I think I’m a crappy mom and doubting my ability to parent.

[Anonymous]

Child misses you. Child is with nanny and housekeeper all day 5+ days a week and gets what, maybe an hour a day with you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The problem is that you don't know you son. Meaning that you want an easy solution to nap and sleep issues and feeding and you want an easy kid. I bet your his nanny works hard to entertain him and take care of him. Cause that is what having a baby and a toddler is about. A lot of work.
All I am hearing is that you are lazy.

Why don't you call her fat for the full misogyny? We see you, mommy shamer. Gross.

Don't give a crap about what you think is misogyny here. She is an incompetent parent, in her case a mom. Being a mom is hard work, I am shaming her for being lazy, which she is, when it comes to her child. Her kid wants her for bed time, what a difficult child! He wants her on the weekends when nannyis not there, what a difficult child. I wonder why is this kid so needy and why does this OP think she needs all this me time, when she decided to have a kid? Oh, wait, it is bcs she doesn't actually take care of her child most of the time. Some poeple need to be shamed. Parenting is hard and takes a lot out of person. And op is so full of it! She has a nanny, and a housekeeper, and DH most of the time. What I am shaming is a whiner! A lazy mom whiner. If you are like her, you need some shaming too. Don't have kids if you think putting them to bed is hard. People like you and OP are gross, not me.
Her post should read: I work all the time and don't know how to take care of my almost toddler on my own.
That is shameful, regardelss of her working status.

Really hope you don't have daughters, but make sure you sock a way a lot of money for therapy - if you are calling randos on the internet nasty names - I'm sure some of your toxic bile of self-hatred/misogyny is just oozing out all over your kids. You probably shame them constantly for failing to live up to your high high standards for potty-training and sundry. And I'm sure you spank, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem is that you don't know you son. Meaning that you want an easy solution to nap and sleep issues and feeding and you want an easy kid. I bet your his nanny works hard to entertain him and take care of him. Cause that is what having a baby and a toddler is about. A lot of work.
All I am hearing is that you are lazy.

Why don't you call her fat for the full misogyny? We see you, mommy shamer. Gross.

Don't give a crap about what you think is misogyny here. She is an incompetent parent, in her case a mom. Being a mom is hard work, I am shaming her for being lazy, which she is, when it comes to her child. Her kid wants her for bed time, what a difficult child! He wants her on the weekends when nannyis not there, what a difficult child. I wonder why is this kid so needy and why does this OP think she needs all this me time, when she decided to have a kid? Oh, wait, it is bcs she doesn't actually take care of her child most of the time. Some poeple need to be shamed. Parenting is hard and takes a lot out of person. And op is so full of it! She has a nanny, and a housekeeper, and DH most of the time. What I am shaming is a whiner! A lazy mom whiner. If you are like her, you need some shaming too. Don't have kids if you think putting them to bed is hard. People like you and OP are gross, not me.
Her post should read: I work all the time and don't know how to take care of my almost toddler on my own.
That is shameful, regardelss of her working status.

Really hope you don't have daughters, but make sure you sock a way a lot of money for therapy - if you are calling randos on the internet nasty names - I'm sure some of your toxic bile of self-hatred/misogyny is just oozing out all over your kids. You probably shame them constantly for failing to live up to your high high standards for potty-training and sundry. And I'm sure you spank, too.

Nope. Nor am I the only one calling OP out. I am a feminist, I am the opposite of what you think. I might be a hater of men, on occasion, for enslaving the women, literarly and emotionaly around the world. You don't have to leg to stand on in your assumptions. You assumed a lot about me from one post? Who is shaming whom here?

You sound like a person that never did an honest day of work and that calls every criticism mysogyny or something else. Grow the eff up. I called her lazy, I did not call her a nasty name. Lazy whiner is not a nasty name. But, I am calling you out of touch with what hard work is and what being a parent is.

