Tell Me I'm Shallow

[Anonymous]

I've been divorced for 2 years now and have just recently - like in the last two months- started 'dating' again.

I've met a few nice guys but no one that made my heart skip until NYE. He was at a neighborhood party as a friend of one of my other neighbors. He's 40, not bald, pretty cute, director at some non profit, has hobbies (running, cooking, sailing) but... he's short. He's probably 5'6" or 5' 7". I'm 5'5" for the record. We are probably equal in terms of attractiveness. He texted yesterday to see about grabbing coffee and walking around Roosevelt Island this Sunday.

I'm not sure I can do it. If he were 4 inches taller I'd do it in a second ...but I just can't be with a short guy. My sister says I'm crazy but my gfs say it's totally reasonable.

I can't be alone in this, right?

[Anonymous]

My husband is 5'7''. I'm 5'4''. Personally, as long as the guy is taller than me, I don't care. I went to prom with an adorable guy who is at most an inch taller than me. We went as friends but ended up making out. He was a great kisser!

Just saying, you might be missing out.

[Anonymous]

You’re shallow.



Happy to help. Let me know if you need anything else.

[Anonymous]

Yes you're shallow but you are not alone. But don't feel bad, he sounds like a catch and won't miss out on much with you.

[Anonymous]

Give it a chance. When I met my husband I thought he had thin lips and a small mouth. Now I don’t even notice or remember why I thought that.

[Anonymous]

What’s the worst that could happen if you met for coffee?

[Anonymous]

I get it. I couldn't either.

[Anonymous]

You are shallow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s the worst that could happen if you met for coffee?

She might get over caffeinated.

[Anonymous]

My husband is the shortest person I ever dated. He's 5'9 and I'm 5'7. I agree with PP that as long as he's not shorter than me I'm okay but I get it.....go for it OP!

[Anonymous]

You are being shallow kind of the same as a guy thinking your boobs aren't big enough etc however if height / boob size really matters then no point in stringing someone along.

That said, I would go meet him. but if the height thing is a deal breaker for you, don't see him again after coffee

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand why you “couldn’t” be with a short guy, but hey, you’re allowed to want what you want. You’ve already made up your mind. So, don’t waste his time if you already know you “can’t”.

My other advice to you is emember what you “couldn’t” do in two years, when you’re still single and complaining that there aren’t any nice/ normal guys available.

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'11" and my husband is 5'8", married for 38 years. There are so many more important things than height. As long as your height doesn't make him feel insecure, I say go for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why you “couldn’t” be with a short guy, but hey, you’re allowed to want what you want. You’ve already made up your mind. So, don’t waste his time if you already know you “can’t”.

My other advice to you is emember what you “couldn’t” do in two years, when you’re still single and complaining that there aren’t any nice/ normal guys available.

+1

[Anonymous]

Give him a try, and see what happens.