Wife spends too much money on stupid crafts

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Anonymous wrote:OP, do you even love your wife? I don't understand crafting either, but the way you are talking about your wife leads me to believe that you are no longer invested in the relationship. You are resentful of the money she spends, the time spent crafting, the weight that she's put on. Do you want to be married to this person anymore? You need to first have a real talk with her to get her to understand how you are feeling and for you both to make a plan to save your relationship. You may find that she feels similarly about you and your hobbies...

OP again. I asked her to move out this morning if she wasn’t willing to clear her crap. She can take the glitter-contaminated carpet with her but everything else stays. Now she’s acting contrite and says she wants to get help. Not if help is costing $100 an hour for a shrink. I told I’m done and it’s over. The responses here made me realize just how unhappy I am with my living situation and choice of partner.

Good for you OP. I hope this would help both of you figure out your priorities she work on your issues. Clearly, what she was doing it wrong but you would have certain issues too.

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Anonymous wrote:Seeing this post on the front page near the announcement about Chadwick Boseman just makes me sick.

Life can be so gd painful and tragic. It’s hard to have any happiness at all in the bleakness. How lucky your wife is that she finds simple joy in her crafts. Good for her. I hope she divorces your ass because life is too short to be resented for having 20 extra pounds.

And at what point would you think resentment be okay? 100 lbs? I’m a married woman myself and I agree with the OP. My sister could be his wife. There are really women out there who spend time doing useless stuff and waste the family money on crap. I think if the wife made more financially sound decisions, it wouldn’t have been so bad. But to have CC debt because of Hobby Lobby is really stupid. And you’re stupid too PP for thinking that the OP is in the wrong just because some famous celeb died from cancer. Death happens every day and life is too short to spend it with a stupid person.

My ex-wife was like that. Making tons of stupid financial decisions and pushing me to make extra money when all she did was gaining 50 lbs and staying unhappy. I divorced her and much more happy now. Doesn’t have to go through her nagging all the time.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, do you even love your wife? I don't understand crafting either, but the way you are talking about your wife leads me to believe that you are no longer invested in the relationship. You are resentful of the money she spends, the time spent crafting, the weight that she's put on. Do you want to be married to this person anymore? You need to first have a real talk with her to get her to understand how you are feeling and for you both to make a plan to save your relationship. You may find that she feels similarly about you and your hobbies...

OP again. I asked her to move out this morning if she wasn’t willing to clear her crap. She can take the glitter-contaminated carpet with her but everything else stays. Now she’s acting contrite and says she wants to get help. Not if help is costing $100 an hour for a shrink. I told I’m done and it’s over. The responses here made me realize just how unhappy I am with my living situation and choice of partner.

Good for you OP. I hope this would help both of you figure out your priorities she work on your issues. Clearly, what she was doing it wrong but you would have certain issues too.

But OP has no right to insist she move out a d take nothing but the glitter carpet. Everyone agrees they should divorce but OP is predictably being as dick-ish as he can about it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, do you even love your wife? I don't understand crafting either, but the way you are talking about your wife leads me to believe that you are no longer invested in the relationship. You are resentful of the money she spends, the time spent crafting, the weight that she's put on. Do you want to be married to this person anymore? You need to first have a real talk with her to get her to understand how you are feeling and for you both to make a plan to save your relationship. You may find that she feels similarly about you and your hobbies...

OP again. I asked her to move out this morning if she wasn’t willing to clear her crap. She can take the glitter-contaminated carpet with her but everything else stays. Now she’s acting contrite and says she wants to get help. Not if help is costing $100 an hour for a shrink. I told I’m done and it’s over. The responses here made me realize just how unhappy I am with my living situation and choice of partner.

Good for you OP. I hope this would help both of you figure out your priorities she work on your issues. Clearly, what she was doing it wrong but you would have certain issues too.

But OP has no right to insist she move out a d take nothing but the glitter carpet. Everyone agrees they should divorce but OP is predictably being as dick-ish as he can about it.

This is the OP. I did tell her to take her crafting supplies with her. I have no use for a glitter gun. She literally did not contribute to our home in the 4 years we’ve been married and it is in my name because she moved in with me and I bought it before we met.

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up with a hoarder mom and I HATE clutter, it gives me ptsd.
I would arrange for a special room or barn or whatever where she keeps all her crap.
When my child was younger the clutter stressed me out so much. I would literally throw his toys out of the kitchen back to the living room or made him take them to his room.
It is maddening

Get medication and therapy. At least op's thread is good for something.

