May-September Relationships

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Oh - and my parents met in DC when they worked for the same consulting firm back in 1970.

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Anonymous wrote:What does this have to do with May or September? Is the implication a summer fling? A few threads have unrelated titles this seems like another one.

Haha I don't care about the context of this thread. Just scrolling to find out the May-September thing

Same. I really do think that people at least in the DC area have some seasonal dating. Spring time is full of energy! Everyone is excited after a long winter. Then once you get into Fall, the weather changes again, holidays come up, and things get quiet. There is probably a study on this phenomenon!

It’s called cuffing season

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Anonymous wrote:The difference is that women tend to live longer.

the difference is that women are selling their bodies in exchange for comfort.

so they get a better deal by selling to older men.

story as old as time

Which doesn't make it either good or bad. If both people know what they are doing and why they are doing it, it is up to them what sort of deal they make.

Gee. I don't know. I don't think I'd want to be married to somebody that only wanted my $ (not love or affection) or somebody that only wanted to screw me (and pay me off so he didn't have to spend time with me). Sounds like Trump's marriages. They really looked like they were having a great time . Hefner and his weirdo relationships and Ana Nicole Smith with the guy that was basically brain dead.

That's fine for you. My point is that people are free to make whatever "deal" they like. And remember, just because practical concerns prominently enter the picture that does not mean that two people can't grow to love each other as well. It has worked out splendidly for me. I was 50 when I made the acquaintance of a teenage young lady in an Asian land. I courted her and we were married 2 1/2 years later. We joked about her being my "mail order bride." That was 23 years ago, and we have had a splendid, mutually loving marriage with a son who will soon be graduating college with a biomedical engineering degree.

You were the typical 50-year old American on an Asian sex vacation and married a teenage virgin from there. What could a 50-year old man want with a teenager? I have read about those yours. So you are 73 and she’s 38 now?

Your comment is so silly as to not warrant a serious reply. I'll do you the favor anyway. You did get one thing right - I sought (successfully) a virgin bride. What two people want with each other is up to them. A third party who has not met either of them is in no position to offer an opinion on the subject. You only make yourself look ridiculous when you do so. No, I wasn't on a "sex vacation". The young lady initiated our communication by placing an add for a foreign pen pal. I answered the add; she liked my response, and things took off from there. See how silly you made yourself look?

Oh my God, this is so gross. I feel so badly for your son. He probably avoids telling people about you guys or bringing people home. If he doesn’t, then I’m concerned about him as well. I take it you are a white guy? Uuuuuuuuuuh... so gross.

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Half your age plus seven years. Works every time and works for both men and women. 80 year old dating a 47 year old? Fine. 50 year old dating a 20 year old? Gross.
I’m a 48 year old woman...anything under 31 would be gross.

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Anonymous wrote:The difference is that women tend to live longer.

the difference is that women are selling their bodies in exchange for comfort.

so they get a better deal by selling to older men.

story as old as time

Which doesn't make it either good or bad. If both people know what they are doing and why they are doing it, it is up to them what sort of deal they make.

Gee. I don't know. I don't think I'd want to be married to somebody that only wanted my $ (not love or affection) or somebody that only wanted to screw me (and pay me off so he didn't have to spend time with me). Sounds like Trump's marriages. They really looked like they were having a great time . Hefner and his weirdo relationships and Ana Nicole Smith with the guy that was basically brain dead.

That's fine for you. My point is that people are free to make whatever "deal" they like. And remember, just because practical concerns prominently enter the picture that does not mean that two people can't grow to love each other as well. It has worked out splendidly for me. I was 50 when I made the acquaintance of a teenage young lady in an Asian land. I courted her and we were married 2 1/2 years later. We joked about her being my "mail order bride." That was 23 years ago, and we have had a splendid, mutually loving marriage with a son who will soon be graduating college with a biomedical engineering degree.

You were the typical 50-year old American on an Asian sex vacation and married a teenage virgin from there. What could a 50-year old man want with a teenager? I have read about those yours. So you are 73 and she’s 38 now?