Let me explainsomething for you... people like me, have no time or pity for people like you. We work, we take kids to park, we lay down to get them to sleep, we go on walks, we play ball, we pick them up from a day care and we change clothes and we go to a park, or a walk, or in the past, indoor playgrounds with our kids. We give them baths, and we shower after they fall asleep. We rock them if needed for a nap, and for night time. We laugh with them, and carry them around, we read to them. We cook for them. We manage to take two kids to doctors even if only one is going. We stay alone, when DH is overseas, and my kid has is a FTT and screams day and night, and we hold them on our chests to soothe them. We do it for years. And we clean the kitchen at 10pm when kids are asleep, and pack their next day lunches and clean bathrooms, and shower after they are asleep. And then we rinse and repeat, and wake up at 5am, or 30 minutes before kids wake up to shower and make our lunch for work, and their breakfast and then we give our attention, our full attention to our kids. So, I will shame you day in and day out, and I will think poorly of you, if you think your kid hard because he is being a kid. Quite frankly, I have no respect for people like you. You seem to have no idea what the reality of life is for most of the people around the world, and most of the parents around the world.

[Anonymous]

Sigh. I remember those days. I was never ever able to go to the bathroom to poop in peace because my DD wanted to be with me. I eventually got in the habit of putting her on a baby potty in front of me, holding her hand, reading a book to her, as I took a dump. No wonder, she was toilet trained very early.

Another trick to make them less clingy is to wake them early in the morning. I used to wake my kid, give her a massage, brush her teeth, make her sit on the toilet for some time, give her a bath, dress her up and give her her breakfast. She also got into a good morning routine. My kids wake up, bathe and get dressed in the morning now. Even during the pandemic.

[Anonymous]

It’s a tough age OP. It gets better... I have 3 kids and if I am alone (or even if I am not), I take the toddler to the bathroom with me. Even to shower... I get him a toy and talk/sing to him... not relaxing time, but with 3 kids showers haven’t been relaxing in a while.
Also, you need to adjust your expectations.

[Anonymous]

Do you have attachment issues? You might go to therapy to work on them. Sadly, not everyone is a good or even competent parent, despite the "everyone is amazing!" rhetoric pushed today

[Anonymous]

It will be ok. This too will pass. What I would do:

Get a mattress on the floor in his room, put him to sleep with you laying down next to him. Maybe you can get a nap too. Put a baby gate over the door and child proof his room.

Let him play at your feet in the shower or take a bath with him.

Get one of those back pack things and wear him when you are making lunch. Or put him in the high chair with something he really likes. How about a popsicle made of something healthy? Some kind of juice you are comfortable giving him? Make it a special treat he only gets as an "appetizer" before meals.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The problem is that you don't know you son. Meaning that you want an easy solution to nap and sleep issues and feeding and you want an easy kid. I bet your his nanny works hard to entertain him and take care of him. Cause that is what having a baby and a toddler is about. A lot of work.
All I am hearing is that you are lazy.

Why don't you call her fat for the full misogyny? We see you, mommy shamer. Gross.

Don't give a crap about what you think is misogyny here. She is an incompetent parent, in her case a mom. Being a mom is hard work, I am shaming her for being lazy, which she is, when it comes to her child. Her kid wants her for bed time, what a difficult child! He wants her on the weekends when nannyis not there, what a difficult child. I wonder why is this kid so needy and why does this OP think she needs all this me time, when she decided to have a kid? Oh, wait, it is bcs she doesn't actually take care of her child most of the time. Some poeple need to be shamed. Parenting is hard and takes a lot out of person. And op is so full of it! She has a nanny, and a housekeeper, and DH most of the time. What I am shaming is a whiner! A lazy mom whiner. If you are like her, you need some shaming too. Don't have kids if you think putting them to bed is hard. People like you and OP are gross, not me.
Her post should read: I work all the time and don't know how to take care of my almost toddler on my own.
That is shameful, regardelss of her working status.

Really hope you don't have daughters, but make sure you sock a way a lot of money for therapy - if you are calling randos on the internet nasty names - I'm sure some of your toxic bile of self-hatred/misogyny is just oozing out all over your kids. You probably shame them constantly for failing to live up to your high high standards for potty-training and sundry. And I'm sure you spank, too.

