May-September Relationships

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know how many women actually care.

If my H left me for a younger woman, then good riddance. She can clean his gross underwear and watch him pick his nose. My BFF’s husband regularly threatens to leave her for younger women and she can’t wait for him to be someone else’s problem.

I’m not interested in younger men because they literally look and act like children to me. I saw a picture of *NSYNC from the 90s the other day and was so creeped out that I used to be attracted to them, they look like babies to me now.

Older men are usually just as clueless as younger men, but at least I know there’s a good chance they don’t have roommates, don’t live with their parents, and aren’t total slobs.

😆

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 52 and my SO is 37. When I started dating 2 years ago I assumed it was going to be the 60+ guys who might have an interest in me not a 37 year old guy who is extremely fit. I am having a fabulous time and even if it doesn’t last I will have great memories. I definitely understand why guys like to date much younger women!

Are you controlling or jealous? Or just using him for sex?

I’m neither controlling or jealous. I do like him as he is a real gentleman, a great companion and yes, the sex is fantastic. But I’m not blind to the fact that someone his age or younger will come along at some point.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, I can't get over the title of the thread. The expression is "May-December," not "May-September."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I can't get over the title of the thread. The expression is "May-December," not "May-September."

That’s what I thought too. And someone thought it meant a summer fling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The difference is that women tend to live longer.

the difference is that women are selling their bodies in exchange for comfort.

so they get a better deal by selling to older men.

story as old as time

Which doesn't make it either good or bad. If both people know what they are doing and why they are doing it, it is up to them what sort of deal they make.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The difference is that women tend to live longer.

the difference is that women are selling their bodies in exchange for comfort.

so they get a better deal by selling to older men.

story as old as time

Which doesn't make it either good or bad. If both people know what they are doing and why they are doing it, it is up to them what sort of deal they make.

Gee. I don't know. I don't think I'd want to be married to somebody that only wanted my $ (not love or affection) or somebody that only wanted to screw me (and pay me off so he didn't have to spend time with me). Sounds like Trump's marriages. They really looked like they were having a great time . Hefner and his weirdo relationships and Ana Nicole Smith with the guy that was basically brain dead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does this have to do with May or September? Is the implication a summer fling? A few threads have unrelated titles this seems like another one.

Haha I don't care about the context of this thread. Just scrolling to find out the May-September thing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women on this forum seem to squig out about significant age differences between older men and younger women. I’m wondering if they feel the same about relationships where the woman is significantly older or in relationships between women where one woman is significantly older. For example, my grandmother was 17 years older than her second husband. They were married for 51 years, longer than she was married to my grandfather. Sarah Paulson is 31 years younger than her partner Holland Taylor. What do you think about these circumstances? What’s the difference between these types of relationships and the more typical older man younger woman relationships?

I feel the same way. But if you make it 51 years with anyone, mazel tov.

I mean digging in here though.

51 years (time married) + 17 years (age difference at time of marriage) + 18 years (lets hope minimum age for first marriage) + 18 years (years older than her second husband so lets hope he was at least 18 when she married HIM) = 92. So I guess doable but it assumes super young ages and no time between marriages.

But to answer your question OP yes I feel the same. I think generally that people at vastly different stages of life being romantically involved sets both up for heartbreak, in the short run or in the long run. But if there is not an enormous power imbalance (which I think usually there is but isn't in the case of say, Paulson and Holland as both are entirely financially secure independently) I think its less of a concern.

But the reality is if you're dating someone substantially older you are setting yourself up to likely be a caretaker and then to spend your twilight years alone. I think the older person generally understands what that really means more than the younger person and that it is not a great thing to do. But of course consenting adults can do whatever they consent to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The difference is that women tend to live longer.

the difference is that women are selling their bodies in exchange for comfort.

so they get a better deal by selling to older men.

story as old as time

Which doesn't make it either good or bad. If both people know what they are doing and why they are doing it, it is up to them what sort of deal they make.

Gee. I don't know. I don't think I'd want to be married to somebody that only wanted my $ (not love or affection) or somebody that only wanted to screw me (and pay me off so he didn't have to spend time with me). Sounds like Trump's marriages. They really looked like they were having a great time . Hefner and his weirdo relationships and Ana Nicole Smith with the guy that was basically brain dead.

That's fine for you. My point is that people are free to make whatever "deal" they like. And remember, just because practical concerns prominently enter the picture that does not mean that two people can't grow to love each other as well. It has worked out splendidly for me. I was 50 when I made the acquaintance of a teenage young lady in an Asian land. I courted her and we were married 2 1/2 years later. We joked about her being my "mail order bride." That was 23 years ago, and we have had a splendid, mutually loving marriage with a son who will soon be graduating college with a biomedical engineering degree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The difference is that women tend to live longer.

the difference is that women are selling their bodies in exchange for comfort.

so they get a better deal by selling to older men.

story as old as time

Which doesn't make it either good or bad. If both people know what they are doing and why they are doing it, it is up to them what sort of deal they make.

Gee. I don't know. I don't think I'd want to be married to somebody that only wanted my $ (not love or affection) or somebody that only wanted to screw me (and pay me off so he didn't have to spend time with me). Sounds like Trump's marriages. They really looked like they were having a great time . Hefner and his weirdo relationships and Ana Nicole Smith with the guy that was basically brain dead.