Your comment is so silly as to not warrant a serious reply. I'll do you the favor anyway. You did get one thing right - I sought (successfully) a virgin bride. What two people want with each other is up to them. A third party who has not met either of them is in no position to offer an opinion on the subject. You only make yourself look ridiculous when you do so. No, I wasn't on a "sex vacation". The young lady initiated our communication by placing an add for a foreign pen pal. I answered the add; she liked my response, and things took off from there. See how silly you made yourself look?

NP, and i cannot tell whether this is sarcasm or not.

DP, me neither. There is nothing not creepy or "silly" about passing judgement about a 50 year old guy looking for a teen "virgin bride." It's exploitative and gross, no matter how you want to spin it. I mean, congrats it works, but that doesn't make it any less grossly transactional, and I feel for women who are in such a position they need to engage in this kind of relationship to survive.

Also, "penpal" my ass. This is a tale as old as time.

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Anonymous wrote:The difference is that women tend to live longer.

the difference is that women are selling their bodies in exchange for comfort.

so they get a better deal by selling to older men.

story as old as time

Which doesn't make it either good or bad. If both people know what they are doing and why they are doing it, it is up to them what sort of deal they make.

Gee. I don't know. I don't think I'd want to be married to somebody that only wanted my $ (not love or affection) or somebody that only wanted to screw me (and pay me off so he didn't have to spend time with me). Sounds like Trump's marriages. They really looked like they were having a great time . Hefner and his weirdo relationships and Ana Nicole Smith with the guy that was basically brain dead.

That's fine for you. My point is that people are free to make whatever "deal" they like. And remember, just because practical concerns prominently enter the picture that does not mean that two people can't grow to love each other as well. It has worked out splendidly for me. I was 50 when I made the acquaintance of a teenage young lady in an Asian land. I courted her and we were married 2 1/2 years later. We joked about her being my "mail order bride." That was 23 years ago, and we have had a splendid, mutually loving marriage with a son who will soon be graduating college with a biomedical engineering degree.

I'm pretty sure this is the old man I like to refer to as the "Gal Poster" who constantly uses that term or something like "Young Lady" who likes to shit all over DCUM threads and call unmarried 26 year old women barren cat lady spinsters. The writing style and relationship philosophy tracks.

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Anonymous wrote:The difference is that women tend to live longer.

the difference is that women are selling their bodies in exchange for comfort.

so they get a better deal by selling to older men.

story as old as time

Which doesn't make it either good or bad. If both people know what they are doing and why they are doing it, it is up to them what sort of deal they make.

Gee. I don't know. I don't think I'd want to be married to somebody that only wanted my $ (not love or affection) or somebody that only wanted to screw me (and pay me off so he didn't have to spend time with me). Sounds like Trump's marriages. They really looked like they were having a great time . Hefner and his weirdo relationships and Ana Nicole Smith with the guy that was basically brain dead.

That's fine for you. My point is that people are free to make whatever "deal" they like. And remember, just because practical concerns prominently enter the picture that does not mean that two people can't grow to love each other as well. It has worked out splendidly for me. I was 50 when I made the acquaintance of a teenage young lady in an Asian land. I courted her and we were married 2 1/2 years later. We joked about her being my "mail order bride." That was 23 years ago, and we have had a splendid, mutually loving marriage with a son who will soon be graduating college with a biomedical engineering degree.

You were the typical 50-year old American on an Asian sex vacation and married a teenage virgin from there. What could a 50-year old man want with a teenager? I have read about those yours. So you are 73 and she’s 38 now?

Your comment is so silly as to not warrant a serious reply. I'll do you the favor anyway. You did get one thing right - I sought (successfully) a virgin bride. What two people want with each other is up to them. A third party who has not met either of them is in no position to offer an opinion on the subject. You only make yourself look ridiculous when you do so. No, I wasn't on a "sex vacation". The young lady initiated our communication by placing an add for a foreign pen pal. I answered the add; she liked my response, and things took off from there. See how silly you made yourself look?

Oh my God, this is so gross. I feel so badly for your son. He probably avoids telling people about you guys or bringing people home. If he doesn’t, then I’m concerned about him as well. I take it you are a white guy? Uuuuuuuuuuh... so gross.

