Worst wedding ever

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New update: apparently MIL is more perverse than I realized. She was making mean comments to my mom all night as well. I think her targeting our kids was actually just away to hurt my mom because she knew it would. My mom didn’t eat and spent the whole night crying in the bathroom because they had previously talked apparently about how important it was to my mom to have the grandkids there.

So it turns out this isn’t about the kids at all.

So, your mom forced your kids upon this wedding? And MIL bad mouthed her and your mom is sobbing in the bathroom and you left the wedding because your kid was not welcome. And they are targeting your kids to hurt your mom? And your brother is Trumpist? And you are not, and your DH is in the wedding? You made mean comment about your brother's MIL, that MIL is mean to your mom, your and your brother fight over politics... Sounds like a match made in heaven. The only one I feel sorry for it the bride! I guess you and your mom sure know how to make a scene... and curtain!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all sound crazy.

Agree. Totally dysfunctional family on all sides. OPs mom, brother, SIL, and SILs mother all sound batshit crazy.

OP, and I mean this seriously, you might want to consider counseling to try to break the dysfunctional cycle with your own family.

OP - agreed it’s crazy. My brother is back in counseling after he verbally attacked me, is supposed to be in couples counseling, and hopefully I won’t run into the MIL again since she lives in a different state.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sure his next wedding will be better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:New update: apparently MIL is more perverse than I realized. She was making mean comments to my mom all night as well. I think her targeting our kids was actually just away to hurt my mom because she knew it would. My mom didn’t eat and spent the whole night crying in the bathroom because they had previously talked apparently about how important it was to my mom to have the grandkids there.

So it turns out this isn’t about the kids at all.

So, your mom forced your kids upon this wedding? And MIL bad mouthed her and your mom is sobbing in the bathroom and you left the wedding because your kid was not welcome. And they are targeting your kids to hurt your mom? And your brother is Trumpist? And you are not, and your DH is in the wedding? You made mean comment about your brother's MIL, that MIL is mean to your mom, your and your brother fight over politics... Sounds like a match made in heaven. The only one I feel sorry for it the bride! I guess you and your mom sure know how to make a scene... and curtain!

The bride was mad at her own mom for not paying enough attention to her and only to her sisters baby. Who was at the wedding.

[Anonymous]

And I did not force my kids on this wedding. People READ. The bride to my face told me to bring her kids and it was important to her they were there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And I did not force my kids on this wedding. People READ. The bride to my face told me to bring her kids and it was important to her they were there.

Blah, blah, blah. You chose to involve yourself and your child in this toxic scenario. Own your choices.

[Anonymous]

I guess I gave too much info. What I should have asked is: how many people invite guests to a wedding and then rescind the invitation once guests arrive?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And I did not force my kids on this wedding. People READ. The bride to my face told me to bring her kids and it was important to her they were there.

Blah, blah, blah. You chose to involve yourself and your child in this toxic scenario. Own your choices.

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I was invited to my brother’s wedding with my family. My extended family who are ill drove in to come. Why would I not “involve” myself by RSVPing? I didn’t know MIL was a nut job and thought it would be a normal wedding. And I have attended weddings before, as have my kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I get it. My FSIL invited by DD, who will be around 2 then to be the flower girl. But, she’s not invited to the ceremony or reception. What do they think I’m supposed to do with her?

It's called a "babysitter"

NP. But why have children in the ceremony if you don't actually want them there? This is different than saying "no children" period. Think about it - after the DD walks up the aisle as the flower girl, PP would immediately have to leave the ceremony with her (right after it starts) to go meet the babysitter and get her DD settled, which may or may not go well as the child is only 2. What's the point of even having the DD there for 5 minutes? Utterly ridiculous. If you don't want kids at the ceremony, then don't have them in the wedding party. I really think some brides and grooms lose all common sense when it comes to weddings.

PP - if it were me, I'd just take DD home/back to hotel after her flower girl stint was over and not bother returning to any of the wedding festivities. Or have DH stay with DD, depending on whose sibling is getting married.

You do know the OP and her husband were free to decline the role of flower girl for their daughter, yes? Don't say yes to something that doesn't work for you. Saying yes to a commitment and than bitching and whining about said commitment is stupid. No one forced anyone to do anything. They can ask/invite/cajole, even guilt trip: but at the end of the day, you are responsible for what you say yes to. (NP)

You are missing the point. Why have children be in the wedding party if the couple doesn't want children at the ceremony or reception?? Makes no sense. Instead of being reasonable about it, the couple is putting family members/friends with kids in the wedding party in a difficult spot: either refuse to let your child be in the wedding party and risk offending the couple, or deal with the couple's ridiculous demands about no kids at the ceremony (aside from the 5 minutes that the kids are allowed to be there to walk up the aisle of course). Besides, it's entirely possible that the couple did not communicate their desire for no kids until after PP committed her DD to being the flower girl.

As for bitching and whining after the fact, you do know that this is DCUM, right??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And I did not force my kids on this wedding. People READ. The bride to my face told me to bring her kids and it was important to her they were there.

Blah, blah, blah. You chose to involve yourself and your child in this toxic scenario. Own your choices.

?

I was invited to my brother’s wedding with my family. My extended family who are ill drove in to come. Why would I not “involve” myself by RSVPing? I didn’t know MIL was a nut job and thought it would be a normal wedding. And I have attended weddings before, as have my kids.

And you had a huge fight with your brother, and then you were asked to not bring your child to this and that...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And I did not force my kids on this wedding. People READ. The bride to my face told me to bring her kids and it was important to her they were there.

Blah, blah, blah. You chose to involve yourself and your child in this toxic scenario. Own your choices.

?

I was invited to my brother’s wedding with my family. My extended family who are ill drove in to come. Why would I not “involve” myself by RSVPing? I didn’t know MIL was a nut job and thought it would be a normal wedding. And I have attended weddings before, as have my kids.

And you had a huge fight with your brother, and then you were asked to not bring your child to this and that...

I didn’t have a huge fight with my brother. Stop making shit up.

[Anonymous]

OP, you need to stop responding to everyone commenting on this thread. People don't understand and it's making you frustrated.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And I did not force my kids on this wedding. People READ. The bride to my face told me to bring her kids and it was important to her they were there.

Blah, blah, blah. You chose to involve yourself and your child in this toxic scenario. Own your choices.

?

I was invited to my brother’s wedding with my family. My extended family who are ill drove in to come. Why would I not “involve” myself by RSVPing? I didn’t know MIL was a nut job and thought it would be a normal wedding. And I have attended weddings before, as have my kids.

And you had a huge fight with your brother, and then you were asked to not bring your child to this and that...

I didn’t have a huge fight with my brother. Stop making shit up.

UMMM...in your own words: "He said something along the lines that I’m a horrible person and he hopes I lose my job. He is actually somewhat mentally ill so it is not unusual."

And yet you still chose to attend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have happily gotten a babysitter if they had mentioned it was an adult only wedding.

My brother is likely going to be an emotionally abusive spouse so he’s their problem now.

You don't exactly come across like a peach here. I'd love to hear your brother's side of this whole avent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So your mom cried in the bathroom and made her DIL’s day all about her? I can see where you get your behavior.
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You all sound like a total nightmare.