suspecion of husband buying teen girls stuff

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I think both. Its a susecion really since i have no concrete proof but i cant explain any other way how it got into myhouse. And somethings are just not my daughters taste. Like pink teen sunglasses. 5 of them. Both my girls find pink too girly in their teen days... etc

Could it be you bought those 5 pink teen sunglasses, or got them somewhere, but just forgot? Let's stick to exhibit A. Where did the 5 pink teen sunglasses come from? Can you absolutely rule out that you brought them into your house?

No. I confirm too we never bought pink stuff. I didn’t fancy pink too. my daughters didn’t either. And these glasses are not new. They were obviously used by someone before. There were also used water bottles in girly prints that I had never seen, bought or my kids used before so why are they in my house? Hubby claimed ignorance as well so one of these days, I am just going to trash them or take them to the thrift store so someone else could at least benefit from them and they won’t be accidentally brought home again! Then there are other things like tops, accessories etc which were never part of my girls wardrobe and they haven’t seen those before either.

[Anonymous]

It’s just too puzzling.....

[Anonymous]

This is classic DCUM hysteria.

This really doesn't sound suspicious. There are a couple of probable scenarios, here: 1) there are enough females in the house where these kinds of things can easily accumulate over time (sleep overs, binge shopping, etc.), and it's hard to keep track of all that comes into the house. I know this from experience, I have 3 girls; and 2) the most likely scenario, your DH is keeping these items in a special place because he's collecting them so he can anonymously donate them or take them to a shelter for children in need.

Breathe, people.

[Anonymous]

OP here. It’s just a gut feeling. Ok. So for fellow dcum, some story time

So back track 20+ Years ago. DH and I used to be working in the same office before we got married. I tend to also notice things that the other colleagues wore and sometimes when I waited for him in the office, I would also just peep in his department at what his other colleagues had on their tables, their photos, their stationery etc.

Why sunglasses became one of the red flags in this recent episode for me... there was this colleague who had a pair of Gucci glasses which caught my attention because it was a special edition emblem on it. And she also had the habit of constantly biting on the arms of it when she was in meetings. I used to think she was seducing the men when she was giving them a very friendly look and biting on them like some high school drama queen!

Fast forward a few years, I had left the company but my husband remained. one day my husband was let go and had his things sent from the office in a box the next day. I opened his box and I found this a pile of his own things but also in it, a pair of ladies glasses, Gucci, with those nibble marks on the arms! But it didn’t have the emblem so I wasn’t 100% sure that it belonged to that girl. There were also two other ladies sunglasses, some hello kitty type Asian girly stationery and a girls pink water bottle which I think I might have also seen when I was looking at some other colleagues random desk. Again all not sure.

The stuff was also all used before so it really looked like it did belong to someone else. He claimed he didn’t know why they packed those in there and I was about to dispose them. He got a little edgy-ish saying maybe someday his office might ask for it back etc. In the basement they went and then they disappeared. I never saw them again.


Then now this. So it just rekindled weird thoughts. We have a good relationship, no affairs nothing. Model husband, provided for the family, dedicated etc. Should I make a molehill out Of this or just bury it?

This is what I am battling with. Is he a dangerous man? Probably not. But something weird happening here. Maybe......

[Anonymous]

just get a nanny cam and place it someplace whee it has a view of that area in the basement. see what you come up with.

[Anonymous]

Personally I vote for serial killer collecting victims items. Not joking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids are still young but we get given crap all the time.

You have two teenage girls. Why would you think it is your husband and not your daughters’ things?

She doesn't have "teenage girls" she has a TWENTY year old (who presumably moved herself & her younger tween attire out years ago) & an 18 year old who's already said none of the stuff was her style when she was younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Isn’t it more reasonable to assume the teen girls forgot about it than assume the man is a perv?

Isn't it more reasonable to assume that OP is a suspicious for a reason, since she's the one living with her husband, than to assume that she never noticed that teen girls are forgetful?

