Tell Me I'm Shallow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since OP is so tall herself I "totally get" why its a put off that this guy is "short".

If you decide to go out with him, make him earn it and have him take you our on an expensive dinner. Short guys always try to get away with taking women out for coffee.

You sound like a dinner whore.

[Anonymous]

I never understood the aversion to short guys. Maybe its because I have two short brothers (both 5'6") who are wonderful men who have never had even the slightest problem dating beautiful, intelligent, confident women. My oldest brother literally turns heads on the sidewalk he's so handsome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been divorced for 2 years now and have just recently - like in the last two months- started 'dating' again.

I've met a few nice guys but no one that made my heart skip until NYE. He was at a neighborhood party as a friend of one of my other neighbors. He's 40, not bald, pretty cute, director at some non profit, has hobbies (running, cooking, sailing) but... he's short. He's probably 5'6" or 5' 7". I'm 5'5" for the record. We are probably equal in terms of attractiveness. He texted yesterday to see about grabbing coffee and walking around Roosevelt Island this Sunday.

I'm not sure I can do it. If he were 4 inches taller I'd do it in a second ...but I just can't be with a short guy. My sister says I'm crazy but my gfs say it's totally reasonable.

I can't be alone in this, right?

I am 5'8" and dated guys that were shorter than I. I don't care about the height at all. Been a man doesn't assume been tall (to me).

But I hear you. I would not date a skinny guy with no muscle mass in a million years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Shorter guys are bigger down below. Fact.

Haha! From my (admittedly small) sample size of 2...that is absolutely not true.

OP is afraid to admit it but this is probably what she's most concerned about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Shorter guys are bigger down below. Fact.

Haha! From my (admittedly small) sample size of 2...that is absolutely not true.

Very true- the largest guys I’ve been with were 5’10” (smallest feet ever) , 5’8” and he said he was 5’6”, but think he was more like 5’4”-5’5”. The shortest guy had the most amazing penis (large, but not too large) and he knew exactly what to do with it. Definitely think he had to work harder because of his height and WOW, he was the best!

The worst lovers and smallest were 6’3” and 6’4”. So so horrible and it wasn’t all due to size.

[Anonymous]

He probably wishes you had bigger Ts or a nicer butt with less wrinkles in your face but he still asked you out. Yes, you are shallow.

[Anonymous]

You are shallow. He is taller than you!

[Anonymous]

Without trying to conjure MRA guy, I think that some women have really defined ideas about what makes a man “manly”, and height tends to be right up there with earnings. I suspect OP is one of those. She likely has a bunch of checkboxes, all of which her ex also fulfilled, and she still hasn’t learned that checking those boxes doesn’t mean happily ever after.

She’s still looking for the same guy she was before, and won’t understand why she can’t find real happiness because she’s going to keep doing what she does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been divorced for 2 years now and have just recently - like in the last two months- started 'dating' again.

I've met a few nice guys but no one that made my heart skip until NYE. He was at a neighborhood party as a friend of one of my other neighbors. He's 40, not bald, pretty cute, director at some non profit, has hobbies (running, cooking, sailing) but... he's short. He's probably 5'6" or 5' 7". I'm 5'5" for the record. We are probably equal in terms of attractiveness. He texted yesterday to see about grabbing coffee and walking around Roosevelt Island this Sunday.

I'm not sure I can do it. If he were 4 inches taller I'd do it in a second ...but I just can't be with a short guy. My sister says I'm crazy but my gfs say it's totally reasonable.

I can't be alone in this, right?

It's your personal preference. However, the fact that you are debating it so much leads me to think that you might be doubting them (your preference for taller men) with this guy. If it's something that's gonna bother you long term don't date him, but if you connected with him, it could be worth overlooking. It really depends on how interested in him you are. Don't hold back because of what others might say. Life is short.

[Anonymous]

6'2 guy here can definitely say I'm married to my wife because she dumped the short guy all those years ago. She didn't gain any below the waist size selecting me either

[Anonymous]

It’s funny, when I first met my husband I was worried about this because I had mostly dated tall guys, but I was super attracted and went for it. He’s About 5’9.5, I’m 5’6. However, he is very strong/muscular and I am very thin, so he’s much much bigger than me over all. I am so thankful all these years later that I didn’t hold it against him that he’s under 6.’ By the way, he is blessed down below but I’m not sure there’s actually any correlation. Although the “smallest” guy I ever dated was about 6’4 so maybe there’s something to it! Anyway, I would give it a chance and see how it goes!

[Anonymous]

It is better to love, than to never have a’tall

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been divorced for 2 years now and have just recently - like in the last two months- started 'dating' again.

I've met a few nice guys but no one that made my heart skip until NYE. He was at a neighborhood party as a friend of one of my other neighbors. He's 40, not bald, pretty cute, director at some non profit, has hobbies (running, cooking, sailing) but... he's short. He's probably 5'6" or 5' 7". I'm 5'5" for the record. We are probably equal in terms of attractiveness. He texted yesterday to see about grabbing coffee and walking around Roosevelt Island this Sunday.

I'm not sure I can do it. If he were 4 inches taller I'd do it in a second ...but I just can't be with a short guy. My sister says I'm crazy but my gfs say it's totally reasonable.

I can't be alone in this, right?

It's me again. Why do women bring up "bald" all the time on here? You can't control loss or height. Does that mean a balding man is never going to have a relationship with a reasonably attractive woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since OP is so tall herself I "totally get" why its a put off that this guy is "short".

If you decide to go out with him, make him earn it and have him take you our on an expensive dinner. Short guys always try to get away with taking women out for coffee.

I'm sure OP is capable of paying for her own food or coffee.

What? Are you being sarcastic that OP is tall?

Anyway OP you are shallow and dumb. I'm 5'8 and so is DH. He's perfect for me physically, is a tiger in the sack, and just has the kindest most loving heart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been divorced for 2 years now and have just recently - like in the last two months- started 'dating' again.

I've met a few nice guys but no one that made my heart skip until NYE. He was at a neighborhood party as a friend of one of my other neighbors. He's 40, not bald, pretty cute, director at some non profit, has hobbies (running, cooking, sailing) but... he's short. He's probably 5'6" or 5' 7". I'm 5'5" for the record. We are probably equal in terms of attractiveness. He texted yesterday to see about grabbing coffee and walking around Roosevelt Island this Sunday.

I'm not sure I can do it. If he were 4 inches taller I'd do it in a second ...but I just can't be with a short guy. My sister says I'm crazy but my gfs say it's totally reasonable.

I can't be alone in this, right?

It's me again. Why do women bring up "bald" all the time on here? You can't control loss or height. Does that mean a balding man is never going to have a relationship with a reasonably attractive woman?

I have no issue with bald guys, and I think plenty of women couldn’t care less.