Worst wedding ever

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I get it. My FSIL invited by DD, who will be around 2 then to be the flower girl. But, she’s not invited to the ceremony or reception. What do they think I’m supposed to do with her?

It's called a "babysitter"

NP. But why have children in the ceremony if you don't actually want them there? This is different than saying "no children" period. Think about it - after the DD walks up the aisle as the flower girl, PP would immediately have to leave the ceremony with her (right after it starts) to go meet the babysitter and get her DD settled, which may or may not go well as the child is only 2. What's the point of even having the DD there for 5 minutes? Utterly ridiculous. If you don't want kids at the ceremony, then don't have them in the wedding party. I really think some brides and grooms lose all common sense when it comes to weddings.

PP - if it were me, I'd just take DD home/back to hotel after her flower girl stint was over and not bother returning to any of the wedding festivities. Or have DH stay with DD, depending on whose sibling is getting married.

You do know the OP and her husband were free to decline the role of flower girl for their daughter, yes? Don't say yes to something that doesn't work for you. Saying yes to a commitment and than bitching and whining about said commitment is stupid. No one forced anyone to do anything. They can ask/invite/cajole, even guilt trip: but at the end of the day, you are responsible for what you say yes to. (NP)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I get it. My FSIL invited by DD, who will be around 2 then to be the flower girl. But, she’s not invited to the ceremony or reception. What do they think I’m supposed to do with her?

It's called a "babysitter"

NP. But why have children in the ceremony if you don't actually want them there? This is different than saying "no children" period. Think about it - after the DD walks up the aisle as the flower girl, PP would immediately have to leave the ceremony with her (right after it starts) to go meet the babysitter and get her DD settled, which may or may not go well as the child is only 2. What's the point of even having the DD there for 5 minutes? Utterly ridiculous. If you don't want kids at the ceremony, then don't have them in the wedding party. I really think some brides and grooms lose all common sense when it comes to weddings.

PP - if it were me, I'd just take DD home/back to hotel after her flower girl stint was over and not bother returning to any of the wedding festivities. Or have DH stay with DD, depending on whose sibling is getting married.

I would not attend the wedding under those circumstances. That's what I did when the kids were little. I am not getting a random babysitter for a wedding.

[Anonymous]

New update: apparently MIL is more perverse than I realized. She was making mean comments to my mom all night as well. I think her targeting our kids was actually just away to hurt my mom because she knew it would. My mom didn’t eat and spent the whole night crying in the bathroom because they had previously talked apparently about how important it was to my mom to have the grandkids there.

So it turns out this isn’t about the kids at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New update: apparently MIL is more perverse than I realized. She was making mean comments to my mom all night as well. I think her targeting our kids was actually just away to hurt my mom because she knew it would. My mom didn’t eat and spent the whole night crying in the bathroom because they had previously talked apparently about how important it was to my mom to have the grandkids there.

So it turns out this isn’t about the kids at all.

Old update: You are still responsible for your own participation in this mess.

[Anonymous]

So your mom cried in the bathroom and made her DIL’s day all about her? I can see where you get your behavior.
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[Anonymous]

Wow - sounds awful. To me it sounds like OP was trying to be there and to be nice to her family (honestly, around weddings, i think it's kind of the family's job to be a doormat - you show up when asked, wearing what's requested, with a smile on your face, spend gobs of money and inconvenience yourselves to travel and mess up schedules for small kids. Sounds like you bent over backwards to make it easy for the bride and groom who took too much advantage I hope you at least got a few pics of the kids dressed up adorably, and i hope your family realizes how unkind everyone is being. And a good reminder of what parrots kids can be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow - sounds awful. To me it sounds like OP was trying to be there and to be nice to her family (honestly, around weddings, i think it's kind of the family's job to be a doormat - you show up when asked, wearing what's requested, with a smile on your face, spend gobs of money and inconvenience yourselves to travel and mess up schedules for small kids. Sounds like you bent over backwards to make it easy for the bride and groom who took too much advantage I hope you at least got a few pics of the kids dressed up adorably, and i hope your family realizes how unkind everyone is being. And a good reminder of what parrots kids can be.

Nah. I don't attend inconvenient events, family or not. We eloped just to avoid any of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So your mom cried in the bathroom and made her DIL’s day all about her? I can see where you get your behavior.
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DIL wanted kids there. MIL is just being mean. How are you making my mom the villain in this? Is that you MIL?! She was the one who told invited guests to leave.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a total failure of yours. Are you usually this disorganized and incompetent? You had a fight with your brother? So what, get over it. Families bicker, it's normal. The way you bad mouth people... he probability had a reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So your mom cried in the bathroom and made her DIL’s day all about her? I can see where you get your behavior.
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DIL wanted kids there. MIL is just being mean. How are you making my mom the villain in this? Is that you MIL?! She was the one who told invited guests to leave.

You just said your mom skipped dinner and cried in the bathroom. How is that an appropriate, mature, non-attention seeking response to any of it?

[Anonymous]

Did you post recently about how your mom wanted your kids there, but future DIL/bride didn't really but agreed? And how you were going to maybe stay at home with the kids?

[Anonymous]

You all sound crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So your mom cried in the bathroom and made her DIL’s day all about her? I can see where you get your behavior.
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DIL wanted kids there. MIL is just being mean. How are you making my mom the villain in this? Is that you MIL?! She was the one who told invited guests to leave.

You just said your mom skipped dinner and cried in the bathroom. How is that an appropriate, mature, non-attention seeking response to any of it?

About as mature as MIL walking by her table making mean comments in passing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you post recently about how your mom wanted your kids there, but future DIL/bride didn't really but agreed? And how you were going to maybe stay at home with the kids?

No not me. I totally would have left kids home if asked. They specifically told me to bring them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all sound crazy.

Agree. Totally dysfunctional family on all sides. OPs mom, brother, SIL, and SILs mother all sound batshit crazy.

OP, and I mean this seriously, you might want to consider counseling to try to break the dysfunctional cycle with your own family.