Ding ding ding! OP is suspicious for a reason. Listen to your inner voice OP!

New poster. Agree. Trust your instincts and zip your lips. Don’t say anything else and just observe. Look when he won’t know. Ask your intuition to know and then keep your eyes open. If you can access computer and/or phone history and see what searches are being made, great. Something is wrong. Give it time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It’s just a gut feeling. Ok. So for fellow dcum, some story time

So back track 20+ Years ago. DH and I used to be working in the same office before we got married. I tend to also notice things that the other colleagues wore and sometimes when I waited for him in the office, I would also just peep in his department at what his other colleagues had on their tables, their photos, their stationery etc.

Why sunglasses became one of the red flags in this recent episode for me... there was this colleague who had a pair of Gucci glasses which caught my attention because it was a special edition emblem on it. And she also had the habit of constantly biting on the arms of it when she was in meetings. I used to think she was seducing the men when she was giving them a very friendly look and biting on them like some high school drama queen!

Fast forward a few years, I had left the company but my husband remained. one day my husband was let go and had his things sent from the office in a box the next day. I opened his box and I found this a pile of his own things but also in it, a pair of ladies glasses, Gucci, with those nibble marks on the arms! But it didn’t have the emblem so I wasn’t 100% sure that it belonged to that girl. There were also two other ladies sunglasses, some hello kitty type Asian girly stationery and a girls pink water bottle which I think I might have also seen when I was looking at some other colleagues random desk. Again all not sure.

The stuff was also all used before so it really looked like it did belong to someone else. He claimed he didn’t know why they packed those in there and I was about to dispose them. He got a little edgy-ish saying maybe someday his office might ask for it back etc. In the basement they went and then they disappeared. I never saw them again.


Then now this. So it just rekindled weird thoughts. We have a good relationship, no affairs nothing. Model husband, provided for the family, dedicated etc. Should I make a molehill out Of this or just bury it?

This is what I am battling with. Is he a dangerous man? Probably not. But something weird happening here. Maybe......

Trust your gut. Not likely a serial killer. But maybe some other perversion. Do you know the real reason why he was suddenly let go other than what he told you? I would be real curious about him losing a job in a way that they mailed him his stuff.

[Anonymous]

Keeping stuff I can understand as some people are kind of sentimental hoarders, but if he is buying things for the age your kids passed it is puzzling. It maybe that he does not realize what their current needs are as dads often have no clue if something will fit or will be of use and they kind of buy just because they found something they think it might be usable and sometimes it is sometimes it is not.
Maybe he is collecting things thinking your kids will have kids soon so this stuff can go to them.

Why are you afraid to ask him without being judgmental? Just say that you noticed that this stuff comes back after you are pretty sure you had disposed of so you just wanted to ask if he has some sentimental attachment and he would rather keep it which is fine by you.
It is possible that he is afraid that you will criticize him and or ridicule that so maybe he is kind of shy about it and acts like nothing when you ask? Make him comfortable about this first and then see if he say something.

[Anonymous]

Pretend nothing happened and put a camera in the basement, OP

[Anonymous]

This story is just odd enough that I hope OP actually does put in a camera and come back to update.

[Anonymous]

Serial killers collect stuff like that.

[Anonymous]

I also want to say this: Stay safe, OP. My dad broke my mom’s nose when she asked him about a rumor that he was taking teen girls to a roadhouse. It took another three decades for her to work up the courage to file for divorce. And his name continued to be mixed up in stories about girls being driven to and from a roadhouse, given drinks, etc until the place shut down for good.

[Anonymous]

A roadhouse? Like the one in the movie with Patrick Swayze? Where was this roadhouse? Not many in the DMV, but there used to be some along route 1 in Alexandria, and route 1 between DC and Baltimore. I miss those days! My memory is hazy, but I don't recall seeing any attractive young women there.