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When Bad Things Happen to Sanctimonious Mothers
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Anonymous
| Wow. As a special needs mom, I'm speechless. |
Anonymous
| My kids are 27 and 28 years old. The word “sleep training” didn’t exist when they were young. I blame social media for this competitive spirit. I had a baby milestone book. You guys are too hard on yourselves. |
Anonymous
What are your special needs and why do they interfere with your ability to speak? |
Anonymous
That isn’t sanctimony. It may be smugness. They are different thing. Piety and hypocrisy have to be present for it to be sanctimony. |
Anonymous
Ferber wrote his foundational sleep training book in 1985, almost 10 years before your kids were born. But social media certainly didn't exist in any was similar to today, so it doesn't surprise me that the whole tone around parenting "strategies" was different. |
Anonymous
Are you just saying that because you think a dad can’t be sanctimonious, only a mom can? He judges others for doing it wrong and thinks he’s a better parent for having a “good” child. Their child is still very young, so they may or may not face other struggles as the child gets older. Too early to tell. But if you go by the dad, they will end up with the perfect child who does everything perfectly. He’s also an evangelist so I guess that part of it is in his blood. |
Anonymous
Yep, and Weissbluth’s book (Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child) was originally published in 1987, and recommended to me by a much older family friend. Sleep training was definitely a thing. |
Anonymous
NP. You’re an idiot or you’re mean, or both. PP, don’t even waste time responding to this poster. If she weren’t so insulting, it might be worth it to empower her with information. As it stands, let her figure it out since her ability to learn is clearly demonstrated in this post. |
Anonymous
I loled. Unless the special needs this mom has is being a sanctimommy, this thread isn’t about her! |
Anonymous
I know a dad like this too. He told me, unprompted, at another child's birthday party that they hoped their 18 month old child could move up rooms at daycare early because she was so advanced. There were 2 hilarious things about that, first daycare had a strict you must be 2 to move up rule because of state required ratios (something he should have been aware of because he has an older child in the program) and second, that child was kind of known as the trouble maker in the toddler room at the time because of biting and other behaviors. |
Anonymous
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I have a SIL that fits OPs description and it was mostly how her anxiety manifests. She had her first child a year before my other SIL, and omg those two were parenting oil and vinegar. The first SIL would start monologuing about the very best way to do whatever and the second would see it as a judgment of her parenting style. To make matters worse, the first SILs child was a fairly cautious and reserved child and the second SILs child was outgoing and extroverted and more of a risk taker, so the kids could not have been more different as toddlers.
Several years later the first SIL had a second kid who is completely different and more challenging for her to parent, and hopefully has realized that a lot of how kids behave is inborn temperament and personality and not parenting decisions. The 2 SILs haven't really been that friendly since though, but it has gotten better. |
Anonymous
| OP, your posts tells us a lot about you. And none of it is complimentary to you. |
Anonymous
OP is positing that people who are sanctimonious are punished by having bad things happen to their kids. It's profoundly ableist and has implications for the experiences PP's kids will have in the world. |
Anonymous
She's not saying that bad things happen to their kids, only that they (the sanctimonious parent) struggles with parenting their kid later on. That 'bad' stuff could be as run of the mill as the kid rebeling against everything the parent wanted for them (goes into a job field the parent doesn't view as prestigious, isn't interested in sports). She didn't say anything about the kids having something actually bad happen to them. |
Anonymous
| What is wrong with you people? Have you even been to the special needs forum? Do you understand what “special needs” means? Or is this C+ trolling? |