That's fine for you. My point is that people are free to make whatever "deal" they like. And remember, just because practical concerns prominently enter the picture that does not mean that two people can't grow to love each other as well. It has worked out splendidly for me. I was 50 when I made the acquaintance of a teenage young lady in an Asian land. I courted her and we were married 2 1/2 years later. We joked about her being my "mail order bride." That was 23 years ago, and we have had a splendid, mutually loving marriage with a son who will soon be graduating college with a biomedical engineering degree.

You were the typical 50-year old American on an Asian sex vacation and married a teenage virgin from there. What could a 50-year old man want with a teenager? I have read about those yours. So you are 73 and she’s 38 now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 52 and my SO is 37. When I started dating 2 years ago I assumed it was going to be the 60+ guys who might have an interest in me not a 37 year old guy who is extremely fit. I am having a fabulous time and even if it doesn’t last I will have great memories. I definitely understand why guys like to date much younger women!

Are you controlling or jealous? Or just using him for sex?

I’m neither controlling or jealous. I do like him as he is a real gentleman, a great companion and yes, the sex is fantastic. But I’m not blind to the fact that someone his age or younger will come along at some point.

He has major commitment issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The difference is that women tend to live longer.

the difference is that women are selling their bodies in exchange for comfort.

so they get a better deal by selling to older men.

story as old as time

Which doesn't make it either good or bad. If both people know what they are doing and why they are doing it, it is up to them what sort of deal they make.

Gee. I don't know. I don't think I'd want to be married to somebody that only wanted my $ (not love or affection) or somebody that only wanted to screw me (and pay me off so he didn't have to spend time with me). Sounds like Trump's marriages. They really looked like they were having a great time . Hefner and his weirdo relationships and Ana Nicole Smith with the guy that was basically brain dead.

That's fine for you. My point is that people are free to make whatever "deal" they like. And remember, just because practical concerns prominently enter the picture that does not mean that two people can't grow to love each other as well. It has worked out splendidly for me. I was 50 when I made the acquaintance of a teenage young lady in an Asian land. I courted her and we were married 2 1/2 years later. We joked about her being my "mail order bride." That was 23 years ago, and we have had a splendid, mutually loving marriage with a son who will soon be graduating college with a biomedical engineering degree.

You were the typical 50-year old American on an Asian sex vacation and married a teenage virgin from there. What could a 50-year old man want with a teenager? I have read about those yours. So you are 73 and she’s 38 now?

Your comment is so silly as to not warrant a serious reply. I'll do you the favor anyway. You did get one thing right - I sought (successfully) a virgin bride. What two people want with each other is up to them. A third party who has not met either of them is in no position to offer an opinion on the subject. You only make yourself look ridiculous when you do so. No, I wasn't on a "sex vacation". The young lady initiated our communication by placing an add for a foreign pen pal. I answered the add; she liked my response, and things took off from there. See how silly you made yourself look?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The difference is that women tend to live longer.

the difference is that women are selling their bodies in exchange for comfort.

so they get a better deal by selling to older men.

story as old as time

Which doesn't make it either good or bad. If both people know what they are doing and why they are doing it, it is up to them what sort of deal they make.

Gee. I don't know. I don't think I'd want to be married to somebody that only wanted my $ (not love or affection) or somebody that only wanted to screw me (and pay me off so he didn't have to spend time with me). Sounds like Trump's marriages. They really looked like they were having a great time . Hefner and his weirdo relationships and Ana Nicole Smith with the guy that was basically brain dead.

That's fine for you. My point is that people are free to make whatever "deal" they like. And remember, just because practical concerns prominently enter the picture that does not mean that two people can't grow to love each other as well. It has worked out splendidly for me. I was 50 when I made the acquaintance of a teenage young lady in an Asian land. I courted her and we were married 2 1/2 years later. We joked about her being my "mail order bride." That was 23 years ago, and we have had a splendid, mutually loving marriage with a son who will soon be graduating college with a biomedical engineering degree.

You were the typical 50-year old American on an Asian sex vacation and married a teenage virgin from there. What could a 50-year old man want with a teenager? I have read about those yours. So you are 73 and she’s 38 now?

Your comment is so silly as to not warrant a serious reply. I'll do you the favor anyway. You did get one thing right - I sought (successfully) a virgin bride. What two people want with each other is up to them. A third party who has not met either of them is in no position to offer an opinion on the subject. You only make yourself look ridiculous when you do so. No, I wasn't on a "sex vacation". The young lady initiated our communication by placing an add for a foreign pen pal. I answered the add; she liked my response, and things took off from there. See how silly you made yourself look?

NP, and i cannot tell whether this is sarcasm or not.

[Escape]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does this have to do with May or September? Is the implication a summer fling? A few threads have unrelated titles this seems like another one.

Haha I don't care about the context of this thread. Just scrolling to find out the May-September thing

Same. I really do think that people at least in the DC area have some seasonal dating. Spring time is full of energy! Everyone is excited after a long winter. Then once you get into Fall, the weather changes again, holidays come up, and things get quiet. There is probably a study on this phenomenon!

[Anonymous]

My parents were 19 years apart. They were married 45 years until my father died last fall a week before his 96th birthday. My mom turned 77 a couple months later and she just got her second covid vaccine. She always knew she would have “some time” after dad died where she was on her own. Unfortunately it’s also a pandemic so she’s not able to travel right now, but she’s looking forward to being able to do that. She’s a very “young” 77.
I’m their only child. The only challenge for me was people thinking my dad was my grandfather when I was a kid. He was 58 when I was born, and back in the 80s my mom having a baby at 39 was considered ancient!