Cheated on husband, now regretting and suffering

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you won't find a new job, then you've created your own personal hell. Congratulations.

If nothing changes, nothing changes. Accept your fate and move on.

This, OP. There are consequences to your actions. I know it’s not pleasant.

Don’t tell your husband.

Thank you. I know that my actions were horrible and unforgivable. I do not plan to tell my husband. We would have to separate if I did.

[Anonymous]

The first thing you should do is tell your husband so that HE can decide if he wants to stay married to you or not. You don't get to cheat and then decide that for him. It's not your choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Reasons are not lame. There are reasons why the job is perfect:
Location, salary, work that I do. It really is not funny.

You're saying you value your job more than you value your marriage. You can't have both; choose which is worth sacrificing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find a new job.

The job is perfect for me in all other ways. I don’t leave the job.

Then you're dumb and not really suffering.

This. I asked for a transfer because of a coworker I was developing a seriously intense, reciprocated but never acted on attraction to . Too distracting and too much risk that we’d get weak.

[Anonymous]

I hope he tells your husband

[Anonymous]

To all the posters who say tell your husband or who say they hope he finds out: GET OFF YOUR HIGH HORSES.

Do NOT tell your husband unless you plan to leave him. Why compound the error with more pain?

[Anonymous]

OP, you really, honestly need to change jobs. That environment will always be focused on your actions, not on the job you did. You list all the reasons why the job was perfect - well, then how the heck did this happen? It wasn't perfect. You just don't see that yet. If you stay, you will be mired in this funk. Change jobs, save marriage.

[Anonymous]

NP you’ll never move on while you keep it a secret. He’s your boss; we’re you attracted to his authority? Don’t look for answers on this forum. You need to get to a therapist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find a new job.

The job is perfect for me in all other ways. I don’t leave the job.

Then you're dumb and not really suffering.

Or, OP is Kelly Anne Conway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cheated on my husband with a colleague who is my superior and much older than me. I am not sure what happened with my brain but it was as if it was not me. I do not recognize myself, and looking back can’t believe that this happend. It’s like I was under a spell or replaced by a different person. But it was me. It has been a year since. I love my husband. He does not know.

He knows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find a new job.

The job is perfect for me in all other ways. I don’t leave the job.

Then you're dumb and not really suffering.

Or, OP is Kelly Anne Conway.

Ewwwwwwwwwwww

[Anonymous]

New job x 10000

No way in hell the job can be "perfect for you" if you're still dealing with this superior. It's not the right fit.

If it was a one-time thing and you feel remorse, take it to the grave. There's zero point in blowing up your marriage. Keep mum, accept your mistake, and work on your marriage. Every time you feel guilty, do something nice for your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I call troll...

Plus 1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I call troll...

Plus 1

OP here. Not sure what this troll thing means. Someone who made up a story? Unfortunately, life is more messed up than any story can be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New job x 10000

No way in hell the job can be "perfect for you" if you're still dealing with this superior. It's not the right fit.

If it was a one-time thing and you feel remorse, take it to the grave. There's zero point in blowing up your marriage. Keep mum, accept your mistake, and work on your marriage. Every time you feel guilty, do something nice for your husband.

Thank you. I will take your advice to do something nice for my husband when I feel guilty. Which is every day. I definitely won’t tell my husband. I have accepted my mustake and pay for it every day.