I find your comments, plus those that followed them, a combination of pathetic and amusing. They reflect an ageist bigotry which is no better than racist or ethnic bigotry. When I was a young man it was a common occurrence for people with your mindset to say "gross", "disgusting", etc. when they saw an interracial couple. You are behaving in an analogous manner where the difference between the two people is age instead of race. What folks like you can't get into your prejudiced minds is that what other people decide in the way of a suitable relationship is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. If it works for them, that is all that matters.

My son is proud of both of his parents and of their solid marriage - he has made unsolicited comments to this effect - so please be "concerned" about him. I'm sure he'll appreciate that.

Yes, I'm a white guy. I won't comment on what the significance of this fact for you may imply.

For the other commentator: yes, there were such things as pen pals prior to the rise of the Facebook/Twitter, etc. age, and long lasting relationships often started out that way. You date yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:The difference is that women tend to live longer.

the difference is that women are selling their bodies in exchange for comfort.

so they get a better deal by selling to older men.

story as old as time

Which doesn't make it either good or bad. If both people know what they are doing and why they are doing it, it is up to them what sort of deal they make.

Gee. I don't know. I don't think I'd want to be married to somebody that only wanted my $ (not love or affection) or somebody that only wanted to screw me (and pay me off so he didn't have to spend time with me). Sounds like Trump's marriages. They really looked like they were having a great time . Hefner and his weirdo relationships and Ana Nicole Smith with the guy that was basically brain dead.

That's fine for you. My point is that people are free to make whatever "deal" they like. And remember, just because practical concerns prominently enter the picture that does not mean that two people can't grow to love each other as well. It has worked out splendidly for me. I was 50 when I made the acquaintance of a teenage young lady in an Asian land. I courted her and we were married 2 1/2 years later. We joked about her being my "mail order bride." That was 23 years ago, and we have had a splendid, mutually loving marriage with a son who will soon be graduating college with a biomedical engineering degree.

You were the typical 50-year old American on an Asian sex vacation and married a teenage virgin from there. What could a 50-year old man want with a teenager? I have read about those yours. So you are 73 and she’s 38 now?

Your comment is so silly as to not warrant a serious reply. I'll do you the favor anyway. You did get one thing right - I sought (successfully) a virgin bride. What two people want with each other is up to them. A third party who has not met either of them is in no position to offer an opinion on the subject. You only make yourself look ridiculous when you do so. No, I wasn't on a "sex vacation". The young lady initiated our communication by placing an add for a foreign pen pal. I answered the add; she liked my response, and things took off from there. See how silly you made yourself look?

Oh my God, this is so gross. I feel so badly for your son. He probably avoids telling people about you guys or bringing people home. If he doesn’t, then I’m concerned about him as well. I take it you are a white guy? Uuuuuuuuuuh... so gross.

I find your comments, plus those that followed them, a combination of pathetic and amusing. They reflect an ageist bigotry which is no better than racist or ethnic bigotry. When I was a young man it was a common occurrence for people with your mindset to say "gross", "disgusting", etc. when they saw an interracial couple. You are behaving in an analogous manner where the difference between the two people is age instead of race. What folks like you can't get into your prejudiced minds is that what other people decide in the way of a suitable relationship is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. If it works for them, that is all that matters.

My son is proud of both of his parents and of their solid marriage - he has made unsolicited comments to this effect - so please be "concerned" about him. I'm sure he'll appreciate that.

Yes, I'm a white guy. I won't comment on what the significance of this fact for you may imply.

For the other commentator: yes, there were such things as pen pals prior to the rise of the Facebook/Twitter, etc. age, and long lasting relationships often started out that way. You date yourself.

Dude, you're gross as f#ck.

Sincerely,

39 year-old married white man

[Anonymous]

Thank you for your well thought out and courteous reply. Please feel free to make further contributions of this caliber.
You add so much of value to the discussion.

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Anonymous wrote:The difference is that women tend to live longer.

the difference is that women are selling their bodies in exchange for comfort.

so they get a better deal by selling to older men.

story as old as time

Which doesn't make it either good or bad. If both people know what they are doing and why they are doing it, it is up to them what sort of deal they make.

