Cheated on husband, now regretting and suffering

[Anonymous]

New job. It's the only way. And don't tell your husband

[Anonymous]

Smoked sausage (pronounced: sew-sidge.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The first thing you should do is tell your husband so that HE can decide if he wants to stay married to you or not. You don't get to cheat and then decide that for him. It's not your choice.

+1. It's the other major consequence of an affair - not only do you lose the job (because your AP was a co-worker) but you may lose your marriage. Even if you are remorseful, continuing to lie to your husband about something so major is a form of emotional abuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New job. It's the only way. And don't tell your husband

This. Agree with others that you should not dump your guilty conscience on your husband at this point. Get to therapy now and figure out why you keep making crap life choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Find a new job.

The job is perfect for me in all other ways. I don’t leave the job.

LOL. I knew you were going to give some lame reasons.

Reasons are not lame. There are reasons why the job is perfect:
Location, salary, work that I do. It really is not funny.

Sure. The positions were perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find a new job.

The job is perfect for me in all other ways. I don’t leave the job.

Then you're dumb and not really suffering.

Or, OP is Kelly Anne Conway.

[Anonymous]

Boring

[Anonymous]

How long was your affair?

Also: how do you know he won’t tell your husband? He may.

And do you talk in your sleep? You never know how you may give yourself away.

[Anonymous]

Wayward wife from upthread here. Some of the PP who suggest telling your husband have a point. You opened up your marriage without his consent, and during that time he was living a lie. Is that fair to him? Of course not. But I also understand not telling your husband, and the fear of the fallout.

But be prepared for him to find out, if not from you. During my A my H lived over 2000 miles away (it was supposed to be temporary but lasted longer). I thought, no way would he find out. The A ended and I assumed I would be taking it to my grave. Then I found out I had an STD and told my H. Maybe your path will be different but do be prepared for your actions to possibly come to light.

And again, seriously consider a new job. What is the saying? Don't dip your pen in the company ink. Listen, you made a choice to have an affair with someone at work. You have to take responsibility for your choices and deal with the consequences. Is it easy? Hell no. But it's up to you to choose the kind of person you want to be moving forward.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I agree you need a new job and therapy.


My friend basically did the same thing. Her husband discovered it. She doesn’t know I know, but I just can’t believe she did this. I wish I could talk to her.

[Anonymous]

What is this smell.

Is it bo

[Anonymous]

Are we supposed to feel sorry for you?

Get a new job or suck it up and tell your husband how you ruined your marriage.

[Anonymous]

Yes, report to HR that you are the company whore but you want to be the victim here.if this is a real post, you dont need to heal, you need to fess up to your family so they can move on from you and realize you are nothing better than a 2 bit where who only thinks of yourself.

Other than that, I think it is a troll

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't change jobs. Changing jobs might make him more aggressive since you say he still has feelings for you. He might pursue you outside of work which would blow up your secret.

[Anonymous]

New job and this time keep your knees together.