Do you have to super attractive to find a good man in your 40’s?
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Anonymous
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As a man, to me, how a woman carried herself and takes care of herself would be more important than how attractive she is.
I have dated some beautiful woman that just couldn’t “get it together”. Just couldn’t carry themselves well in public, always looked “out of place”. |
Anonymous
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Op - you don’t want a nice guy. You’re not wired to respect a nice guy. Just find another a-hole like the ones you’ve always been attracted to.
Or stay single and realize you simply are not marriage material. |
Anonymous
| You’ll probably find someone nice! There’s a lot in the middle of the pack. It will be easier for you to find love than if you were a high earning woman or were drop dead gorgeous- you’re more of an outlier then |
Anonymous
Totally impossible. Make amends with your husband. |
Anonymous
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OP, the good guys want someone who is a good partner, not just the hottest woman they can get. I have two male relatives who met and married divorced women with kids in their 40's. Both relatives are high earners, one of them ridiculously high earning. Neither of the women is a bombshell. They're decent looking, but that's it. But the big issue is that both women are great partners and wonderful moms and now grandmas several years later.
For the extremely high earner, he had kids from a previous marriage and so did his now second wife. She's educated, involved with the community, and took over a lot of parenting duties for all the kids. She's a wonderful person and he's lucky to have her. |
Anonymous
Looked out of place? What on earth does that mean? What does “carrying oneself well in public” mean? She got sloppy drunk? |
Anonymous
Someone told me to put "with a naughty streak" in my profile and my match rate exploded. Men are fairly simple, rock them in the bedroom and they will treat you like gold. |
Anonymous
| I would consider spending some time away from dating and figuring out how you are living your single life before leaping into a relationship, but yes, plenty of women in their forties go on and find boyfriends and even remarry. |
Anonymous
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Half of people are of below average attractiveness*
*Shocking but true! |
Anonymous
What men think is "super attractive" and what women think is "super attractive" are wildly different. Men like someone who is confident, happy, and cares about them. That's pretty much it. You don't need to be great at doing makeup or fashion, and you don't need Botox. |
Anonymous
| You sound awesome OP. It might take time, but I'm positive you will find some who will appreciate you. |
Anonymous
I do too, so I get it. But why does your husband want a divorce? |
Anonymous
It IS shocking. Because once you get to know them (provided they are good people) their looks start to go up. |
Anonymous
I'm a woman, but the word "sensual" creeps me out, but "with a naughty streak" would intrigue!! |
Anonymous
Apparently your DH didn't like the same things in you. So take some time alone and figure yourself out. |