Men older by a few years vs a decade and over

[Anonymous]

OP, the fact that this guy is only 4 years older than you should be good news, not a reason for you to question what otherwise sounds like a great relationship for you. My DH is 12 years older than I am. Obviously, that was not a dealbreaker for me. But, if I could have the exact same guy only 4 years older than me, I would take it in a heartbeat. Be grateful that you found someone with all of the characterists, experience, and maturity you say you want, who is also closer to you chronologically. It will make so many things so much easier if you guys stay together long term.

[Anonymous]

I prefer younger men. Rarely dated a guy older than me. DH is three years younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I prefer younger men. Rarely dated a guy older than me. DH is three years younger.

hopefully you are in shape, botox and plastic surgery to keep up. Lori Louglin is a good example of what to do.

[Anonymous]

I kinda agree with how a younger spouse will always be younger to the older spouse. Look at Melania!

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Anonymous wrote:I kinda agree with how a younger spouse will always be younger to the older spouse. Look at Melania!

And look at Melania's relationship. Does anyone want that?

[Anonymous]

You are insecure, immature, and need therapy

[Anonymous]

You don't sound like you have the maturity to be in a relationship.

Take a break, do some therapy, figure yourself out and then date.

You are vapid and shallow to be so fixed on an age number and worrying about who will look older faster. Do this guy a favor and break up - you are not healthy enough for a relationship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I kinda agree with how a younger spouse will always be younger to the older spouse. Look at Melania!

And look at Melania's relationship. Does anyone want that?

Seriously.

Also, see: Macron.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you date older men who are into 20 something women, you will soon age out of that group and they will replace you. I don’t think your theory is very sound.

This

[Anonymous]

I wonder op if your parents had this age gap and this is why you are pursuing it or they didn’t and their marriage had problems that you hope to avoid by choosing a man with this age gap.

From the height of my mid-40s, I can tell you that a person’s maturity (after a certain age) rarely increases dramatically. Yes, there is a big difference in maturity level (with some exceptions) between a 20 and a 30 /35 years old, but that gap narrows considerably after people age, and becomes much smaller if you compare a 35 and a 45 year old.

So, as you get into your late 20s and early thirties, the maturity of men in their late 20’s and early 30’s is catching up with your demographic that you dated when you were early 20s.

So, it’s time for you to revise your world view and hypothesis of the maturity level of your age peers and remember that some people will always be more mature (know who they are, what they want, etc) than their peers, and some never reach these qualities even as they age. So do not sacrifice a good person for outdated dating paradigm.

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Anonymous wrote:Women do not age faster than men, lol.

Hatefact: yes, they do.

Women do not age “faster” than men. It’s just that their aging is not accepted by society as much as men’s is and they are considered “too old” earlier.

On the contrary. "Society" is desperately trying to convince everyone that older women are as beautiful, fertile, and desirable as younger women, which flies in the face of biology and common sense and will therefore never succeed.

The similarly crazed effort to convince everyone that fat women are as attractive as thin women is equally doomed to failure.

What if you're a thin older woman with good skin care?

Has great potential, but ..... do you still have an active sex drive? For the same guy you've been with > 18 months? Didn't think so.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I kinda agree with how a younger spouse will always be younger to the older spouse. Look at Melania!

And look at Melania's relationship. Does anyone want that?

[Hmmm let's see, married to a totally rich, powerful, famous man, why would any woman want that?]

Seriously.

Also, see: Macron.

LOL. Macron and Trump are classic examples of the difference between "older man, younger woman" and "older woman, younger man".

Trump + Melania = older man, younger woman = he is a WINNER married to a supermodel
Macron + Brigitte = older woman, younger man = he is a LOSER who married a barren old hag

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I kinda agree with how a younger spouse will always be younger to the older spouse. Look at Melania!

And look at Melania's relationship. Does anyone want that?

[Hmmm let's see, married to a totally rich, powerful, famous man, why would any woman want that?]

Seriously.

Also, see: Macron.

For sure the Trump couple looks like a fairytale and Melania is such a role model for little girls. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For sure the Trump couple looks like a fairytale and Melania is such a role model for little girls. LOL

She is. She had a successful career, and then married a highly successful man. Your bitterness and jealousy of her is sad!

[Anonymous]

You like a guy and have fallen hard for him. He's age-appropriate and not age-inappropriate- yet you are upset?