Nope. Nor am I the only one calling OP out. I am a feminist, I am the opposite of what you think. I might be a hater of men, on occasion, for enslaving the women, literarly and emotionaly around the world. You don't have to leg to stand on in your assumptions. You assumed a lot about me from one post? Who is shaming whom here?

You sound like a person that never did an honest day of work and that calls every criticism mysogyny or something else. Grow the eff up. I called her lazy, I did not call her a nasty name. Lazy whiner is not a nasty name. But, I am calling you out of touch with what hard work is and what being a parent is.

Let me explainsomething for you... people like me, have no time or pity for people like you. We work, we take kids to park, we lay down to get them to sleep, we go on walks, we play ball, we pick them up from a day care and we change clothes and we go to a park, or a walk, or in the past, indoor playgrounds with our kids. We give them baths, and we shower after they fall asleep. We rock them if needed for a nap, and for night time. We laugh with them, and carry them around, we read to them. We cook for them. We manage to take two kids to doctors even if only one is going. We stay alone, when DH is overseas, and my kid has is a FTT and screams day and night, and we hold them on our chests to soothe them. We do it for years. And we clean the kitchen at 10pm when kids are asleep, and pack their next day lunches and clean bathrooms, and shower after they are asleep. And then we rinse and repeat, and wake up at 5am, or 30 minutes before kids wake up to shower and make our lunch for work, and their breakfast and then we give our attention, our full attention to our kids. So, I will shame you day in and day out, and I will think poorly of you, if you think your kid hard because he is being a kid. Quite frankly, I have no respect for people like you. You seem to have no idea what the reality of life is for most of the people around the world, and most of the parents around the world.

Bravo. I actually agree with everything this PP is saying, although I would never say it in the same way. It is hard to be a mom -- and I actually think if you have some help, it's even harder because you get time to yourself and then you have to go into battle again, missing that "me time."

Anyway, engaging with your own kids is the best way to parent, no matter what else you have or don't have to offer them. They want your attention. If you can give your DS chunks of your undivided attention, OP, he'll be less likely to constantly whine for it.

But it's hard having kids that age. It stays hard for years, too. But it does get better, and then you'll miss those small kids!

[Anonymous]

The 11 o'clock nap may be too early for this kid. My kid's nap was post lunch at this age.

Toddlers thrive on schedules. If you're doing a different schedule in the weekends (especially nap and bedtime) he is gonna freak out.

Also sleep training is a lifesaver. I'm working at home with a toddler and him being a good napper/sleeper is the only way I am getting stuff done. But him being a good sleeper involved sleep training.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The problem is that you don't know you son. Meaning that you want an easy solution to nap and sleep issues and feeding and you want an easy kid. I bet your his nanny works hard to entertain him and take care of him. Cause that is what having a baby and a toddler is about. A lot of work.
All I am hearing is that you are lazy.

Why don't you call her fat for the full misogyny? We see you, mommy shamer. Gross.

Don't give a crap about what you think is misogyny here. She is an incompetent parent, in her case a mom. Being a mom is hard work, I am shaming her for being lazy, which she is, when it comes to her child. Her kid wants her for bed time, what a difficult child! He wants her on the weekends when nannyis not there, what a difficult child. I wonder why is this kid so needy and why does this OP think she needs all this me time, when she decided to have a kid? Oh, wait, it is bcs she doesn't actually take care of her child most of the time. Some poeple need to be shamed. Parenting is hard and takes a lot out of person. And op is so full of it! She has a nanny, and a housekeeper, and DH most of the time. What I am shaming is a whiner! A lazy mom whiner. If you are like her, you need some shaming too. Don't have kids if you think putting them to bed is hard. People like you and OP are gross, not me.
Her post should read: I work all the time and don't know how to take care of my almost toddler on my own.
That is shameful, regardelss of her working status.

