Question for parents who let kids use electronics with sound in public places without headphones

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Anonymous wrote:I let my kids use my phone without headphones. I try to remember for things like a flight, but if I forget, I can promise that you would rather hear Frozen at a low volume than listen to my kids 801930842 questions and signing the songs from Frozen.

No, don’t try to rationalize. It’s just plain rude and I would ask the flight attendant to advise you to mute the device.

Yes, and have everybody instead be forced to listen to screaming/crying. You’d surely be considered a hero for your no nonsense approach to child rearing.

Ok, so no worries from you if I decide to sit next to your kid and watch loud porn on my iPad? Free country and MYOB, amiright?

Also, if your kids scream and cry when they have to do without an iPad, you are a really shitty parent.

You seem really intelligent. Please tell me more about the sameness of pornography and toddler videos.

I'd rather hear the porn

Fair enough

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish my life was so simple that hearing a kids tablet made the list of my life stressors. So much so that I even found it “appalling”.

Another one of these silly responses. I'm sure the OP wishes their life were "so simple" as well. Try to stop patting yourself on the back long enough to use those critical thinking skills and realize that the topic someone is posting about is most likely not the only thing going on in their life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wish my life was so simple that hearing a kids tablet made the list of my life stressors. So much so that I even found it “appalling”.

Another one of these silly responses. I'm sure the OP wishes their life were "so simple" as well. Try to stop patting yourself on the back long enough to use those critical thinking skills and realize that the topic someone is posting about is most likely not the only thing going on in their life.

Obviously it’s not the only thing going on in their life ?. Still amusing that it’s offensive enough to ruin their whole trip and/or prevent somebody from wanting to avoid visiting a “hellhole country”.

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Anonymous wrote:I generally don’t allow my kid to have a phone when we are in public spaces. As a result, I don’t carry headphones with me all the time. So if there is some unexpected reason that I hand the child my phone, I probably wouldn’t have headphones handy. I just don’t carry them with me all the time. Or something like a plane, I would bring headphones.

This has happened to me too, so I tell the kids they have to put the game/phone on mute so I don't disturb others.

This. If I don't have headphones, the volume is muted. I'm sure people have lots of excuses, but it's inconsiderate and rude, whether it's an adult FaceTiming on the Metro with no headphones or a kid playing a video game with no headphones. Don't do it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I let my kids use my phone without headphones. I try to remember for things like a flight, but if I forget, I can promise that you would rather hear Frozen at a low volume than listen to my kids 801930842 questions and signing the songs from Frozen.

I would much rather listen to your children ask their questions and sing their songs than a device playing whatever. You might prefer they watch Frozen rather than interact with each other, you, and the world, but don't pretend you're doing it for our benefit.

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I find overhearing someone else's movie or music or video game is almost always more disruptive than hearing people talk or sing themselves. It's like loud cellphone conversations -- yes, people who talk really loud in confined spaces are annoying, but it's worse when it's on a cell phone. I'm not sure I can articulate why, it just is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I let my kids use my phone without headphones. I try to remember for things like a flight, but if I forget, I can promise that you would rather hear Frozen at a low volume than listen to my kids 801930842 questions and signing the songs from Frozen.

No, don’t try to rationalize. It’s just plain rude and I would ask the flight attendant to advise you to mute the device.

Yes, and have everybody instead be forced to listen to screaming/crying. You’d surely be considered a hero for your no nonsense approach to child rearing.

Ok, so no worries from you if I decide to sit next to your kid and watch loud porn on my iPad? Free country and MYOB, amiright?

Also, if your kids scream and cry when they have to do without an iPad, you are a really shitty parent.

You seem really intelligent. Please tell me more about the sameness of pornography and toddler videos.

NP. Actually, you don't get to insult anyone else's intelligence. You may be used to toddler videos, but many people find them extremely annoying. So offensive factor is way lower, yes, but annoying factor is the same. Still rude either way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you all say to parents when you see this? I too have toddlers but am not rude like this. My kids are also upset they don’t get iPads at doctors office waiting rooms and dinners and they see other kids listening to theirs without headphones. I’d like something to say so that other parents are aware that what they’re doing is incredibly annoying and that headphones are mandatory

I don't say anything to the parents. But we have been near people using devices without headphones, and my kid has asked why they aren't using headphones or why she has to use headphones, and I will tell her plainly that it's because it's inconsiderate not to use headphones. And I don't whisper -- if the parents hear me say it, so what? They already know it's annoying, and they don't care, apparently, but I don't have to pretend like it's okay.

If you're somewhere like a doctor's office or a restaurant, you could talk to the staff. If it bothers them, too, they'll say something to the parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I let my kids use my phone without headphones. I try to remember for things like a flight, but if I forget, I can promise that you would rather hear Frozen at a low volume than listen to my kids 801930842 questions and signing the songs from Frozen.

I would much rather listen to your children ask their questions and sing their songs than a device playing whatever. You might prefer they watch Frozen rather than interact with each other, you, and the world, but don't pretend you're doing it for our benefit.

+1

I find overhearing someone else's movie or music or video game is almost always more disruptive than hearing people talk or sing themselves. It's like loud cellphone conversations -- yes, people who talk really loud in confined spaces are annoying, but it's worse when it's on a cell phone. I'm not sure I can articulate why, it just is.