Gee. I don't know. I don't think I'd want to be married to somebody that only wanted my $ (not love or affection) or somebody that only wanted to screw me (and pay me off so he didn't have to spend time with me). Sounds like Trump's marriages. They really looked like they were having a great time . Hefner and his weirdo relationships and Ana Nicole Smith with the guy that was basically brain dead.

That's fine for you. My point is that people are free to make whatever "deal" they like. And remember, just because practical concerns prominently enter the picture that does not mean that two people can't grow to love each other as well. It has worked out splendidly for me. I was 50 when I made the acquaintance of a teenage young lady in an Asian land. I courted her and we were married 2 1/2 years later. We joked about her being my "mail order bride." That was 23 years ago, and we have had a splendid, mutually loving marriage with a son who will soon be graduating college with a biomedical engineering degree.

You were the typical 50-year old American on an Asian sex vacation and married a teenage virgin from there. What could a 50-year old man want with a teenager? I have read about those yours. So you are 73 and she’s 38 now?

Your comment is so silly as to not warrant a serious reply. I'll do you the favor anyway. You did get one thing right - I sought (successfully) a virgin bride. What two people want with each other is up to them. A third party who has not met either of them is in no position to offer an opinion on the subject. You only make yourself look ridiculous when you do so. No, I wasn't on a "sex vacation". The young lady initiated our communication by placing an add for a foreign pen pal. I answered the add; she liked my response, and things took off from there. See how silly you made yourself look?

Oh my God, this is so gross. I feel so badly for your son. He probably avoids telling people about you guys or bringing people home. If he doesn’t, then I’m concerned about him as well. I take it you are a white guy? Uuuuuuuuuuh... so gross.

I'm 100% sure she's waiting for him to die. She'll be free at max 45 y/o, maybe sooner if she's lucky. With a son out of the house, she'll start dating as soon as her H goes downhill, which is soon. She'll introduce her "new" boyfriend to the world tactfully, one year after her H's death. The boyfriend is a nice, younger (in his 50s) Asian man she met at church. They will have a spiritual ceremony so she can keep her health and survivor benefits from the old man, especially if he has military benefits.

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Anonymous wrote:The difference is that women tend to live longer.

the difference is that women are selling their bodies in exchange for comfort.

so they get a better deal by selling to older men.

story as old as time

Which doesn't make it either good or bad. If both people know what they are doing and why they are doing it, it is up to them what sort of deal they make.

Gee. I don't know. I don't think I'd want to be married to somebody that only wanted my $ (not love or affection) or somebody that only wanted to screw me (and pay me off so he didn't have to spend time with me). Sounds like Trump's marriages. They really looked like they were having a great time . Hefner and his weirdo relationships and Ana Nicole Smith with the guy that was basically brain dead.

That's fine for you. My point is that people are free to make whatever "deal" they like. And remember, just because practical concerns prominently enter the picture that does not mean that two people can't grow to love each other as well. It has worked out splendidly for me. I was 50 when I made the acquaintance of a teenage young lady in an Asian land. I courted her and we were married 2 1/2 years later. We joked about her being my "mail order bride." That was 23 years ago, and we have had a splendid, mutually loving marriage with a son who will soon be graduating college with a biomedical engineering degree.

You were the typical 50-year old American on an Asian sex vacation and married a teenage virgin from there. What could a 50-year old man want with a teenager? I have read about those yours. So you are 73 and she’s 38 now?

Your comment is so silly as to not warrant a serious reply. I'll do you the favor anyway. You did get one thing right - I sought (successfully) a virgin bride. What two people want with each other is up to them. A third party who has not met either of them is in no position to offer an opinion on the subject. You only make yourself look ridiculous when you do so. No, I wasn't on a "sex vacation". The young lady initiated our communication by placing an add for a foreign pen pal. I answered the add; she liked my response, and things took off from there. See how silly you made yourself look?

Oh my God, this is so gross. I feel so badly for your son. He probably avoids telling people about you guys or bringing people home. If he doesn’t, then I’m concerned about him as well. I take it you are a white guy? Uuuuuuuuuuh... so gross.