OP here again. My mom was a hoarder too and it was one of the reasons I decided to cut contact. I can’t deal with the roaches and the piles of musty mildew stuff in my childhood home. My wife is not a hoarder but she’s getting there with all the stuff she’s piling up in her ‘craft room’. She spends time sitting and gluing with glitter and goodness knows what to gift to people, to put up on our walls, and I have told her her crafting is pretty pointless and doesn’t value add to anything. And yet is costing us at least $600 a month. That could pay for some personal training sessions at my gym but no, she rather sits at home cutting colorful paper and getting glitter over the carpet. I’m at my wits end.

OP, be careful what you wish for. If she spent her time and money working out, maybe she’d lose a bunch of weight, get super hot, and leave your ass for a younger, hotter, richer dude who ALSO LIKES CRAFTING. Then they would spend all their time in his mansion coating their hot, super-ripped bods in glitter and having insane, acrobatic monkey sex on camera for a community of erotic crafters and making major ducats while you sit alone in your empty, craft-free house.

You, PP, are just the best. love it

I haven’t come across a guy who enjoys crafting.

They exist - probably more common in some other cultures, though. I know of men who weave carpets and do slip-covers and remake furniture. I know of men (straight men) who like to decorate. I had a male straight relative who was a florist. I also know a lot of men who like woodworking or photography. I know a few who have done pottery.

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Anonymous wrote:I grew up with a hoarder mom and I HATE clutter, it gives me ptsd.
I would arrange for a special room or barn or whatever where she keeps all her crap.
When my child was younger the clutter stressed me out so much. I would literally throw his toys out of the kitchen back to the living room or made him take them to his room.
It is maddening

Get medication and therapy. At least op's thread is good for something.

OP here again. My mom was a hoarder too and it was one of the reasons I decided to cut contact. I can’t deal with the roaches and the piles of musty mildew stuff in my childhood home. My wife is not a hoarder but she’s getting there with all the stuff she’s piling up in her ‘craft room’. She spends time sitting and gluing with glitter and goodness knows what to gift to people, to put up on our walls, and I have told her her crafting is pretty pointless and doesn’t value add to anything. And yet is costing us at least $600 a month. That could pay for some personal training sessions at my gym but no, she rather sits at home cutting colorful paper and getting glitter over the carpet. I’m at my wits end.

OP, be careful what you wish for. If she spent her time and money working out, maybe she’d lose a bunch of weight, get super hot, and leave your ass for a younger, hotter, richer dude who ALSO LIKES CRAFTING. Then they would spend all their time in his mansion coating their hot, super-ripped bods in glitter and having insane, acrobatic monkey sex on camera for a community of erotic crafters and making major ducats while you sit alone in your empty, craft-free house.

You, PP, are just the best. love it

I haven’t come across a guy who enjoys crafting.

They exist - probably more common in some other cultures, though. I know of men who weave carpets and do slip-covers and remake furniture. I know of men (straight men) who like to decorate. I had a male straight relative who was a florist. I also know a lot of men who like woodworking or photography. I know a few who have done pottery.

You are dense aren’t you? Carpet weaving and photography are very different from making stupid crafts with glitter and paper.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, do you even love your wife? I don't understand crafting either, but the way you are talking about your wife leads me to believe that you are no longer invested in the relationship. You are resentful of the money she spends, the time spent crafting, the weight that she's put on. Do you want to be married to this person anymore? You need to first have a real talk with her to get her to understand how you are feeling and for you both to make a plan to save your relationship. You may find that she feels similarly about you and your hobbies...

OP again. I asked her to move out this morning if she wasn’t willing to clear her crap. She can take the glitter-contaminated carpet with her but everything else stays. Now she’s acting contrite and says she wants to get help. Not if help is costing $100 an hour for a shrink. I told I’m done and it’s over. The responses here made me realize just how unhappy I am with my living situation and choice of partner.

Good for you OP. I hope this would help both of you figure out your priorities she work on your issues. Clearly, what she was doing it wrong but you would have certain issues too.

But OP has no right to insist she move out a d take nothing but the glitter carpet. Everyone agrees they should divorce but OP is predictably being as dick-ish as he can about it.

This is the OP. I did tell her to take her crafting supplies with her. I have no use for a glitter gun. She literally did not contribute to our home in the 4 years we’ve been married and it is in my name because she moved in with me and I bought it before we met.

The home has been on OP's name and they were married for 4 years so I think OP is right to ask her to move out with her stuff. He do have to divide anything they had bought together though.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a lot of money to be made selling craft supplies to women. I'm always amazed by the huge variety of useless things you can buy at craft stores. Women who don't have jobs get bored. They need something to keep their minds occupied.

Plenty of women with jobs like crafting.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, do you even love your wife? I don't understand crafting either, but the way you are talking about your wife leads me to believe that you are no longer invested in the relationship. You are resentful of the money she spends, the time spent crafting, the weight that she's put on. Do you want to be married to this person anymore? You need to first have a real talk with her to get her to understand how you are feeling and for you both to make a plan to save your relationship. You may find that she feels similarly about you and your hobbies...

