Would it upset you if your husband admitted to thinking of you during his alone time?
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Anonymous
| Man here: Not to be a skeptic but don't all men tell their wives that they think of them while masturbating? Just sayin' |
Anonymous
Woman here: I don’t even bother telling my guy that... Completely skeptical when he tells me he’s thinking of me, imagine i factor in for moments at best...that’s his time so don’t really care. |
Anonymous
Everyone can have fantasies that they're mostly likely not going to pursue in real life. The idea that I have to 100% satisfy DH's fantasies or that he has to 100% satisfy mine honestly sounds just too needy ... kind of like OP. |
Anonymous
OP here. So you think he’s lying to me? I can honestly understand him thinking of someone else |
Anonymous
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Rule one for a happy marriage: don't ask or discuss your DHs masturbation habits. Which includes letting him watch porn in his own no questions asked no searching his history on the browser.
There is no Rule 2. |
Anonymous
Of course. Just because you're available, satisfying, and rarely turn him down doesn't mean that he doesn't fantasize about other women...you might even know some of them but who cares. That's normal as long as he isn't physically acting on those desires. Do people actually believe that they are the most beautiful (physically) person that their spouse ever met? How many people can say that?...however, that what your DH will tell you. |
Anonymous
Rule #2: Never try to replace your DH's porn with videos of yourself or trying to imitate a porn actress. They are professionals and you will fail miserably. |
Anonymous
He’s touching himself, not someone else. Sweetie, it’s not real. |
Anonymous
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Lots of on point comments so far.
A. Sometimes I spank it when DW is home so I can last longer when we actually have a chance to bang. 2. I often think of her when I climax. Thinking of her feels nice. Thinking of other women works sometimes - sometimes it feels really weird. D. I definitely think of my ideal version of her. |
Anonymous
Your wife is fortunate. |
Anonymous
| OP here so the consensus is I should not be upset and this is normal |
Anonymous
OP, if we have to tell you that, then maybe you shouldn't be married. |
Anonymous
How frequent and good is the sex? |
Anonymous
| You are nuts. Do you really think intercourse is the end all be all of sex? I have no problem with my DH 'self-serving' as long as it doesn't negatively impact our sex life. Why shouldn't he? Every act of sex does not need to be deeply emotional or shared. Why would masturbation be wrong? |
Anonymous
| Are you 17? |