May-September Relationships

[Anonymous]

Women on this forum seem to squig out about significant age differences between older men and younger women. I’m wondering if they feel the same about relationships where the woman is significantly older or in relationships between women where one woman is significantly older. For example, my grandmother was 17 years older than her second husband. They were married for 51 years, longer than she was married to my grandfather. Sarah Paulson is 31 years younger than her partner Holland Taylor. What do you think about these circumstances? What’s the difference between these types of relationships and the more typical older man younger woman relationships?

[Anonymous]

The difference is that women tend to live longer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women on this forum seem to squig out about significant age differences between older men and younger women. I’m wondering if they feel the same about relationships where the woman is significantly older or in relationships between women where one woman is significantly older. For example, my grandmother was 17 years older than her second husband. They were married for 51 years, longer than she was married to my grandfather. Sarah Paulson is 31 years younger than her partner Holland Taylor. What do you think about these circumstances? What’s the difference between these types of relationships and the more typical older man younger woman relationships?

I feel the same way. But if you make it 51 years with anyone, mazel tov.

[Anonymous]

Because the older man, younger women variant is rooted in toxic patriarchy, objectification, and usually is the product of a "market model" for dating apps that involves young women being assessed based on their hooker poses in their Tinder profile and being willing to offer themselves for an older guy with a boat and expensive car. They guy gets a hot babe who talks about the Bachelor and he's thrilled regardless. This is not an aspirational relationship or what leads to a meaningful life for anyone.

[Anonymous]

It's just deep rooted insecurity. All else being equal, younger women are more attractive than older women and being left for a younger woman is a fear. No different than men worries about being left for a man with a bigger penis or wallet.

[Anonymous]

I think MYOB

[Anonymous]

Agree it's insecurity. Same reason some women object to porn

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because the older man, younger women variant is rooted in toxic patriarchy, objectification, and usually is the product of a "market model" for dating apps that involves young women being assessed based on their hooker poses in their Tinder profile and being willing to offer themselves for an older guy with a boat and expensive car. They guy gets a hot babe who talks about the Bachelor and he's thrilled regardless. This is not an aspirational relationship or what leads to a meaningful life for anyone.

LOL, who put you in charge? Life is inherently meaningless. Enjoy it while you're here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women on this forum seem to squig out about significant age differences between older men and younger women. I’m wondering if they feel the same about relationships where the woman is significantly older or in relationships between women where one woman is significantly older. For example, my grandmother was 17 years older than her second husband. They were married for 51 years, longer than she was married to my grandfather. Sarah Paulson is 31 years younger than her partner Holland Taylor. What do you think about these circumstances? What’s the difference between these types of relationships and the more typical older man younger woman relationships?

When is the last time you used this term, before your post? Curious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because the older man, younger women variant is rooted in toxic patriarchy, objectification, and usually is the product of a "market model" for dating apps that involves young women being assessed based on their hooker poses in their Tinder profile and being willing to offer themselves for an older guy with a boat and expensive car. They guy gets a hot babe who talks about the Bachelor and he's thrilled regardless. This is not an aspirational relationship or what leads to a meaningful life for anyone.

LOL, who put you in charge? Life is inherently meaningless. Enjoy it while you're here.

NP. Do you really believe this? Or was that sarcasm. I must ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because the older man, younger women variant is rooted in toxic patriarchy, objectification, and usually is the product of a "market model" for dating apps that involves young women being assessed based on their hooker poses in their Tinder profile and being willing to offer themselves for an older guy with a boat and expensive car. They guy gets a hot babe who talks about the Bachelor and he's thrilled regardless. This is not an aspirational relationship or what leads to a meaningful life for anyone.

LOL, who put you in charge? Life is inherently meaningless. Enjoy it while you're here.

yolo nah mean

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because the older man, younger women variant is rooted in toxic patriarchy, objectification, and usually is the product of a "market model" for dating apps that involves young women being assessed based on their hooker poses in their Tinder profile and being willing to offer themselves for an older guy with a boat and expensive car. They guy gets a hot babe who talks about the Bachelor and he's thrilled regardless. This is not an aspirational relationship or what leads to a meaningful life for anyone.

LOL, who put you in charge? Life is inherently meaningless. Enjoy it while you're here.

NP. Do you really believe this? Or was that sarcasm. I must ask.

Yes. You'll eventually die and turn into dust. Your kids will eventually die too. The human race, and all of our accomplishments, will eventually cease to exist. We are merely a tiny blip on the history of the universe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because the older man, younger women variant is rooted in toxic patriarchy, objectification, and usually is the product of a "market model" for dating apps that involves young women being assessed based on their hooker poses in their Tinder profile and being willing to offer themselves for an older guy with a boat and expensive car. They guy gets a hot babe who talks about the Bachelor and he's thrilled regardless. This is not an aspirational relationship or what leads to a meaningful life for anyone.

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree it's insecurity. Same reason some women object to porn

You’d be entirely wrong. It’s closer to remembering how uncomfortable it felt to be told not to get to close to that uncle or dads best friend when they’d been drinking. It’s older men being predators.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know how many women actually care.

If my H left me for a younger woman, then good riddance. She can clean his gross underwear and watch him pick his nose. My BFF’s husband regularly threatens to leave her for younger women and she can’t wait for him to be someone else’s problem.

I’m not interested in younger men because they literally look and act like children to me. I saw a picture of *NSYNC from the 90s the other day and was so creeped out that I used to be attracted to them, they look like babies to me now.

Older men are usually just as clueless as younger men, but at least I know there’s a good chance they don’t have roommates, don’t live with their parents, and aren’t total slobs.