Wife spends too much money on stupid crafts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Talk to her, OP, and make a deal. Perhaps she can exercise and eat better/less, and craft as a reward!

Uh, no.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait...there is a Hobby Lobby in our area?

There’s one in Leesburg at least. Near the outlet malls.

Why?

Because there aren’t any in DC or MoCo. I didn’t know they were over here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like a peach. Just be lucky you found someone who puts up with your bad attitude. Wife's crafting is the least of your worries. You need a new personality.

No, OP sounds normal and it's the wife that has a problem. I am sure she is not working if this is how she's spending all her time.

I do wonder what is it with women and crafting though? And sorry to say but 99% of the stuff is junk. When men do crafts, they make items with utility like tables, woodwork...women just glue pieces of paper together and clutter the house. I’m a woman and I’m so embarrassed to be associated with such an insipid activity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps she can craft herself a better husband.

Hahaha. Good one, PP.

Op, please realize that there are people in this world stressing over their spouses’ drug habits and affairs. Let the poor woman have her crafts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Perhaps she can craft herself a better husband.

Hahaha. Good one, PP.

Op, please realize that there are people in this world stressing over their spouses’ drug habits and affairs. Let the poor woman have her crafts.

This is also ridiculous. So just because she isn’t buying drugs or boning someone, she’s perfectly ok to spend a couple hundred at a craft store on paper and glue? Don’t make us laugh. It’s a waste of money.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a peach. Just be lucky you found someone who puts up with your bad attitude. Wife's crafting is the least of your worries. You need a new personality.

No, OP sounds normal and it's the wife that has a problem. I am sure she is not working if this is how she's spending all her time.

I do wonder what is it with women and crafting though? And sorry to say but 99% of the stuff is junk. When men do crafts, they make items with utility like tables, woodwork...women just glue pieces of paper together and clutter the house. I’m a woman and I’m so embarrassed to be associated with such an insipid activity.

I agree. I hate arts and crafts, clutter and cheap junk made in China. I work full time and have no time or desire to engage in such stupid activity. I feel sorry for OP that he has to put up with this.

[Anonymous]

This thread is reminding me about how much fun crafting is.....I am getting butterflies thinking of the possibilities!!!

Honestly OP, do you perhaps loathe your wife? Your posts seem to go deeper than the crafting expense. Perhaps marriage counseling?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait...there is a Hobby Lobby in our area?

There’s one in Leesburg at least. Near the outlet malls.

Why?

Because there aren’t any in DC or MoCo. I didn’t know they were over here.

There is also one in Columbia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW can go nuts at places like Hobby Lobby and Michaels. Each trip she comes back with bags of stuff we don’t need and to me, it’s a $150-200 that could have gone to groceries or utilities. Not to mention the clutter and I am failing to see the appeal of scrapbooking and painting mason jars that take up time and space. She justifies her purchases by claiming that they were on sale but I think that just makes it worse because she will get way more stuff. These are things that have no use and if I could, I’d return them all. How do you get your spouse to see that they’re wasting money on things that are so stupid?

You cannot convince someone that spending money on something that provides them with joy is stupid because it is not stupid if it brings them joy. There is, however, a difference between wants and needs, and you can convince someone that something they view as a need is actually a want. So if the money spent on crafts is making it difficult to purchase groceries and pay utilities, you may have a point OP, but if you just think it is a waste of money, you are wrong.

[Anonymous]

I grew up with a hoarder mom and I HATE clutter, it gives me ptsd.
I would arrange for a special room or barn or whatever where she keeps all her crap.
When my child was younger the clutter stressed me out so much. I would literally throw his toys out of the kitchen back to the living room or made him take them to his room.
It is maddening

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like a peach. Just be lucky you found someone who puts up with your bad attitude. Wife's crafting is the least of your worries. You need a new personality.

No, OP sounds normal and it's the wife that has a problem. I am sure she is not working if this is how she's spending all her time.

Normal ... sorry he lost me when he criticized her weight on a message forum. No respect.

[Anonymous]

I love crafting but hate the look of the "crafts".. it's just stress relief for me. I don't put anything up typically. I don't spend money on it but I'll definitely join friends if someone plans something.

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Anonymous wrote:I assume you've never spent money on something just because you enjoy it? A hobby? Lessons for a new skill? Gym membership?

Don't think of it as "stuff", think of it as an activity that makes your wife happy. Does that make a difference?

OP. I would LOVE for her to spend the money on crafts on a gym membership instead. She could stand to lose 20 lbs but no, she has to eat crap and buy crap. It’s the mindlessness and wastefulness that puzzles me. Yes, I go to the gym and it also benefits her that I’m healthy and in good shape. Her crafts on the other hand? Time and money suck and clutter disguised as ‘decor’. She goes each week and it’s getting way too much.

You sound like you have nothing but contempt for her. Once you have contempt, there's nothing left in the marriage. Time to divorce.

This. You clearly don't love or respect her anymore. End it.

[Anonymous]

I love crafting but I hate junky looking decor - so I learned how to make fancy royal icing cookies. It won’t help with weight loss, but it’s relaxing and it’s easy to give them away.

[Anonymous]

We don’t know what OP’s financial situation is and if his wife even earns. $700-800/mo of craft that she doesn’t even use sounds like a waste to me.

Op, talk to her to contain this habit or may be motivate her to sell it. That way she could realize how people judge her stuff
. If she’s good then it would be worth it.