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One child in private, one in public. No special needs. Anyone doing this?
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Anonymous
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OP here. The truth is is that I have TWO CHILDREN OF THE SAME SEX, but I do not want to put all of my honest info out there. SEXISM CANNOT BE THE CASE HERE, and I have made it clear over and over what I feel the issues are. Again, I appreciate people commenting, even the sexism bit, and maybe I am a bit defensive, but it simply is NOT the case here, and I think between my info about the anxiety, etc, people would get that, but it is DCURBANMOMS, and you get what you get.
So PLEASE. THE KIDS ARE THE SAME SEX. There is no favoritism that way. Maybe there could be perceived favoritism of the older child for going to the private school, but NOT b/c of the sex. In terms of reasonable answers later for my second, is it reasonable to say "when you were ready for K, you were comfortable in very large groups and blossomed in crowds and I felt confident you could handle it. I felt confident that your older sibling blossomed in smaller groups and was more comfortable with less action around him." Could that be a valid answer? (And there is no sarcasm in that question.) |
Anonymous
I think that's a reasonable answer but I might think a little more deeply. You're making it sound as though private is always the superior choice (which it isn't) and as though your older child is somehow less competent than the younger one. If that's how you think, it's how you think. But maybe the public school would be an awesome choice for your more social, more confident child - not a lesser choice that s/he can manage! My kids are both in private schools but in different ones. When they ask why we chose different schools for them, we didn't say that DC2 couldn't handle what DC1 could manage. We told them that they thrive in different environments - more or less competition, bigger or smaller classes, more or less personal contact with the teachers, more or less traditional approaches to teaching, etc. For each child we tried to find the school where they would flourish. |
Anonymous
| PP, you got me thinking....hmmmm....thanks. |
Anonymous
I not believe you. |
Anonymous
| Why you not believe me? hee hee |
Anonymous
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Any with a kid in public hoping that she sends her kid that just had the sex change to a private school? And anyone with a kid in private, hoping that she places both in public?
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Anonymous
sexist and racist too, aren't you lovely? |
Anonymous
I believe her. I change gender of my kids all the time on this site, unless gender really matters. I take no chances. Sometimes I have twins in 2nd grade, one in 2nd and one in 1st, two boys, two girls.... The folks at my kids' schools would know it was me if I got too close to the truth. |
Anonymous
I do that too, although I don't think I know anyone here. You can never be too sure. |
Anonymous
| OP here. I swear on everything holy in this world that I have misrepresented the sexes of my children PURPOSELY so that I would not be identified in this tiny community I live in. Why would I lie?? To hide my sexism? Come on. I may be favoring one child over another (according to some posters), I may be favoring private school over public school (which could actually be true, the more I think about it), but sexism is simply not the issue. I promise. |
Anonymous
Sorry? How exactly does this make her sexist or racist? |
Anonymous
| I think people are hitting the box of wine HARD tonight. The comments are getting a tad kooky. |
Anonymous
I don't know what I think is funnier: the high probability that you are correct or the fact that people buy wine by the box to begin with. Either way, thanks for the laugh. 
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Anonymous
LOL! Thanks (both of you) for a good chuckle tonight. |
Anonymous
| HA! I am the one that made the box of wine comment. And you may not believe it (again) but I am the OP! I am not all bad! |