DD and I were just discussing this. You know when that person sitting near you in a restaurant is taking on speakerphone during her meal? For some reason, this is more annoying that two people having an in person conversation, but I don't really know why.

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Anonymous wrote:I have never seen this. I go to restaurants, airports, and hotels, and I use public transportation. And from the responses on this thread, it seems like very few people do this, and the few that do use it only rarely, try to be as unobtrusive as possible, use it for short periods of time, and would stop if asked.

I see this all the time. Restaurants, airports, doctor's offices, it doesn't matter. Kids are constantly on devices with the volume on. No, I don't want to listen to your kid's very loud and stupid game or show, and I would never let me children do that. I have a pair of earphones in my purse at all times, although I'm not one to give my kid a phone. Play a game, talk to them. I have five-year-old twins and they have never used a device other than at home or on an airplane, both with headphones. It's not hard!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not just your planet op. Get over it.

By why does that same sentiment not apply to the people who are thoughtless? It's not their planet either - so why don't they feel any sort of obligation to keep others in mind? They don't, because they're rude and entitled. I agree that OP needs to get over it only because people like that will never change, and while it drives me crazy, I choose to remove myself from the situation (if possible) or actively try to ignore it rather than allow some asshole to ruin my day.

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Anonymous wrote:I suppose I shouldn’t be shocked at how inconsiderate and selfish some people are, but it’s still pretty surprising to me that people are defending their appalling behavior here. There are decent ways to behave in public. Listening to a television show or video or game in a public place like a restaurant or public transportation is incredibly rude and inconsiderate. It’s laughable that someone even tried to say she was allowing Frozen songs for our consideration. Yes, I would much rather hear live humans around me conversing, not some annoying song or sound effects. It’s just that you’re too lazy to put in the effort to make conversation with your child.

FWIW, I’m a parent of a 6 year old and have literally never allowed him to use my phone in public without headphones. I’ve only ever allo rd him to use it, period, in a few unusual circumstances, like once when we were stuck at the airport for an inspected layover. We were packed at the boarding gate, people sitting on the floor all around us, everyone stressed, and my then 4-year old was getting whiny and antsy. So I let him use my phone. On MUTE, because I didn’t have headphones, and I wasn’t about to worsen other peope’s Stress by inflicting Blippi or Daniel Tiger on them.

Having that one kid must really be tough. Thank god you’re such a good parent!

Having multiple kids must be your excuse for everything.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not just your planet op. Get over it.

By why does that same sentiment not apply to the people who are thoughtless? It's not their planet either - so why don't they feel any sort of obligation to keep others in mind? They don't, because they're rude and entitled. I agree that OP needs to get over it only because people like that will never change, and while it drives me crazy, I choose to remove myself from the situation (if possible) or actively try to ignore it rather than allow some asshole to ruin my day.

Because people are going to make a little noise and things aren’t always going to be perfect and convenient for you.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not entitlement so much as desperation. If the choice is to avoid a meltdown vs having a little volume on my phone playing spongebob.... oh well you are gonna hear spongebob in your oh so peaceful airport concourse.

You don't need a phone to handle a meltdown.

x 1,000,000

Seriously, who are you people? And yes, I have kids. More than one. And yes, they've had meltdowns, including in public. Doesn't mean I've given them my phone or another device.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I let my kids use my phone without headphones. I try to remember for things like a flight, but if I forget, I can promise that you would rather hear Frozen at a low volume than listen to my kids 801930842 questions and signing the songs from Frozen.

I would much rather listen to your children ask their questions and sing their songs than a device playing whatever. You might prefer they watch Frozen rather than interact with each other, you, and the world, but don't pretend you're doing it for our benefit.

+1

I find overhearing someone else's movie or music or video game is almost always more disruptive than hearing people talk or sing themselves. It's like loud cellphone conversations -- yes, people who talk really loud in confined spaces are annoying, but it's worse when it's on a cell phone. I'm not sure I can articulate why, it just is.

The cellphone conversation is annoying because your brain can't process the information because you're only hearing one side of the conversation. It's harder to drown it out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I suppose I shouldn’t be shocked at how inconsiderate and selfish some people are, but it’s still pretty surprising to me that people are defending their appalling behavior here. There are decent ways to behave in public. Listening to a television show or video or game in a public place like a restaurant or public transportation is incredibly rude and inconsiderate. It’s laughable that someone even tried to say she was allowing Frozen songs for our consideration. Yes, I would much rather hear live humans around me conversing, not some annoying song or sound effects. It’s just that you’re too lazy to put in the effort to make conversation with your child.

FWIW, I’m a parent of a 6 year old and have literally never allowed him to use my phone in public without headphones. I’ve only ever allo rd him to use it, period, in a few unusual circumstances, like once when we were stuck at the airport for an inspected layover. We were packed at the boarding gate, people sitting on the floor all around us, everyone stressed, and my then 4-year old was getting whiny and antsy. So I let him use my phone. On MUTE, because I didn’t have headphones, and I wasn’t about to worsen other peope’s Stress by inflicting Blippi or Daniel Tiger on them.

Having that one kid must really be tough. Thank god you’re such a good parent!

Having multiple kids must be your excuse for everything.

It’s quite impressive how many situations I can attempt to excuse with having multiple kids.