Really hope you don't have daughters, but make sure you sock a way a lot of money for therapy - if you are calling randos on the internet nasty names - I'm sure some of your toxic bile of self-hatred/misogyny is just oozing out all over your kids. You probably shame them constantly for failing to live up to your high high standards for potty-training and sundry. And I'm sure you spank, too.

Nope. Nor am I the only one calling OP out. I am a feminist, I am the opposite of what you think. I might be a hater of men, on occasion, for enslaving the women, literarly and emotionaly around the world. You don't have to leg to stand on in your assumptions. You assumed a lot about me from one post? Who is shaming whom here?

You sound like a person that never did an honest day of work and that calls every criticism mysogyny or something else. Grow the eff up. I called her lazy, I did not call her a nasty name. Lazy whiner is not a nasty name. But, I am calling you out of touch with what hard work is and what being a parent is.

Let me explainsomething for you... people like me, have no time or pity for people like you. We work, we take kids to park, we lay down to get them to sleep, we go on walks, we play ball, we pick them up from a day care and we change clothes and we go to a park, or a walk, or in the past, indoor playgrounds with our kids. We give them baths, and we shower after they fall asleep. We rock them if needed for a nap, and for night time. We laugh with them, and carry them around, we read to them. We cook for them. We manage to take two kids to doctors even if only one is going. We stay alone, when DH is overseas, and my kid has is a FTT and screams day and night, and we hold them on our chests to soothe them. We do it for years. And we clean the kitchen at 10pm when kids are asleep, and pack their next day lunches and clean bathrooms, and shower after they are asleep. And then we rinse and repeat, and wake up at 5am, or 30 minutes before kids wake up to shower and make our lunch for work, and their breakfast and then we give our attention, our full attention to our kids. So, I will shame you day in and day out, and I will think poorly of you, if you think your kid hard because he is being a kid. Quite frankly, I have no respect for people like you. You seem to have no idea what the reality of life is for most of the people around the world, and most of the parents around the world.

Totes, we think poorly of you because of your women-shaming tendencies, your poor grammar/writing abilities, and your lazy argumentation, etc. I am single mother to a toddler and a partner in Biglaw. Parenting a toddler is exceedingly hard - and I work 60-80 hours a week professionally and have gone overseas with my toddler for work 10+ times. Being a lawyer is WAY easier than parenting a toddler all-day, every day, by yourself. I have no time or pity for you and your very sad life and your need to get off literally or figuratively on calling all mothers lazy or a whiner - that is the height misogyny which you wear like a badge of courage. It's not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The problem is that you don't know you son. Meaning that you want an easy solution to nap and sleep issues and feeding and you want an easy kid. I bet your his nanny works hard to entertain him and take care of him. Cause that is what having a baby and a toddler is about. A lot of work.
All I am hearing is that you are lazy.

Why don't you call her fat for the full misogyny? We see you, mommy shamer. Gross.

Don't give a crap about what you think is misogyny here. She is an incompetent parent, in her case a mom. Being a mom is hard work, I am shaming her for being lazy, which she is, when it comes to her child. Her kid wants her for bed time, what a difficult child! He wants her on the weekends when nannyis not there, what a difficult child. I wonder why is this kid so needy and why does this OP think she needs all this me time, when she decided to have a kid? Oh, wait, it is bcs she doesn't actually take care of her child most of the time. Some poeple need to be shamed. Parenting is hard and takes a lot out of person. And op is so full of it! She has a nanny, and a housekeeper, and DH most of the time. What I am shaming is a whiner! A lazy mom whiner. If you are like her, you need some shaming too. Don't have kids if you think putting them to bed is hard. People like you and OP are gross, not me.
Her post should read: I work all the time and don't know how to take care of my almost toddler on my own.
That is shameful, regardelss of her working status.

Really hope you don't have daughters, but make sure you sock a way a lot of money for therapy - if you are calling randos on the internet nasty names - I'm sure some of your toxic bile of self-hatred/misogyny is just oozing out all over your kids. You probably shame them constantly for failing to live up to your high high standards for potty-training and sundry. And I'm sure you spank, too.

