Are you all cheating with ugly people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am objectively not as good looking as my APs wife. But I'm definitely in better shape. I'm not insecure. I'm good in bed. AP got tired of being rejected by his wife and now he's rejecting her. I'm fun and funny. Even before AP & I connected, I knew his wife was good looking but ... Not the kind of person I want to hang out with (fake-y, plastic-y, insecure).

My DH is slightly better looking than my AP. But. AP is bigger. Taller. Fitter. Funnier. Not insecure at all. And sexy as hell. And not my husband, who I no longer want to hang out with (and is somewhat insecure).

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Keep deluding yourself. Think about it you're a cheater as is your AP. You know nothing about him nor his family, it's like believing what a thief tells you. lol

Lady raise the bar, get your life together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

He wants me to marry him once his daughter goes to college. She’s 17 and it’s me dragging my feet...I’m content with an affair.

Please do it, so your husband has an opportunity to find someone who actually appreciates him. The way you talk about your husband says do much about you, and none of it good. Your AP will cheat on you soon enough, too. And his daughter will hate him. But you do you - which should be really easy since you have lots of practice at that.

You are an idiot. Clueless that life is messy and black and white. Smfh.....

NOT black and white

NP, not sure what black and white has to do with anything. Why so vitriolic?

[Anonymous]

Ugly, sexy people

[Anonymous]

Let me explain something to you. After a few years of marriage, most wives lose all sexual attraction .... for their husbands. At that point, the wife will simply go without sex for months/years/decades because women lack an internal sex drive and can sexually hibernate. The men of course immediately start cheating with any available woman and “looks great” is less important than “wants sex”.... because men have an active sex drive. But those wives after a few sexless years start getting bored and then along comes some horny married guy (his wife of course lost attraction for him) and he flirts his way into her pants.

The bottom line is that women are not morally superior but are lacking an actual sex drive which enables them to go long periods of time without sex. Also they are wired to lose attraction to their husbands so this is why most marriages are sexless ending in divorce. Men on the other hand HAVE a sex drive and can’t go more than a few weeks before they find a woman to cheat with. It all comes down to sex drive: men have one, women don’t. This is why you ladies can easily find sex with any man ... BECAUSE you don’t really want it.

Not sure where your “bottom line” information comes from. I hate to tell you but women do have sex drives and don’t like to go long periods without sex. And what’s the weird “lose attraction to their husbands” part wait wut, we can find sex with any man because we don’t really want it? You clearly have issues I can’t figure out if you are married or not but you are clearly not a sexual person.

[Anonymous]

Love the title of this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex husband cheated with his secretary, and she looked like a horse. Terrible teeth, a giant schnoz, and she dressed like a retired librarian. But she made him feel important, powerful, and respected. He had to look pretty far down to find someone to look up to him. I think that's common with cheaters.

Perhaps you could have made your husband feel important and respected? His cheating is clearly your doing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most of my APs were pretty hot and out of my league. That makes me the ugly one.

Are you a woman?

Sorry, I'm a man. When I started philandering, I was amazed at the level of hotness of women willing to cheat with me. Again, they were out of my league for sure. I guess the criteria for for good sex is not the same as for an open relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife was prettier than my AP when she was 25, but my AP is 25 now.

So you can no longer pull a woman the way you could when your wife was young. Not surprising.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife was prettier than my AP when she was 25, but my AP is 25 now.

So you can no longer pull a woman the way you could when your wife was young. Not surprising.

You stretched really far to insult him, but it failed. He's pulling a 25 year old now. That's another thing that amazed me when I started down that road. That I could get with women a lot younger than me.

[Anonymous]

When it comes to AP’s it’s understandable. But when I see really attractive, educated, gainfully employed men married to rather unattractive, older women who do not seem to have anything special and make much less than the men, I get confused and intrigued ... how do they do it ???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When it comes to AP’s it’s understandable. But when I see really attractive, educated, gainfully employed men married to rather unattractive, older women who do not seem to have anything special and make much less than the men, I get confused and intrigued ... how do they do it ???

