YouTube Influencer Myka Stauffer "rehomes" adopted son

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Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised people are being so sympathetic to the parents. She says in the video that he had "been spending time with different people" since he left their home, which seems code for people trying him out like an experiment.

Passing around a toddler with attachment disorder seems like a HORRIBLE, SELFISH, TRAUMATIZING idea. I feel like it would even be potentially traumatizing for toddlers without RAD. They're too little to understand.

Same. I don't get all the sympathetic responses in here. These people are horrible.

Would she have given up her new baby if it had been born with special needs?

In some ways, it is WORSE because this child was already traumatized and because they adopted him knowing that he had special needs. They chose this, and then decided it was just too much.

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I hope her followers are contacting her advertisers en masse to say their products will be boycotted if they don’t drop her. Same with YouTube. Her “platform” needs to be taken down so that she doesn’t have a soapbox to stand on and preach her POV anymore. It’s been successfully done to other “influencers” and fellow terrible moms (Jenelle Evans) to keep them from communicating their views to others that don’t know any better...

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I mean, this sounds bad but who really wants to raise a child with severe autism and RAD? Especially with 4 other children in the picture.

I wouldn't. She did a video once about how expensive and time consuming his therapies were. If I could opt out of that, I would too.

Would I actually give the kid back? Probably not but I'd want to, for sure.

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He doesn't fit their Influencer lifestyle of frequent travel, novelty, new million dollar home builds every few years, and four other siblings.

A child like that needs a lot of consistency and stability.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, this sounds bad but who really wants to raise a child with severe autism and RAD? Especially with 4 other children in the picture.

I wouldn't. She did a video once about how expensive and time consuming his therapies were. If I could opt out of that, I would too.

Would I actually give the kid back? Probably not but I'd want to, for sure.

Then why adopt a child with special needs? They knew he would have delays before even leaving for China.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, this sounds bad but who really wants to raise a child with severe autism and RAD? Especially with 4 other children in the picture.

I wouldn't. She did a video once about how expensive and time consuming his therapies were. If I could opt out of that, I would too.

Would I actually give the kid back? Probably not but I'd want to, for sure.

For me, the issue is less giving him up than it is the fact she adopted him in the first place. That’s where the error lies. These problems were foreseeable. I think reasonable people would question their initial motives in pursuing this, given that they seemed unwilling to actually change their lives to accommodate his needs. I have friends with 4+ kids, and it’s a juggle in the best of circumstances. Intentionally adding in a special needs kid, then having another baby, building a house, making it all public on IG while it’s happening? That I will judge them for.

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Anonymous wrote:Influencers are largely idiots and need to get real jobs.

She had a real job. She was a nurse but she lost her job after she attacked a pregnant woman. She pushed a medical cart into her during a fight.

These people are super trashy

Oh I need to know more about this please.

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The adoption video is so cringe worthy. She filmed herself in the hotel curling her hair and putting on makeup and getting all dolled up. It's all about the view and the likes for them.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TL7nPuAjoRs

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, this sounds bad but who really wants to raise a child with severe autism and RAD? Especially with 4 other children in the picture.

I wouldn't. She did a video once about how expensive and time consuming his therapies were. If I could opt out of that, I would too.

Would I actually give the kid back? Probably not but I'd want to, for sure.

But she knew she was adopting a child with some special needs. What did she expect would happen with such a child? That his issues would just magically dissolve with no intervention?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Influencers are largely idiots and need to get real jobs.

She had a real job. She was a nurse but she lost her job after she attacked a pregnant woman. She pushed a medical cart into her during a fight.

These people are super trashy

Oh I need to know more about this please.

google Myka Bellisari "nurse" and you'll see the court docs come up

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Anonymous wrote:He doesn't fit their Influencer lifestyle of frequent travel, novelty, new million dollar home builds every few years, and four other siblings.

A child like that needs a lot of consistency and stability.

Yeah this is the issue in a nutshell. They could have kept him but that would mean radically changing their lifestyle and how they make money. I'm assuming they told the doctors that wouldn't be happening (going back to normal jobs and giving YouTube up) and that's why rehoming came up.

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I'm always suspicious of people who adopt kids when they already have their own bio kids, it seems like a recipe for disaster, especially when they have to "raise money" to adopt the child from overseas.

Instead, they could have fostered a traumatized child from here, but then they would have some oversight.

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I'm always suspicious of people who adopt kids when they already have their own bio kids, it seems like a recipe for disaster, especially when they have to "raise money" to adopt the child from overseas.

Instead, they could have fostered a traumatized child from here, but then they would have some oversight.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, this sounds bad but who really wants to raise a child with severe autism and RAD? Especially with 4 other children in the picture.

I wouldn't. She did a video once about how expensive and time consuming his therapies were. If I could opt out of that, I would too.

Would I actually give the kid back? Probably not but I'd want to, for sure.

Then why adopt a child with special needs? They knew he would have delays before even leaving for China.

+1 There's a perspective among some (white, Christian) adoptive parents that any home in the United States is better than any home in the child's country of origin. But that's not always true, and I think it's worth interrogating whether these folks did more harm than good by removing Huxley from his home culture, language, and whatever supports he could have received in a Chinese foster home (which is increasingly the model).

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, this sounds bad but who really wants to raise a child with severe autism and RAD? Especially with 4 other children in the picture.

I wouldn't. She did a video once about how expensive and time consuming his therapies were. If I could opt out of that, I would too.

Would I actually give the kid back? Probably not but I'd want to, for sure.

For me, the issue is less giving him up than it is the fact she adopted him in the first place. That’s where the error lies. These problems were foreseeable. I think reasonable people would question their initial motives in pursuing this, given that they seemed unwilling to actually change their lives to accommodate his needs. I have friends with 4+ kids, and it’s a juggle in the best of circumstances. Intentionally adding in a special needs kid, then having another baby, building a house, making it all public on IG while it’s happening? That I will judge them for.

Part of this is on the adoption agency for approving them to adopt.