OP again. I asked her to move out this morning if she wasn’t willing to clear her crap. She can take the glitter-contaminated carpet with her but everything else stays. Now she’s acting contrite and says she wants to get help. Not if help is costing $100 an hour for a shrink. I told I’m done and it’s over. The responses here made me realize just how unhappy I am with my living situation and choice of partner.

Good for you OP. I hope this would help both of you figure out your priorities she work on your issues. Clearly, what she was doing it wrong but you would have certain issues too.

If she has any sense, she will take several vials of superfine glitter and scatter them in every room of the house. It’s craft herpes, you’ll never be rid of it, which is exactly what you deserve.
But OP has no right to insist she move out a d take nothing but the glitter carpet. Everyone agrees they should divorce but OP is predictably being as dick-ish as he can about it.

This is the OP. I did tell her to take her crafting supplies with her. I have no use for a glitter gun. She literally did not contribute to our home in the 4 years we’ve been married and it is in my name because she moved in with me and I bought it before we met.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, do you even love your wife? I don't understand crafting either, but the way you are talking about your wife leads me to believe that you are no longer invested in the relationship. You are resentful of the money she spends, the time spent crafting, the weight that she's put on. Do you want to be married to this person anymore? You need to first have a real talk with her to get her to understand how you are feeling and for you both to make a plan to save your relationship. You may find that she feels similarly about you and your hobbies...

OP again. I asked her to move out this morning if she wasn’t willing to clear her crap. She can take the glitter-contaminated carpet with her but everything else stays. Now she’s acting contrite and says she wants to get help. Not if help is costing $100 an hour for a shrink. I told I’m done and it’s over. The responses here made me realize just how unhappy I am with my living situation and choice of partner.

Good for you OP. I hope this would help both of you figure out your priorities she work on your issues. Clearly, what she was doing it wrong but you would have certain issues too.

But OP has no right to insist she move out a d take nothing but the glitter carpet. Everyone agrees they should divorce but OP is predictably being as dick-ish as he can about it.

This is the OP. I did tell her to take her crafting supplies with her. I have no use for a glitter gun. She literally did not contribute to our home in the 4 years we’ve been married and it is in my name because she moved in with me and I bought it before we met.

If she has any sense, she will take several vials of superfine glitter and scatter them in every room of the house. It’s craft herpes, you’ll never be rid of it, which is exactly what you deserve.

[Anonymous]

Also, she should glitter every pair of shoes he owns. Including sandals and anything else he might possibly wear outside. At least he'll be trapped until he has something delivered. As well as the front porch. Preferably using an epoxy type resin.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I grew up with a hoarder mom and I HATE clutter, it gives me ptsd.
I would arrange for a special room or barn or whatever where she keeps all her crap.
When my child was younger the clutter stressed me out so much. I would literally throw his toys out of the kitchen back to the living room or made him take them to his room.
It is maddening

Get medication and therapy. At least op's thread is good for something.

OP here again. My mom was a hoarder too and it was one of the reasons I decided to cut contact. I can’t deal with the roaches and the piles of musty mildew stuff in my childhood home. My wife is not a hoarder but she’s getting there with all the stuff she’s piling up in her ‘craft room’. She spends time sitting and gluing with glitter and goodness knows what to gift to people, to put up on our walls, and I have told her her crafting is pretty pointless and doesn’t value add to anything. And yet is costing us at least $600 a month. That could pay for some personal training sessions at my gym but no, she rather sits at home cutting colorful paper and getting glitter over the carpet. I’m at my wits end.

OP, be careful what you wish for. If she spent her time and money working out, maybe she’d lose a bunch of weight, get super hot, and leave your ass for a younger, hotter, richer dude who ALSO LIKES CRAFTING. Then they would spend all their time in his mansion coating their hot, super-ripped bods in glitter and having insane, acrobatic monkey sex on camera for a community of erotic crafters and making major ducats while you sit alone in your empty, craft-free house.

You, PP, are just the best. love it

I haven’t come across a guy who enjoys crafting.

They exist - probably more common in some other cultures, though. I know of men who weave carpets and do slip-covers and remake furniture. I know of men (straight men) who like to decorate. I had a male straight relative who was a florist. I also know a lot of men who like woodworking or photography. I know a few who have done pottery.

You are dense aren’t you? Carpet weaving and photography are very different from making stupid crafts with glitter and paper.

Not dense. They're just different manifestations of a desire to be creative and produce something. There's no 'need' for any of those things; people just enjoy them. This couple has issues and they have nothing to do with crafts.

[Anonymous]

Get some therapy and get over it.

[Anonymous]

Wow. This thread has been a journey.