I find your comments, plus those that followed them, a combination of pathetic and amusing. They reflect an ageist bigotry which is no better than racist or ethnic bigotry. When I was a young man it was a common occurrence for people with your mindset to say "gross", "disgusting", etc. when they saw an interracial couple. You are behaving in an analogous manner where the difference between the two people is age instead of race. What folks like you can't get into your prejudiced minds is that what other people decide in the way of a suitable relationship is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. If it works for them, that is all that matters.

My son is proud of both of his parents and of their solid marriage - he has made unsolicited comments to this effect - so please be "concerned" about him. I'm sure he'll appreciate that.

Yes, I'm a white guy. I won't comment on what the significance of this fact for you may imply.

For the other commentator: yes, there were such things as pen pals prior to the rise of the Facebook/Twitter, etc. age, and long lasting relationships often started out that way. You date yourself.

Dude, you're gross as f#ck.

Sincerely,

39 year-old married white man

And did your wife also get a virgin spouse? No? I’m shocked, shocked to find a double standard in this institution ::

No ones saying you’re creepy because of your age. They’re saying you’re creepy because of your behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:The difference is that women tend to live longer.

the difference is that women are selling their bodies in exchange for comfort.

so they get a better deal by selling to older men.

story as old as time

Which doesn't make it either good or bad. If both people know what they are doing and why they are doing it, it is up to them what sort of deal they make.

Gee. I don't know. I don't think I'd want to be married to somebody that only wanted my $ (not love or affection) or somebody that only wanted to screw me (and pay me off so he didn't have to spend time with me). Sounds like Trump's marriages. They really looked like they were having a great time . Hefner and his weirdo relationships and Ana Nicole Smith with the guy that was basically brain dead.

That's fine for you. My point is that people are free to make whatever "deal" they like. And remember, just because practical concerns prominently enter the picture that does not mean that two people can't grow to love each other as well. It has worked out splendidly for me. I was 50 when I made the acquaintance of a teenage young lady in an Asian land. I courted her and we were married 2 1/2 years later. We joked about her being my "mail order bride." That was 23 years ago, and we have had a splendid, mutually loving marriage with a son who will soon be graduating college with a biomedical engineering degree.

You were the typical 50-year old American on an Asian sex vacation and married a teenage virgin from there. What could a 50-year old man want with a teenager? I have read about those yours. So you are 73 and she’s 38 now?

Your comment is so silly as to not warrant a serious reply. I'll do you the favor anyway. You did get one thing right - I sought (successfully) a virgin bride. What two people want with each other is up to them. A third party who has not met either of them is in no position to offer an opinion on the subject. You only make yourself look ridiculous when you do so. No, I wasn't on a "sex vacation". The young lady initiated our communication by placing an add for a foreign pen pal. I answered the add; she liked my response, and things took off from there. See how silly you made yourself look?

Oh my God, this is so gross. I feel so badly for your son. He probably avoids telling people about you guys or bringing people home. If he doesn’t, then I’m concerned about him as well. I take it you are a white guy? Uuuuuuuuuuh... so gross.

I find your comments, plus those that followed them, a combination of pathetic and amusing. They reflect an ageist bigotry which is no better than racist or ethnic bigotry. When I was a young man it was a common occurrence for people with your mindset to say "gross", "disgusting", etc. when they saw an interracial couple. You are behaving in an analogous manner where the difference between the two people is age instead of race. What folks like you can't get into your prejudiced minds is that what other people decide in the way of a suitable relationship is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. If it works for them, that is all that matters.

My son is proud of both of his parents and of their solid marriage - he has made unsolicited comments to this effect - so please be "concerned" about him. I'm sure he'll appreciate that.

Yes, I'm a white guy. I won't comment on what the significance of this fact for you may imply.

For the other commentator: yes, there were such things as pen pals prior to the rise of the Facebook/Twitter, etc. age, and long lasting relationships often started out that way. You date yourself.

Dude, you're gross as f#ck.

Sincerely,

39 year-old married white man

And did your wife also get a virgin spouse? No? I’m shocked, shocked to find a double standard in this institution ::

No ones saying you’re creepy because of your age. They’re saying you’re creepy because of your behavior.

