Wife spends too much money on stupid crafts
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Anonymous
| DW can go nuts at places like Hobby Lobby and Michaels. Each trip she comes back with bags of stuff we don’t need and to me, it’s a $150-200 that could have gone to groceries or utilities. Not to mention the clutter and I am failing to see the appeal of scrapbooking and painting mason jars that take up time and space. She justifies her purchases by claiming that they were on sale but I think that just makes it worse because she will get way more stuff. These are things that have no use and if I could, I’d return them all. How do you get your spouse to see that they’re wasting money on things that are so stupid? |
Anonymous
| Is her spending keeping you from paying for groceries or utilities? Otherwise, I don't understand the comparison. |
Anonymous
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I assume you've never spent money on something just because you enjoy it? A hobby? Lessons for a new skill? Gym membership?
Don't think of it as "stuff", think of it as an activity that makes your wife happy. Does that make a difference? |
Anonymous
| It can be helpful to have a personal allowance for each spouse in your budget that the other has absolutely no say over/judgment about. I'm sure she finds some of your purchases/interests stupid crap. Make it an amount you can easily afford. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like the clutter may be the bigger issue than the money? |
Anonymous
| If she is actually crafting (versus saying she's going to and not doing it) I would just leave it alone and view it as a hobby and be glad she has a hobby. People with hobbies they can do on their own seem to be faring better mentally during covid and also seem to do better in retirement than people without such hobbies. |
Anonymous
OP. I would LOVE for her to spend the money on crafts on a gym membership instead. She could stand to lose 20 lbs but no, she has to eat crap and buy crap. It’s the mindlessness and wastefulness that puzzles me. Yes, I go to the gym and it also benefits her that I’m healthy and in good shape. Her crafts on the other hand? Time and money suck and clutter disguised as ‘decor’. She goes each week and it’s getting way too much. |
Anonymous
| You sound like a peach. Just be lucky you found someone who puts up with your bad attitude. Wife's crafting is the least of your worries. You need a new personality. |
Anonymous
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The fact that she buys from Hobby Lobby would be the most concerning part.
Before being married I would intentionally take girlfriends to shopping centers with a Michaels to see if they would take the bait. |
Anonymous
| Wait...there is a Hobby Lobby in our area? |
Anonymous
| There is a lot of money to be made selling craft supplies to women. I'm always amazed by the huge variety of useless things you can buy at craft stores. Women who don't have jobs get bored. They need something to keep their minds occupied. |
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Make a budget. You each get an allowance. She may not feel that you going to the gym benefits her.
Or just get a divorce. You are obviously contemptuous of her and she seems pretty uninterested in you. So just split up. Then she can have her own place to clutter. |
Anonymous
Wow, you’re horrible. I’m glad she has some fun things in life to distract her how much her husband sucks. You completely missed the point of previous post. The point, genius, is that amusement is in the eye of the beholder. You probably spend money on crap she doesn’t find valuable. And I bet there’s some stuff about your physicality she’d like to change too... You each should get a fun money allowance, and then you stfu you about what she spends it on. |
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Consider yourself lucky, OP. She could have a horse.
-horse owner who pities her own DH |