Nope. Nor am I the only one calling OP out. I am a feminist, I am the opposite of what you think. I might be a hater of men, on occasion, for enslaving the women, literarly and emotionaly around the world. You don't have to leg to stand on in your assumptions. You assumed a lot about me from one post? Who is shaming whom here?

You sound like a person that never did an honest day of work and that calls every criticism mysogyny or something else. Grow the eff up. I called her lazy, I did not call her a nasty name. Lazy whiner is not a nasty name. But, I am calling you out of touch with what hard work is and what being a parent is.

Let me explainsomething for you... people like me, have no time or pity for people like you. We work, we take kids to park, we lay down to get them to sleep, we go on walks, we play ball, we pick them up from a day care and we change clothes and we go to a park, or a walk, or in the past, indoor playgrounds with our kids. We give them baths, and we shower after they fall asleep. We rock them if needed for a nap, and for night time. We laugh with them, and carry them around, we read to them. We cook for them. We manage to take two kids to doctors even if only one is going. We stay alone, when DH is overseas, and my kid has is a FTT and screams day and night, and we hold them on our chests to soothe them. We do it for years. And we clean the kitchen at 10pm when kids are asleep, and pack their next day lunches and clean bathrooms, and shower after they are asleep. And then we rinse and repeat, and wake up at 5am, or 30 minutes before kids wake up to shower and make our lunch for work, and their breakfast and then we give our attention, our full attention to our kids. So, I will shame you day in and day out, and I will think poorly of you, if you think your kid hard because he is being a kid. Quite frankly, I have no respect for people like you. You seem to have no idea what the reality of life is for most of the people around the world, and most of the parents around the world.

Totes, we think poorly of you because of your women-shaming tendencies, your poor grammar/writing abilities, and your lazy argumentation, etc. I am single mother to a toddler and a partner in Biglaw. Parenting a toddler is exceedingly hard - and I work 60-80 hours a week professionally and have gone overseas with my toddler for work 10+ times. Being a lawyer is WAY easier than parenting a toddler all-day, every day, by yourself. I have no time or pity for you and your very sad life and your need to get off literally or figuratively on calling all mothers lazy or a whiner - that is the height misogyny which you wear like a badge of courage. It's not.

It is very clear that I am not a native English speaker. Please take your xenophobia somewhere else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem is that you don't know you son. Meaning that you want an easy solution to nap and sleep issues and feeding and you want an easy kid. I bet your his nanny works hard to entertain him and take care of him. Cause that is what having a baby and a toddler is about. A lot of work.
All I am hearing is that you are lazy.

Why don't you call her fat for the full misogyny? We see you, mommy shamer. Gross.

Don't give a crap about what you think is misogyny here. She is an incompetent parent, in her case a mom. Being a mom is hard work, I am shaming her for being lazy, which she is, when it comes to her child. Her kid wants her for bed time, what a difficult child! He wants her on the weekends when nannyis not there, what a difficult child. I wonder why is this kid so needy and why does this OP think she needs all this me time, when she decided to have a kid? Oh, wait, it is bcs she doesn't actually take care of her child most of the time. Some poeple need to be shamed. Parenting is hard and takes a lot out of person. And op is so full of it! She has a nanny, and a housekeeper, and DH most of the time. What I am shaming is a whiner! A lazy mom whiner. If you are like her, you need some shaming too. Don't have kids if you think putting them to bed is hard. People like you and OP are gross, not me.
Her post should read: I work all the time and don't know how to take care of my almost toddler on my own.
That is shameful, regardelss of her working status.

Really hope you don't have daughters, but make sure you sock a way a lot of money for therapy - if you are calling randos on the internet nasty names - I'm sure some of your toxic bile of self-hatred/misogyny is just oozing out all over your kids. You probably shame them constantly for failing to live up to your high high standards for potty-training and sundry. And I'm sure you spank, too.