How do you not get this, you must be single or have never been in a long term relationship. Do you really believe that only looks matter in a relationship. You don't see that they may share great conversation, laughs, history, memories, intelligence, compassion, a great life together, no you only see that she is nothing special to YOU. How unbelievably juvenile.

The good looking guy at work is so upset with his good looking wife for not getting back into her fitness after having their baby and I get confused and intrigued.....how do they do it, live such a shallow life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When it comes to AP’s it’s understandable. But when I see really attractive, educated, gainfully employed men married to rather unattractive, older women who do not seem to have anything special and make much less than the men, I get confused and intrigued ... how do they do it ???

Intelligence

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Let me explain something to you. After a few years of marriage, most wives lose all sexual attraction .... for their husbands. At that point, the wife will simply go without sex for months/years/decades because women lack an internal sex drive and can sexually hibernate. The men of course immediately start cheating with any available woman and “looks great” is less important than “wants sex”.... because men have an active sex drive. But those wives after a few sexless years start getting bored and then along comes some horny married guy (his wife of course lost attraction for him) and he flirts his way into her pants.

The bottom line is that women are not morally superior but are lacking an actual sex drive which enables them to go long periods of time without sex. Also they are wired to lose attraction to their husbands so this is why most marriages are sexless ending in divorce. Men on the other hand HAVE a sex drive and can’t go more than a few weeks before they find a woman to cheat with. It all comes down to sex drive: men have one, women don’t. This is why you ladies can easily find sex with any man ... BECAUSE you don’t really want it.

So, I'm tired of people spouting this stuff as fact....women losing sexual attraction because of long term marriage and that they are wired to lose attraction to their husbands.

--Stop saying like it is a fact. No data to back it up. Before you come back with data that's not relevant (i.e. other animal species behavior), I'm sure you're smart enough to know that correlation is not causation, and that something that holds true in other species may not hold true in humans.
--The way you state this, it appears that ALL women lose interest in sex in LTR/lose attraction to their husbands if they're married long enough. Can't make such an unequivocal claim on both counts. It's just not true 100% of the time.
--Stop mansplaining why women lose interest in sex. You don't know. You sound both clueless and arrogant. Truly a bad combination.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Let me explain something to you. After a few years of marriage, most wives lose all sexual attraction .... for their husbands. At that point, the wife will simply go without sex for months/years/decades because women lack an internal sex drive and can sexually hibernate. The men of course immediately start cheating with any available woman and “looks great” is less important than “wants sex”.... because men have an active sex drive. But those wives after a few sexless years start getting bored and then along comes some horny married guy (his wife of course lost attraction for him) and he flirts his way into her pants.

The bottom line is that women are not morally superior but are lacking an actual sex drive which enables them to go long periods of time without sex. Also they are wired to lose attraction to their husbands so this is why most marriages are sexless ending in divorce. Men on the other hand HAVE a sex drive and can’t go more than a few weeks before they find a woman to cheat with. It all comes down to sex drive: men have one, women don’t. This is why you ladies can easily find sex with any man ... BECAUSE you don’t really want it.

So, I'm tired of people spouting this stuff as fact....women losing sexual attraction because of long term marriage and that they are wired to lose attraction to their husbands.

--Stop saying like it is a fact. No data to back it up. Before you come back with data that's not relevant (i.e. other animal species behavior), I'm sure you're smart enough to know that correlation is not causation, and that something that holds true in other species may not hold true in humans.
--The way you state this, it appears that ALL women lose interest in sex in LTR/lose attraction to their husbands if they're married long enough. Can't make such an unequivocal claim on both counts. It's just not true 100% of the time.
--Stop mansplaining why women lose interest in sex. You don't know. You sound both clueless and arrogant. Truly a bad combination.

Guy here and you are right. It's just as big a problem with men who lose interests, but their wives are not as vocal about it. For those of us who have met these wives in affair land, we know how big a problem it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife was prettier than my AP when she was 25, but my AP is 25 now.

So you can no longer pull a woman the way you could when your wife was young. Not surprising.

You stretched really far to insult him, but it failed. He's pulling a 25 year old now. That's another thing that amazed me when I started down that road. That I could get with women a lot younger than me.

Same here. Man in mid-40s and recent APs have been 22 and 25.