Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?

[Anonymous]

Not going through this whole thread but the answer is No.

I know lots of plain, chubby women who have partnered up easily while slender, attractive women have remained single (maybe that's why they are still slender and attractive?)

I'm not trying to be politically correct here, but personality matters for long term relationships and marriage. For better or for worse. For "worse" only because often it means a man wants a laid-back personality who will just let him walk over her and do what he wants. High-strung, high-maintenance and intense women have less success in maintaining a relationship, no matter how hot they are.

A man would generally rather marry a slightly overweight average looking woman than a woman who is "emotional" or full of "drama"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you will need to look at ages 65 and older

That's extreme, like 20 years older? OP shouldn't exclude them, but there is definitely men in their 50s or even 40s who would date her.

[Anonymous]

My ex wife is beautiful and spends tons of time and money on her physical appearance, but she is also very reserved sexually


WITH YOU.

She is out there screwing like a mink with other dudes.

So what? Why should this ex-husband care who his EDW screws (like a mink). It appears this guy is happy getting his share with his current gf.

Many, many women who were not at all interested in having sex with their husband become very interested in having sex with whomever they fancy post-divorce. More power to them and to the post-divorce men who enjoy them (all the more because these men were not having sex with their wives pre-divorce).
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[Anonymous]

My ex wife is beautiful and spends tons of time and money on her physical appearance, but she is also very reserved sexually and narcissistic.

Maybe she needs a spanking.

[Anonymous]

You will find a lot of horny divorced guys who just want sex and games. These guys are other women's cast offs that are not good long term partners unless you want a booty call with an aging man child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you will need to look at ages 65 and older

That's extreme, like 20 years older? OP shouldn't exclude them, but there is definitely men in their 50s or even 40s who would date her.

If you are interested in good sex look for guys in 20-30's. Most guys >40 are short on stamina and have ED issues.

If sex doesn't matter look for an older guy, their sex drive and ability is fading in the rear view mirror but they may be good companions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op - you don’t want a nice guy. You’re not wired to respect a nice guy. Just find another a-hole like the ones you’ve always been attracted to.

Or stay single and realize you simply are not marriage material.

Where did you get that from? And why be such a dick?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Use the word “ sensual” in your online dating profile and the men will flock. Good men, as someone said, are hard to find at any age. Good luck!

Someone told me to put "with a naughty streak" in my profile and my match rate exploded. Men are fairly simple, rock them in the bedroom and they will treat you like gold.[/quote}

I have not found this to be true. And I am attractive and make a good income (a woman). It seemed to never matter how good the sex was. An asshole is still an asshole.

[Anonymous]

I have not found this to be true. And I am attractive and make a good income (a woman). It seemed to never matter how good the sex was. An asshole is still an asshole.

100% true.

[Anonymous]

You gotta be good in your life and you will attract a partner--looks isn't the only aspect. I would focus on developing hobbies/talents that really make you happy and do them. When you are happy, you will be very attractive to others--men and women (as friends). I would also say exercise and staying active will help a lot too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

My ex wife is beautiful and spends tons of time and money on her physical appearance, but she is also very reserved sexually


WITH YOU.

She is out there screwing like a mink with other dudes.

So what? Why should this ex-husband care who his EDW screws (like a mink). It appears this guy is happy getting his share with his current gf.

Many, many women who were not at all interested in having sex with their husband become very interested in having sex with whomever they fancy post-divorce. More power to them and to the post-divorce men who enjoy them (all the more because these men were not having sex with their wives pre-divorce).

So what? The guy needs to do some self-examination. The reason his wife was "reserved sexually" was because he got fat, lazy, and boring. If he does not recognize that, then he is destined to end up in the same place in all his future relationships.

It is possibly inevitable that as the years pass, wives lose interest in having sex with their husbands, but many men accelerate the process when they let themselves become fat, lazy, and boring.

[Anonymous]

personality matters for long term relationships and marriage. For better or for worse. For "worse" only because often it means a man wants a laid-back personality who will just let him walk over her and do what he wants. High-strung, high-maintenance and intense women have less success in maintaining a relationship,

NO woman will let you walk all over her and do whatever you want.

ALL women will relentlessly try to take control of the relationship. It's like the death of a thousand cuts - every day she pushes to see if you'll give in, and if you do (just to get a moment's peace) then tomorrow she's back pushing for something else. It's damned exhausting. And the sad thing is, if you let them win, they hate you for it and nothing dries up their panties like the resulting contempt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

personality matters for long term relationships and marriage. For better or for worse. For "worse" only because often it means a man wants a laid-back personality who will just let him walk over her and do what he wants. High-strung, high-maintenance and intense women have less success in maintaining a relationship,

NO woman will let you walk all over her and do whatever you want.

ALL women will relentlessly try to take control of the relationship. It's like the death of a thousand cuts - every day she pushes to see if you'll give in, and if you do (just to get a moment's peace) then tomorrow she's back pushing for something else. It's damned exhausting. And the sad thing is, if you let them win, they hate you for it and nothing dries up their panties like the resulting contempt.

You sound like quite the catch.

[Anonymous]

So what? The guy needs to do some self-examination. The reason his wife was "reserved sexually" was because he got fat, lazy, and boring. If he does not recognize that, then he is destined to end up in the same place in all his future relationships.

It is possibly inevitable that as the years pass, wives lose interest in having sex with their husbands, but many men accelerate the process when they let themselves become fat, lazy, and boring.

How are you sure that he got fat, lazy, or boring? Do you know the poster and the situation?

If not, you do not have a clue why he felt his wife was reserved sexually. Maybe his XDW was batshit crazy (like you appear to be) and this craziness prevented her from having a normal sexual relationship with him.

Without knowing anything about their situation, you are the one that should do the self-examination and STFU instead of writing crazy posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Use the word “ sensual” in your online dating profile and the men will flock. Good men, as someone said, are hard to find at any age. Good luck!

Also "Ruebenesque" and "Zaftig." Bon voyage!