Privy to 20-something nephew's red flags, tell brother (management) before he hires him?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is your nephew addicted to drugs? A spousal abuser? Publicly exposing himself?

Please butt out otherwise.

That is my hunch, sadly, but I can't prove that. As in, if you explained his pattern of behavior and decisions to impartial people, it sounds self-destructive and stoner-like.

Aren’t most new hires required to do a drug test?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely warn your brother no question. I can only assume the huffy responses here are from mothers of similar fail sons. Just stick to the facts when you tell him, sounds like they’re perfectly damning without any added opinion from you.

That's the impression I too was getting from such spirited and borderline unhinged defenses.

My kids are awesome. I would not trade their lives for anything in the world.

OP sounds mean as a junkyard dog.

[Anonymous]

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Appalling advice.

OP have you spoken to your nephew about his life? Offered to help him get back on track in some way? Otherwise, you are doing something really evil by cutting off another relative who is willing to do that for their own family member.

[Anonymous]

OP. Read up on detachment. It could change your life for the better. Peace.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anon email

Appalling advice.

OP have you spoken to your nephew about his life? Offered to help him get back on track in some way? Otherwise, you are doing something really evil by cutting off another relative who is willing to do that for their own family member.

My husband and I have tried to help and have been victims of the mooching in various forms. But we never put their family or his business "out there". We have first-hand experience with how his parents and he spun their mooching and his low character and then moved onto new hosts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you always this negative OP? Mind your own business and let the kid have a chance to succeed. Not everyone is "perfect" like you.

Let the young guy have a chance. If he can't cut it he will wash out on his own.

How many chances do young people get? How do people, especially young people, ever learn from mistakes and character flaws if they're allowed to just mooch and move on to exploit kind people over and over and over?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anon email

Appalling advice.

OP have you spoken to your nephew about his life? Offered to help him get back on track in some way? Otherwise, you are doing something really evil by cutting off another relative who is willing to do that for their own family member.

My husband and I have tried to help and have been victims of the mooching in various forms. But we never put their family or his business "out there". We have first-hand experience with how his parents and he spun their mooching and his low character and then moved onto new hosts.

Damn, we get it. You really hate this kid. You didn't answer, though -- do you have a longstanding problem with your sister as well?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anon email

Appalling advice.

OP have you spoken to your nephew about his life? Offered to help him get back on track in some way? Otherwise, you are doing something really evil by cutting off another relative who is willing to do that for their own family member.

My husband and I have tried to help and have been victims of the mooching in various forms. But we never put their family or his business "out there". We have first-hand experience with how his parents and he spun their mooching and his low character and then moved onto new hosts.

Damn, we get it. You really hate this kid. You didn't answer, though -- do you have a longstanding problem with your sister as well?

Not in the slightest, aside from this very specific snowplowing and mooching to shield her son from consequences.

[Anonymous]

It's like a kid crashing his new Jeep because he was reckless driving. And instead of letting him hitch rides for a while, or some sort of consequence, you immediately go buy him a new Range Rover.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anon email

Appalling advice.

OP have you spoken to your nephew about his life? Offered to help him get back on track in some way? Otherwise, you are doing something really evil by cutting off another relative who is willing to do that for their own family member.

My husband and I have tried to help and have been victims of the mooching in various forms. But we never put their family or his business "out there". We have first-hand experience with how his parents and he spun their mooching and his low character and then moved onto new hosts.

Damn, we get it. You really hate this kid. You didn't answer, though -- do you have a longstanding problem with your sister as well?

Not in the slightest, aside from this very specific snowplowing and mooching to shield her son from consequences.

The only concrete thing you have told us is that he paid someone to write a paper. You're going to have to provide WAY more evidence to justify this level of vitriol you have for a kid that is not your responsibility.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anon email

Appalling advice.

OP have you spoken to your nephew about his life? Offered to help him get back on track in some way? Otherwise, you are doing something really evil by cutting off another relative who is willing to do that for their own family member.

My husband and I have tried to help and have been victims of the mooching in various forms. But we never put their family or his business "out there". We have first-hand experience with how his parents and he spun their mooching and his low character and then moved onto new hosts.

Damn, we get it. You really hate this kid. You didn't answer, though -- do you have a longstanding problem with your sister as well?

Not in the slightest, aside from this very specific snowplowing and mooching to shield her son from consequences.

The only concrete thing you have told us is that he paid someone to write a paper. You're going to have to provide WAY more evidence to justify this level of vitriol you have for a kid that is not your responsibility.

Actually I went back and checked, that he TRIED to pay someone (your daughter so you're raising the next gossipy generation, congratulations) to write some papers. It is not even clear he was successful in this.

[Anonymous]

OP, nice people don't use the word "mooch." Your nephew sounds troubled. I hope he gets help, maybe from his uncle, maybe not. I doubt his screwing up would impact his uncle's life much, unless holding a grudge runs in the family. That can cause long lasting and needless pain and suffering....

[Anonymous]

This is an odd thread.

You could tell your brother that the nephew attempted to pay your daughter to write papers. You could say he was fired from his last job due to ______. Are there other facts worth mentioning? Stick to specifics. And what do you think the best next step is for the nephew?

[Anonymous]

Immediately bailing young family members out is how the rich stay rich.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you always this negative OP? Mind your own business and let the kid have a chance to succeed. Not everyone is "perfect" like you.

Let the young guy have a chance. If he can't cut it he will wash out on his own.

How many chances do young people get? How do people, especially young people, ever learn from mistakes and character flaws if they're allowed to just mooch and move on to exploit kind people over and over and over?

It will eventually catch up with him. He's in his 20's, not 40's. And he may have other stuff going on that you're not aware of (likely). But you seem determined to spread sh*t about him, so have fun blowing up your family, drama llama.