thing she has on the AP is that the AP ins't even fat, but weighs like 15 lbs more than OP.

Well- she has personal integrity and morals and isn’t a dirty liar, scumbag so that alone should be enough for her...no matter how much dumber, uglier and unsuccessful the AP is. She isn’t a whore like AP settling for scraps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I having deja vu it feels like this thread keeps coming up a lot. Does the op hate fat women?

OP is probably pretty miserable and the only thing she has on the AP is that the AP ins't even fat, but weighs like 15 lbs more than OP.

Well- she has personal integrity and morals and isn’t a dirty liar, scumbag so that alone should be enough for her...no matter how much dumber, uglier and unsuccessful the AP is. She isn’t a whore like AP settling for scraps.

+2 She doesn’t have to walk around looking over her shoulder or worrying that her kids or family will find out she’s a nasty whore.
It has to be mentally taxing living a lie. Lying to society about who you really are...how low.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, from what I've seen, if the man is still as attractive as he was when he met the wife, he cheats with someone very similar to the wife in looks, maybe even better looking. Sorry to burst your bubble, OP.

I’ve never found that to be the case with men. Women APs get the opportunity to finally screw men that never would have found them worthy to date or marry because they are a secret that never sees the light of day or that they have to be seen in public with or have conversation with for life. It’s why women that are solid 5s or below and finally f@ck an 8-10 and why only less than 2% of these men ever marry them. And, if they do divorce, they dump the AP and find someone better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I having deja vu it feels like this thread keeps coming up a lot. Does the op hate fat women?

OP is probably pretty miserable and the only thing she has on the AP is that the AP ins't even fat, but weighs like 15 lbs more than OP.

Well- she has personal integrity and morals and isn’t a dirty liar, scumbag so that alone should be enough for her...no matter how much dumber, uglier and unsuccessful the AP is. She isn’t a whore like AP settling for scraps.

How do you know? Because she didn't get caught lol
I have known a few people over the years who aired out their husbands dirty laundry but had secret hookups.

[Anonymous]

I can't speak for cheaters but I'm in an open marriage so I have dated while being married, though not since COVID. My last girlfriend was cute but heavier and relatively unsuccessful (several part time jobs). I liked her a lot, but by DCUM standards she'd get described the way people are talking about APs here. I think she felt like she had fewer options, was grateful for any kind of positive attention, and so she was more likely to wind up with a married guy with a kid. It really does just narrow your options.

(My ex was great though and I hope she's found someone)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't speak for cheaters but I'm in an open marriage so I have dated while being married, though not since COVID. My last girlfriend was cute but heavier and relatively unsuccessful (several part time jobs). I liked her a lot, but by DCUM standards she'd get described the way people are talking about APs here. I think she felt like she had fewer options, was grateful for any kind of positive attention, and so she was more likely to wind up with a married guy with a kid. It really does just narrow your options.

(My ex was great though and I hope she's found someone)

Well she didn’t “end up” with a married guy with a kid, now did she? He didn’t leave his wife for her, correct? She’s probably too old to land someone without looks and/or means to support herself/successful career. Her options are severely limited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't speak for cheaters but I'm in an open marriage so I have dated while being married, though not since COVID. My last girlfriend was cute but heavier and relatively unsuccessful (several part time jobs). I liked her a lot, but by DCUM standards she'd get described the way people are talking about APs here. I think she felt like she had fewer options, was grateful for any kind of positive attention, and so she was more likely to wind up with a married guy with a kid. It really does just narrow your options.

(My ex was great though and I hope she's found someone)

Well she didn’t “end up” with a married guy with a kid, now did she? He didn’t leave his wife for her, correct? She’s probably too old to land someone without looks and/or means to support herself/successful career. Her options are severely limited.

Why would a married guy with a kid even be an option in the first place? Talk about sinking low.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, from what I've seen, if the man is still as attractive as he was when he met the wife, he cheats with someone very similar to the wife in looks, maybe even better looking. Sorry to burst your bubble, OP.

I’ve never found that to be the case with men. Women APs get the opportunity to finally screw men that never would have found them worthy to date or marry because they are a secret that never sees the light of day or that they have to be seen in public with or have conversation with for life. It’s why women that are solid 5s or below and finally f@ck an 8-10 and why only less than 2% of these men ever marry them. And, if they do divorce, they dump the AP and find someone better.

It’s the case of the ugly girls getting back at the cute, successful ones by screwing their husbands. There’s a sickness and decades of resentment for that type of woman behind it. It’s often not about the man in these types of situations...only in the sense that they could never land a man like that if he were single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't speak for cheaters but I'm in an open marriage so I have dated while being married, though not since COVID. My last girlfriend was cute but heavier and relatively unsuccessful (several part time jobs). I liked her a lot, but by DCUM standards she'd get described the way people are talking about APs here. I think she felt like she had fewer options, was grateful for any kind of positive attention, and so she was more likely to wind up with a married guy with a kid. It really does just narrow your options.

(My ex was great though and I hope she's found someone)

Well she didn’t “end up” with a married guy with a kid, now did she? He didn’t leave his wife for her, correct? She’s probably too old to land someone without looks and/or means to support herself/successful career. Her options are severely limited.

