How does a man getting turned down by his wife feel?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hurt, angry, unappreciated, unattractive. Need I say more?

Stop farting and burping and grabbing your nuts like you’re alone. Try making love to her instead of just pouncing. Take her out. Give her time to make herself feel attractive. Talk to her like you’re not always right. Stop making her do 100% of the emotional labor.
Yes, women tire of their husbands. You need to be playful and give her imagination space so she can be motivated to have sex with you again. Sorry but this is the truth.
She has responsibilities too. She needs to pull her weight without complaint, tell you you’re sexy, flirt, do thoughtful things. Just thought you’d want the woman’s perspective too.

Oh, did you forget to read the fine print in the marriage contract that says you, the dancing monkey, will have to dance faster and faster and faster as her interest inexorably declines? Too bad for you. Now dance, monkry, dance!

Does taking your wife out sometimes and watching your own children for a few minutes while she makes herself attractive really make you feel like a dancing monkey?
What did you think your life would be like when you got married and had children? Did you think it would be exactly the same as being alone except that you now have a clean home, cooked meals, nightly sex, and double the income? You never thought she would want anything in return? Not even that you recognize her existence and don’t fart in front of her?

What are you talking about? Maybe start your own thread? OP asked men what they feel when they get turned down. OP did not ask about you and your martyrdom. You seem to hate your husband and your life. These are all things you chose. You are not a princess and the world does not revolve around you. I know this is hard but think about someone else besides yourself.

I don’t hate my life. I am just puzzled by the “dancing monkey” comment. And now the princess thing.
The pp’s list all seems totally normal.

Does everything your wife asks you to do make you feel like a dancing monkey?

[Anonymous]

It feels good to be rejected. It really does.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: I have never turned down my DH ever, because I am more interested in sex than he is. I have recently semi-slept through sex though, and he did not mind.

Troll!

Nah, not the poster but there are plenty of women that love sex. Unfortunately, men value are taught to think that women that love sex are whores, so they shun them and shy away from dating them. It’s funny, I am single and love it still in my late 40s. Men still carry this thinking with them after divorce, they think that getting a younger woman will solve the problem. It does but only temporarily.

[Anonymous]

I'm in my forties and married 20+ years. DW's default answer to sex is always a no. I mentioned it over the weekend and suggested that maybe she wear a nightgown to bed. She laughed and didn't think I was serious about it. I think she would rather have a root canal without anesthesia than have sex anymore. I have officially given up. Say no to often and he may too

[Anonymous]

While no one is perfect, let’s face it, even the nearest to perfection DH becomes boring to the average woman. Monogamy is the problem at the root of all of this, craptastic husbands just bring on the inevitable faster.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I have never turned down my DH ever, because I am more interested in sex than he is. I have recently semi-slept through sex though, and he did not mind.

Troll!

Nah, not the poster but there are plenty of women that love sex. Unfortunately, men value are taught to think that women that love sex are whores, so they shun them and shy away from dating them. It’s funny, I am single and love it still in my late 40s. Men still carry this thinking with them after divorce, they think that getting a younger woman will solve the problem. It does but only temporarily.

No women are the ones who attack women who have sex. Just stop with your sexist ways.

[Anonymous]

I'd ask my DH but he'd have to think back to his ex wife because I've never turned him down.

He's been a real jerk and there have been plenty of times that I've gone down on him and rode him wuth my eyes closed thinking he was someone else the entire time. But I've never turned him down. It seems unnecessarily cruel and I like sex too much.

[Anonymous]

It feels as good as bleeding 3 to 5 days and not dying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It feels as good as bleeding 3 to 5 days and not dying.

Most women bleed 5 to 7 days every month without dying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It feels as good as bleeding 3 to 5 days and not dying.

Most women bleed 5 to 7 days every month without dying.

Well there ya go... Same concept.
Never trust anything that bleeds that long and doesn’t die.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd ask my DH but he'd have to think back to his ex wife because I've never turned him down.

He's been a real jerk and there have been plenty of times that I've gone down on him and rode him wuth my eyes closed thinking he was someone else the entire time. But I've never turned him down. It seems unnecessarily cruel and I like sex too much.

Second marriages are fresh. Come back to us in 20 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I have never turned down my DH ever, because I am more interested in sex than he is. I have recently semi-slept through sex though, and he did not mind.

Troll!

Nah, not the poster but there are plenty of women that love sex. Unfortunately, men value are taught to think that women that love sex are whores, so they shun them and shy away from dating them. It’s funny, I am single and love it still in my late 40s. Men still carry this thinking with them after divorce, they think that getting a younger woman will solve the problem. It does but only temporarily.

Oh sure, plenty of good women love sex.

Even the one who's married to you.*





* Just not with you.

[Anonymous]

Currently divorcing my wife of over 20 years largely because of rejection. I'm a very attractive man, hard worker, good income, great father, funny, blah, blah, blah...never strayed. She finally rejected me so much to the point my mental/emotional and even physical health was greatly impacted. Occasional rejection is manageable, but persistent rejection eats away at a man's soul (I'd imagine a woman's, too)

Rejection turned this very faithful man into a bitter person for a while who now has filed for divorce, separated and having incredible sex with a woman who is the antithesis of my soon to be ex-wife. I can't believe I took so long to leave that selfish woman. Once I had a taste of what real intimacy was...no way I was going to reconcile with my wife.

[Anonymous]

My best friend got her DH to understand by repeatedly offering him an Italian sub (his favorite food at one time). It was the funniest thing I’ve read on social media.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd ask my DH but he'd have to think back to his ex wife because I've never turned him down.

He's been a real jerk and there have been plenty of times that I've gone down on him and rode him wuth my eyes closed thinking he was someone else the entire time. But I've never turned him down. It seems unnecessarily cruel and I like sex too much.

Second marriages are fresh. Come back to us in 20 years

I just feel sorry for both of them. She imagines that she has to do that because otherwise she’s no better than his ex-wife (the villainess in this fairy tale).
And he’s getting pity sex unaware that she’s fantasizing about someone else.