Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?

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Anonymous wrote:Try to let go of needing a man. They are a headache!

I don’t need a man, but I married for companionship and want that again. I like being married and having a husband.

Apparently your DH didn't like the same things in you. So take some time alone and figure yourself out.

How do you know? We don't know why the husband wants a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband wants a divorce. I’m wondering if there’s any hope for a regular skinny fat chick, no Botox, not great at doing makeup or fashion. I just want a nice guy who actually likes and loves me. Possible?

I'm an average looking woman. Guy friend told me posture is key. Stand tall, shoulders back. Walk with good posture. Good posture makes a "5" an "8". An "8" a "10" etc. It is free. You look better.

[Anonymous]

Apparently your DH didn't like the same things in you. So take some time alone and figure yourself out.

Not OP. What makes you think she needs "to figure herself out"??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband wants a divorce. I’m wondering if there’s any hope for a regular skinny fat chick, no Botox, not great at doing makeup or fashion. I just want a nice guy who actually likes and loves me. Possible?

I'm an average looking woman. Guy friend told me posture is key. Stand tall, shoulders back. Walk with good posture. Good posture makes a "5" an "8". An "8" a "10" etc. It is free. You look better.

I think this is what a PP meant by “ how a woman carries herself.”

[Anonymous]

Hire a personal trainer and recomp your body. Add some muscle and lean off some fat. The way you feel about yourself is very powerful, plus you look great when you’re fit.

The fit friends that I know have a lot of options when it comes to guys.

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Anonymous wrote:Hire a personal trainer and recomp your body. Add some muscle and lean off some fat. The way you feel about yourself is very powerful, plus you look great when you’re fit.

The fit friends that I know have a lot of options when it comes to guys.

I’m editing my post to say that its the same with my older guy friends. If they’re fit and have a reasonably solid career they’ve got a lot of options.

[Anonymous]

I'm a divorced dad in my 40's who has aged well and gets complimented by on women frequently. (Typing that makes me cringe, but laying the groundwork that I can pretty much have my pick) My ex wife is beautiful and spends tons of time and money on her physical appearance, but she is also very reserved sexually and narcissistic. My girlfriend never wears makeup. She has crows feet, age lines and whatnot from being a single mom who works her ass off. BY FAR my girlfriend is more beautiful to me! It even drove the ex nuts "Well, I'm prettier than her..." she huffed one day. My girlfriend loves her kids with passion. She cares for elderly people. She is down for anything and spontaneous. She has embraced the aging process and carries herself well. She is an enthusiastic fox in the bedroom and confident. I don't know which of the two would win in a beauty contest with the public, but my girlfriend takes the pageant by far given all categories. My girlfriend also appreciates the things I do whereas my ex felt entitled to everything in life.

So don't be discouraged. Now don't get me wrong. My girlfriend is in pretty good shape, but she just isn't a superficial person. Random advice...get a Jeep. Not a fancy expensive thing. Just a basic Jeep. Join an off-road club and you will run into some good dudes who aren't all about the superficial stuff. If you don't, you'll still have fun and meet lots of friends.

[Anonymous]

No but you should be able to form a sentence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a divorced dad in my 40's who has aged well and gets complimented by on women frequently. (Typing that makes me cringe, but laying the groundwork that I can pretty much have my pick) My ex wife is beautiful and spends tons of time and money on her physical appearance, but she is also very reserved sexually and narcissistic. My girlfriend never wears makeup. She has crows feet, age lines and whatnot from being a single mom who works her ass off. BY FAR my girlfriend is more beautiful to me! It even drove the ex nuts "Well, I'm prettier than her..." she huffed one day. My girlfriend loves her kids with passion. She cares for elderly people. She is down for anything and spontaneous. She has embraced the aging process and carries herself well. She is an enthusiastic fox in the bedroom and confident. I don't know which of the two would win in a beauty contest with the public, but my girlfriend takes the pageant by far given all categories. My girlfriend also appreciates the things I do whereas my ex felt entitled to everything in life.

So don't be discouraged. Now don't get me wrong. My girlfriend is in pretty good shape, but she just isn't a superficial person. Random advice...get a Jeep. Not a fancy expensive thing. Just a basic Jeep. Join an off-road club and you will run into some good dudes who aren't all about the superficial stuff. If you don't, you'll still have fun and meet lots of friends.

Yeah OP, buy a Jeep and go 4 wheeling. Report back.

[Anonymous]

Definitely as long as you are open to dating other divorced people and/or other people with kids and as long as you aren't expecting someone younger who has zero baggage to drop/sacrifice everything and *financially* and emotionally rescue and fully support you and your kids. Remember the thread about the recent divorcee who has never worked a day in her life and just stayed at home between graduating college nad having her kid at 40? And now she's looking for someone her age or younger with no baggage to just rescue her? She's going to be miserable.

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Anonymous wrote:Op - you don’t want a nice guy. You’re not wired to respect a nice guy. Just find another a-hole like the ones you’ve always been attracted to.

Or stay single and realize you simply are not marriage material.

Go away, incel.

[Anonymous]

I’m wondering if there’s any hope for a regular skinny fat chick, no Botox, not great at doing makeup or fashion.

Being "skinny fat" is something that can be fixed. Makeup and fashion are things that can be learned.

You sound lazy. Has it occurred to you that it probably contributed to the demise of your marriage if you're "skinny fat", don't dress well, and don't bother with makeup?

"Can I get a good man if I don't do any work to improve myself?" Maybe. But you won't deserve it. And very likely your next relationship will also fail if you remain indifferent to your physique and appearance.

On the other hand, if you get in shape, dress well, and learn how to do makeup well, you are more likely to get a better man and keep him.

[Anonymous]

My ex wife is beautiful and spends tons of time and money on her physical appearance, but she is also very reserved sexually

WITH YOU.

She is out there screwing like a mink with other dudes.

[Anonymous]

How many kids do you have and how old?

Most men don't want little kids as baggage.

[Anonymous]

you will need to look at ages 65 and older