People are totally saying he is creepy because of his age. It really riles some people up. It is fascinating how the age question provokes so much emotion and angst, even among anonymous strangers.

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Anonymous wrote:The difference is that women tend to live longer.

the difference is that women are selling their bodies in exchange for comfort.

so they get a better deal by selling to older men.

story as old as time

Which doesn't make it either good or bad. If both people know what they are doing and why they are doing it, it is up to them what sort of deal they make.

Gee. I don't know. I don't think I'd want to be married to somebody that only wanted my $ (not love or affection) or somebody that only wanted to screw me (and pay me off so he didn't have to spend time with me). Sounds like Trump's marriages. They really looked like they were having a great time . Hefner and his weirdo relationships and Ana Nicole Smith with the guy that was basically brain dead.

That's fine for you. My point is that people are free to make whatever "deal" they like. And remember, just because practical concerns prominently enter the picture that does not mean that two people can't grow to love each other as well. It has worked out splendidly for me. I was 50 when I made the acquaintance of a teenage young lady in an Asian land. I courted her and we were married 2 1/2 years later. We joked about her being my "mail order bride." That was 23 years ago, and we have had a splendid, mutually loving marriage with a son who will soon be graduating college with a biomedical engineering degree.

You were the typical 50-year old American on an Asian sex vacation and married a teenage virgin from there. What could a 50-year old man want with a teenager? I have read about those yours. So you are 73 and she’s 38 now?

Your comment is so silly as to not warrant a serious reply. I'll do you the favor anyway. You did get one thing right - I sought (successfully) a virgin bride. What two people want with each other is up to them. A third party who has not met either of them is in no position to offer an opinion on the subject. You only make yourself look ridiculous when you do so. No, I wasn't on a "sex vacation". The young lady initiated our communication by placing an add for a foreign pen pal. I answered the add; she liked my response, and things took off from there. See how silly you made yourself look?

Oh my God, this is so gross. I feel so badly for your son. He probably avoids telling people about you guys or bringing people home. If he doesn’t, then I’m concerned about him as well. I take it you are a white guy? Uuuuuuuuuuh... so gross.

I find your comments, plus those that followed them, a combination of pathetic and amusing. They reflect an ageist bigotry which is no better than racist or ethnic bigotry. When I was a young man it was a common occurrence for people with your mindset to say "gross", "disgusting", etc. when they saw an interracial couple. You are behaving in an analogous manner where the difference between the two people is age instead of race. What folks like you can't get into your prejudiced minds is that what other people decide in the way of a suitable relationship is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. If it works for them, that is all that matters.

My son is proud of both of his parents and of their solid marriage - he has made unsolicited comments to this effect - so please be "concerned" about him. I'm sure he'll appreciate that.

Yes, I'm a white guy. I won't comment on what the significance of this fact for you may imply.

For the other commentator: yes, there were such things as pen pals prior to the rise of the Facebook/Twitter, etc. age, and long lasting relationships often started out that way. You date yourself.

Dude, you're gross as f#ck.

Sincerely,

39 year-old married white man

And did your wife also get a virgin spouse? No? I’m shocked, shocked to find a double standard in this institution ::

No ones saying you’re creepy because of your age. They’re saying you’re creepy because of your behavior.

People are totally saying he is creepy because of his age. It really riles some people up. It is fascinating how the age question provokes so much emotion and angst, even among anonymous strangers.

No, if he had been 35 and started “courting” a minor I would say the same thing: the word for that is “grooming” and it’s a hallmark of child abuse.

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When I see an older woman-younger man couple (which is never in real life, and occasionally on TV) I feel sorry for the man and I view the woman as being aggressive and controlling and gross.

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Anonymous wrote:Half your age plus seven years. Works every time and works for both men and women. 80 year old dating a 47 year old? Fine. 50 year old dating a 20 year old? Gross.
I’m a 48 year old woman...anything under 31 would be gross.

It's really amazing to me how well this formula works. It fascinates me in the way of a really elegant computer program or math problem. It doesn't really break down until you get to ~9 year olds or younger (who shouldn't be dating anyway!) But, yeah, that 50 year old shouldn't be dating anyone younger than 32.