Would it upset you if your husband admitted to thinking of you during his alone time?

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Anonymous wrote:This is the weirdest question ever.

+1 I agree!

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You have a competitive advantage elsewhere — perhaps in pediatrics, law, cooking, whatever. He is freeing you up to do what you do best, so you can thrive, while he is imagining you as a good lover.

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I think he's lying to you because he knows it would piss you off to know he masturbates AND fantasized about other women.

He, however, sounds completely normal.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes I’m American. I just don’t understand why when I’m in house he wouldn’t initiate with me instead of going off alone and thinking of me.

Oh, OP, sometimes it's just easier to do yourself. It's faster, there's less emotional work involved - seriously, don't take it as an insult to you. You're waaaaayyyyyy overthinking this.

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Woman here. It turns my DH on when I tell him I’m thinking about other guys I’ve slept with.

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Is this a joke? Maybe he just wants a quick release where he doesn’t have to worry about anyone else but himself. You should try it sometime.

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Anonymous wrote:I always think about my wife when I jack off

I think of your wife when I’m spanking it too.

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Anonymous wrote:Woman here. It turns my DH on when I tell him I’m thinking about other guys I’ve slept with.

That’s actually fairly common.

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Husband thinking of me when he's pleasuring himself would be a turn on. I'm sure he does sometimes, I think of him sometimes too. But mostly he probably thinks of other hot women and I think of hot guys. Why is this bothering you OP? I've masturbated when DH is home, mostly because I just wanted to get off and take a nap.

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He’s lying, you sweet crazy thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Husband thinking of me when he's pleasuring himself would be a turn on. I'm sure he does sometimes, I think of him sometimes too. But mostly he probably thinks of other hot women and I think of hot guys. Why is this bothering you OP? I've masturbated when DH is home, mostly because I just wanted to get off and take a nap.

Ha! My soul sister.

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Anonymous wrote:Woman here. It turns my DH on when I tell him I’m thinking about other guys I’ve slept with.

That’s actually fairly common.

My DH likes it when I talk about girls I've slept with!

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I personally would be flattered.

To think my own husband considers me his “fantasy” as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Husband thinking of me when he's pleasuring himself would be a turn on. I'm sure he does sometimes, I think of him sometimes too. But mostly he probably thinks of other hot women and I think of hot guys. Why is this bothering you OP? I've masturbated when DH is home, mostly because I just wanted to get off and take a nap.

Ha! My soul sister.

Agreed.

His body and mind are his. We belong to each other in some sense, but not moreso than we belong to oursellves. I find the uptightness some people have about a partner masturbating to be really erasing of the self. Sometimes it's just easier and a comfort/pleasure, and sometimes you may want to try something out. I mean, if a woman can't orgasm, how is she supposed to experiement and figure out what works in a low-stress context if her partner always has to be there?

I just don't get it. Monogamy is one thing, but this seems like unhealthy control.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you American? Everyone masturbates. I mean everyone.

I know some cultures/religions forbid it. But it's natural.

My DH doesn't and it is SUCH a bummer. I told him about my own "self-service" and was so disappointed when he said he didn't do the same.

It would actually concern me if my DH said he never masturbates.