Nope. Nor am I the only one calling OP out. I am a feminist, I am the opposite of what you think. I might be a hater of men, on occasion, for enslaving the women, literarly and emotionaly around the world. You don't have to leg to stand on in your assumptions. You assumed a lot about me from one post? Who is shaming whom here?

You sound like a person that never did an honest day of work and that calls every criticism mysogyny or something else. Grow the eff up. I called her lazy, I did not call her a nasty name. Lazy whiner is not a nasty name. But, I am calling you out of touch with what hard work is and what being a parent is.

Let me explainsomething for you... people like me, have no time or pity for people like you. We work, we take kids to park, we lay down to get them to sleep, we go on walks, we play ball, we pick them up from a day care and we change clothes and we go to a park, or a walk, or in the past, indoor playgrounds with our kids. We give them baths, and we shower after they fall asleep. We rock them if needed for a nap, and for night time. We laugh with them, and carry them around, we read to them. We cook for them. We manage to take two kids to doctors even if only one is going. We stay alone, when DH is overseas, and my kid has is a FTT and screams day and night, and we hold them on our chests to soothe them. We do it for years. And we clean the kitchen at 10pm when kids are asleep, and pack their next day lunches and clean bathrooms, and shower after they are asleep. And then we rinse and repeat, and wake up at 5am, or 30 minutes before kids wake up to shower and make our lunch for work, and their breakfast and then we give our attention, our full attention to our kids. So, I will shame you day in and day out, and I will think poorly of you, if you think your kid hard because he is being a kid. Quite frankly, I have no respect for people like you. You seem to have no idea what the reality of life is for most of the people around the world, and most of the parents around the world.

Totes, we think poorly of you because of your women-shaming tendencies, your poor grammar/writing abilities, and your lazy argumentation, etc. I am single mother to a toddler and a partner in Biglaw. Parenting a toddler is exceedingly hard - and I work 60-80 hours a week professionally and have gone overseas with my toddler for work 10+ times. Being a lawyer is WAY easier than parenting a toddler all-day, every day, by yourself. I have no time or pity for you and your very sad life and your need to get off literally or figuratively on calling all mothers lazy or a whiner - that is the height misogyny which you wear like a badge of courage. It's not.

It is very clear that I am not a native English speaker. Please take your xenophobia somewhere else.

You are hilarious and a bully. Please take your misogyny elsewhere .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:The problem is that you don't know you son. Meaning that you want an easy solution to nap and sleep issues and feeding and you want an easy kid. I bet your his nanny works hard to entertain him and take care of him. Cause that is what having a baby and a toddler is about. A lot of work.
All I am hearing is that you are lazy.

Why don't you call her fat for the full misogyny? We see you, mommy shamer. Gross.

Don't give a crap about what you think is misogyny here. She is an incompetent parent, in her case a mom. Being a mom is hard work, I am shaming her for being lazy, which she is, when it comes to her child. Her kid wants her for bed time, what a difficult child! He wants her on the weekends when nannyis not there, what a difficult child. I wonder why is this kid so needy and why does this OP think she needs all this me time, when she decided to have a kid? Oh, wait, it is bcs she doesn't actually take care of her child most of the time. Some poeple need to be shamed. Parenting is hard and takes a lot out of person. And op is so full of it! She has a nanny, and a housekeeper, and DH most of the time. What I am shaming is a whiner! A lazy mom whiner. If you are like her, you need some shaming too. Don't have kids if you think putting them to bed is hard. People like you and OP are gross, not me.
Her post should read: I work all the time and don't know how to take care of my almost toddler on my own.
That is shameful, regardelss of her working status.

Really hope you don't have daughters, but make sure you sock a way a lot of money for therapy - if you are calling randos on the internet nasty names - I'm sure some of your toxic bile of self-hatred/misogyny is just oozing out all over your kids. You probably shame them constantly for failing to live up to your high high standards for potty-training and sundry. And I'm sure you spank, too.

Nope. Nor am I the only one calling OP out. I am a feminist, I am the opposite of what you think. I might be a hater of men, on occasion, for enslaving the women, literarly and emotionaly around the world. You don't have to leg to stand on in your assumptions. You assumed a lot about me from one post? Who is shaming whom here?

