Tell Me I'm Shallow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shorter guys are bigger down below. Fact.

I would have to prove this before I started dating him. Then maybe.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP, I thought you were going to say he was 5 inches shorter than you. I'd still think you should date him then but I'd understand it a little better that you didn't want to. But he's even friggin' taller than you! Sorry, OP, but you are shallow in this case.

Still, sounds like this is a deal breaker for you. Best to let him go find someone else. But I feel sorry for you. Do you really want to be limited by this? At any rate, best of luck in finding the right guy.

[Anonymous]

Obviously, you shouldn't date someone you're not attracted to. But if he made your heart skip, then you're attracted to him. So yes, you are being shallow.

[Anonymous]

I get it but would recommend you go out with him at least once to see if it's something that will continue to bother you. It could be that it fades away and won't seem as important to you. Be sure before you eliminate him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wanting to be attracted to the person you date is not shallow. It's a new year and we need to leave date shaming behind.

That said, you said he made your heart skip a beat so you are attracted to him.

Which leads me to believe this is about something else. It's not what others would say it's not a significant enough height difference to be noticeable that you would worry about social norms. If this were the case I'd tell you to gain some maturity.

I think you are afraid of your feelings and reaction to him. You fear falling hard for him and what happens if things don't work out. The only way out is through the fire. Jump in op it's a brand new year, enjoy yourself. Allow yourself to be excited by a man. Don't find reasons to deny yourself potential happiness out of fear of being hurt again.

You know, this makes sense. OP, could it be that you're actually afraid of intimacy? And that you find reasons not to date people you might be interested in? I ask because that was definitely an issue for me when I was single.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get it. You are shallow and dim.

Good guys are hard to come by. Luckily he will get to miss out on your charming personality.

[Anonymous]

Since OP is so tall herself I "totally get" why its a put off that this guy is "short".

If you decide to go out with him, make him earn it and have him take you our on an expensive dinner. Short guys always try to get away with taking women out for coffee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re shallow.



Happy to help. Let me know if you need anything else.

+1

[Anonymous]

As a mid-40’s divorced woman I’d say you’re being very shallow, and you’ll realize that in a few years when you’re still single. There is such a huge deficit of decent single guys out there you will learn you are going to have to compromise some, unless you’re okay with being alone forever. Pickings are slim and if you come across someone who interests you it would be silly to pass them by because of something as trivial as height. You’ve already indicated you’re attracted to him so I’m with the PP in believing you’re looking for an arbitrary flaw because you’re scared of catching feelings for anyone again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since OP is so tall herself I "totally get" why its a put off that this guy is "short".

If you decide to go out with him, make him earn it and have him take you our on an expensive dinner. Short guys always try to get away with taking women out for coffee.

I'm sure OP is capable of paying for her own food or coffee.

[Anonymous]

Seems like a dumb reason not to meet someone you are actually attracted to for coffee and a walk, but you can do whatever you want. Best of luck finding a tall, attractive, well adjusted single guy with no baggage who is in his 40s!

[Anonymous]

Congrats! You are shallow! Many years ago I almost let a guy with a physical disability get away and it would have been the dumbest move ever on my part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shorter guys are bigger down below. Fact.

Haha! From my (admittedly small) sample size of 2...that is absolutely not true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could you not be attracted to him or is it a social thing (like you’d be embarrassed)?

I'm wondering about this too. If it's the first, there's nothing you can do about it. If it's the second, I think you should reconsider

[Anonymous]

I don’t think you are shallow... you are just not attracted to him. Now, if you find him attractive and donmt want to date him because he is too short, then yes... you are shallow and stupid