Why would a married guy with a kid even be an option in the first place? Talk about sinking low.

She liked me? I mean it's a weird situation for sure, but she dated me for the same reason anyone dates anyone. We split up because she couldn't actually handle my being married, but thought she could.

My overall point was that, yes, we were both people with fewer options than a lot of people which helped us get together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, from what I've seen, if the man is still as attractive as he was when he met the wife, he cheats with someone very similar to the wife in looks, maybe even better looking. Sorry to burst your bubble, OP.

I’ve never found that to be the case with men. Women APs get the opportunity to finally screw men that never would have found them worthy to date or marry because they are a secret that never sees the light of day or that they have to be seen in public with or have conversation with for life. It’s why women that are solid 5s or below and finally f@ck an 8-10 and why only less than 2% of these men ever marry them. And, if they do divorce, they dump the AP and find someone better.

It’s the case of the ugly girls getting back at the cute, successful ones by screwing their husbands. There’s a sickness and decades of resentment for that type of woman behind it. It’s often not about the man in these types of situations...only in the sense that they could never land a man like that if he were single.

My married friend bragged about the hot married guy she was seeing. I saw a photo of his wife—positively stunning and she was very successful. I knew he would never leave her and was using my friend. He pretty much told her that too. She was looking for an exit affair and thought she could change his mind. Stupid. It blew up dramatically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People "affair down."

I sure didn't. I had 15 APs over a decade and I never lowered the bar for physical attraction. If I did, so what? The scorned wife is going to hate the AP and want to pick her apart so I get that. But to brand these women as ugly and desperate is just sad. I was with women I'd consider way out of my league and wealthier, even if it was their husband's wealth. Not that I cared. We got together to make up for the sex that was lacking. It's really pretty simple. None of them wanted me for anything more or wanted to divorce, although a few did in later years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, from what I've seen, if the man is still as attractive as he was when he met the wife, he cheats with someone very similar to the wife in looks, maybe even better looking. Sorry to burst your bubble, OP.

I’ve never found that to be the case with men. Women APs get the opportunity to finally screw men that never would have found them worthy to date or marry because they are a secret that never sees the light of day or that they have to be seen in public with or have conversation with for life. It’s why women that are solid 5s or below and finally f@ck an 8-10 and why only less than 2% of these men ever marry them. And, if they do divorce, they dump the AP and find someone better.

It’s the case of the ugly girls getting back at the cute, successful ones by screwing their husbands. There’s a sickness and decades of resentment for that type of woman behind it. It’s often not about the man in these types of situations...only in the sense that they could never land a man like that if he were single.

"land a man like that". Seriously that husband is a low life cheater, nothing sacred. He's as low as the AP and its the wife that needs to wonder why she missed the red flags. Hopefully she can divorce him, but many are stuck by kids and finances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People "affair down."

I sure didn't. I had 15 APs over a decade and I never lowered the bar for physical attraction. If I did, so what? The scorned wife is going to hate the AP and want to pick her apart so I get that. But to brand these women as ugly and desperate is just sad. I was with women I'd consider way out of my league and wealthier, even if it was their husband's wealth. Not that I cared. We got together to make up for the sex that was lacking. It's really pretty simple. None of them wanted me for anything more or wanted to divorce, although a few did in later years.

Not all wives are scorned. Most women know they are with a cheater, they've decided to stay because of their lifestyle. Chances are the husband was dead to them years ago. Your wife may be a little smarter than you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, from what I've seen, if the man is still as attractive as he was when he met the wife, he cheats with someone very similar to the wife in looks, maybe even better looking. Sorry to burst your bubble, OP.

I’ve never found that to be the case with men. Women APs get the opportunity to finally screw men that never would have found them worthy to date or marry because they are a secret that never sees the light of day or that they have to be seen in public with or have conversation with for life. It’s why women that are solid 5s or below and finally f@ck an 8-10 and why only less than 2% of these men ever marry them. And, if they do divorce, they dump the AP and find someone better.

It’s the case of the ugly girls getting back at the cute, successful ones by screwing their husbands. There’s a sickness and decades of resentment for that type of woman behind it. It’s often not about the man in these types of situations...only in the sense that they could never land a man like that if he were single.

"land a man like that". Seriously that husband is a low life cheater, nothing sacred. He's as low as the AP and its the wife that needs to wonder why she missed the red flags. Hopefully she can divorce him, but many are stuck by kids and finances.

Many more let the losers have at it! It’s called having financial independence and a career. Cheaters deserve one another. Once they see they are going to have to support a middle aged loser into their retirement..and she’s really not who she pretended to be during the affair...that move on again. They don’t trust a cheater/each other.

[Anonymous]

Or it ends up working out with the ap because the ap knows exactly who she's with. In our situation as soon as we decided to be together I suggested an open relationship. Technically we had been in one for years anyway. It works for us. If he's away on business and I've texted him he will text me back immediately if he's not available and that's fine. I'm sleeping with other people doesn't bother me at all. My rule is don't bring me back any babies or diseases.