You sound like a person that never did an honest day of work and that calls every criticism mysogyny or something else. Grow the eff up. I called her lazy, I did not call her a nasty name. Lazy whiner is not a nasty name. But, I am calling you out of touch with what hard work is and what being a parent is.

Let me explainsomething for you... people like me, have no time or pity for people like you. We work, we take kids to park, we lay down to get them to sleep, we go on walks, we play ball, we pick them up from a day care and we change clothes and we go to a park, or a walk, or in the past, indoor playgrounds with our kids. We give them baths, and we shower after they fall asleep. We rock them if needed for a nap, and for night time. We laugh with them, and carry them around, we read to them. We cook for them. We manage to take two kids to doctors even if only one is going. We stay alone, when DH is overseas, and my kid has is a FTT and screams day and night, and we hold them on our chests to soothe them. We do it for years. And we clean the kitchen at 10pm when kids are asleep, and pack their next day lunches and clean bathrooms, and shower after they are asleep. And then we rinse and repeat, and wake up at 5am, or 30 minutes before kids wake up to shower and make our lunch for work, and their breakfast and then we give our attention, our full attention to our kids. So, I will shame you day in and day out, and I will think poorly of you, if you think your kid hard because he is being a kid. Quite frankly, I have no respect for people like you. You seem to have no idea what the reality of life is for most of the people around the world, and most of the parents around the world.

Totes, we think poorly of you because of your women-shaming tendencies, your poor grammar/writing abilities, and your lazy argumentation, etc. I am single mother to a toddler and a partner in Biglaw. Parenting a toddler is exceedingly hard - and I work 60-80 hours a week professionally and have gone overseas with my toddler for work 10+ times. Being a lawyer is WAY easier than parenting a toddler all-day, every day, by yourself. I have no time or pity for you and your very sad life and your need to get off literally or figuratively on calling all mothers lazy or a whiner - that is the height misogyny which you wear like a badge of courage. It's not.

It is very clear that I am not a native English speaker. Please take your xenophobia somewhere else.

You are hilarious and a bully. Please take your misogyny elsewhere .

I don't think so. You are the one telling me to go. How come you are not telling it to pps that posted similar opinions? Why are you a bigot and a xenophobe? I think you should be ashamed of yout attitude towards immigrants and get off your high horse. I live a real life, and I work hard, and all I told her was to take care of her child when she is with her child. I think it the height of hypocrosy that a mom that has a nanny and a housekeeper, and a DH, is here telling people without any of these resources how hard she has it. Tone deaf and rich people problems. Millions missed their mortgage and rent payments, millions are working and struggling to keep their jobs and take care of their kids at home, and I am in the wrong? Rich people problems.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem is that you don't know you son. Meaning that you want an easy solution to nap and sleep issues and feeding and you want an easy kid. I bet your his nanny works hard to entertain him and take care of him. Cause that is what having a baby and a toddler is about. A lot of work.
All I am hearing is that you are lazy.

Why don't you call her fat for the full misogyny? We see you, mommy shamer. Gross.

Don't give a crap about what you think is misogyny here. She is an incompetent parent, in her case a mom. Being a mom is hard work, I am shaming her for being lazy, which she is, when it comes to her child. Her kid wants her for bed time, what a difficult child! He wants her on the weekends when nannyis not there, what a difficult child. I wonder why is this kid so needy and why does this OP think she needs all this me time, when she decided to have a kid? Oh, wait, it is bcs she doesn't actually take care of her child most of the time. Some poeple need to be shamed. Parenting is hard and takes a lot out of person. And op is so full of it! She has a nanny, and a housekeeper, and DH most of the time. What I am shaming is a whiner! A lazy mom whiner. If you are like her, you need some shaming too. Don't have kids if you think putting them to bed is hard. People like you and OP are gross, not me.
Her post should read: I work all the time and don't know how to take care of my almost toddler on my own.
That is shameful, regardelss of her working status.

Really hope you don't have daughters, but make sure you sock a way a lot of money for therapy - if you are calling randos on the internet nasty names - I'm sure some of your toxic bile of self-hatred/misogyny is just oozing out all over your kids. You probably shame them constantly for failing to live up to your high high standards for potty-training and sundry. And I'm sure you spank, too.

Nope. Nor am I the only one calling OP out. I am a feminist, I am the opposite of what you think. I might be a hater of men, on occasion, for enslaving the women, literarly and emotionaly around the world. You don't have to leg to stand on in your assumptions. You assumed a lot about me from one post? Who is shaming whom here?

You sound like a person that never did an honest day of work and that calls every criticism mysogyny or something else. Grow the eff up. I called her lazy, I did not call her a nasty name. Lazy whiner is not a nasty name. But, I am calling you out of touch with what hard work is and what being a parent is.

Let me explainsomething for you... people like me, have no time or pity for people like you. We work, we take kids to park, we lay down to get them to sleep, we go on walks, we play ball, we pick them up from a day care and we change clothes and we go to a park, or a walk, or in the past, indoor playgrounds with our kids. We give them baths, and we shower after they fall asleep. We rock them if needed for a nap, and for night time. We laugh with them, and carry them around, we read to them. We cook for them. We manage to take two kids to doctors even if only one is going. We stay alone, when DH is overseas, and my kid has is a FTT and screams day and night, and we hold them on our chests to soothe them. We do it for years. And we clean the kitchen at 10pm when kids are asleep, and pack their next day lunches and clean bathrooms, and shower after they are asleep. And then we rinse and repeat, and wake up at 5am, or 30 minutes before kids wake up to shower and make our lunch for work, and their breakfast and then we give our attention, our full attention to our kids. So, I will shame you day in and day out, and I will think poorly of you, if you think your kid hard because he is being a kid. Quite frankly, I have no respect for people like you. You seem to have no idea what the reality of life is for most of the people around the world, and most of the parents around the world.

Totes, we think poorly of you because of your women-shaming tendencies, your poor grammar/writing abilities, and your lazy argumentation, etc. I am single mother to a toddler and a partner in Biglaw. Parenting a toddler is exceedingly hard - and I work 60-80 hours a week professionally and have gone overseas with my toddler for work 10+ times. Being a lawyer is WAY easier than parenting a toddler all-day, every day, by yourself. I have no time or pity for you and your very sad life and your need to get off literally or figuratively on calling all mothers lazy or a whiner - that is the height misogyny which you wear like a badge of courage. It's not.

It is very clear that I am not a native English speaker. Please take your xenophobia somewhere else.

You are hilarious and a bully. Please take your misogyny elsewhere .

I don't think so. You are the one telling me to go. How come you are not telling it to pps that posted similar opinions? Why are you a bigot and a xenophobe? I think you should be ashamed of yout attitude towards immigrants and get off your high horse. I live a real life, and I work hard, and all I told her was to take care of her child when she is with her child. I think it the height of hypocrosy that a mom that has a nanny and a housekeeper, and a DH, is here telling people without any of these resources how hard she has it. Tone deaf and rich people problems. Millions missed their mortgage and rent payments, millions are working and struggling to keep their jobs and take care of their kids at home, and I am in the wrong? Rich people problems.

You literally called OP a horrible mother in sexist terms, when you were called out said women whine about (your/all) misogyny. Then you say people must inherently know that your poor writing skills/argumentation skills derive from your alleged ethnic origin. The dog doesn’t hunt. You are a bully and a misogynist - and based on the bile you are spilling on this forum, hardly a judge of what good parenting is or isn’t.

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Op this is highly dependent on the kid and very common. My first was just like what you described. Not a moment to myself until he was a little over 3. I remember recording a video of him playing by himself with his trucks around that age because it was something so unfamiliar. My second has been raised the same way and she is so much more independent. She might follow me around but it's absolutely nothing like my first and she's good at exploring on her own. I wish I could tell you some tips but I really think it's just personality that you have to ride out.