How to deal with “UVA mom” after rude remark?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread cracked me up because years ago, at a nova big box hs reception, I faced a similar mom. My daughter was between UVA and Wharton undergrad and chose Wharton. A UVA uber alles mom, whose son was going to UVA (the son was friends with my daughter) sneered at me (and my daughter) and made a bitchy remark about cost. Wharton was simply my daughter’s top choice and we made it happen.

I guess it depends on how you and your kid made Wharton happen. Not everyone is in the position to make things happen at OOS schools.

Personally, I think that Virginia has a nice selection of beautiful schools with awesome college towns to choose from.

It happened because our other kid was at UVA, we cash out refinanced, and I went back to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What would be even better is if your dd gets into an Ivy, you say how she was already in at UVA but was so excited when she heard about the other schools , then turn to the mom and say “oh UVA is a great school too”. I had a mom say something like that to me once.

Honestly there is no response to make to the mom. I think this was either more of her being a UVA booster or going on the offense that it’s a great choice so she isn’t on the defense if someone else rejects that choice.

The line to use is, “that’s a fine school too.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, this is all about you dying to show your child's superiority.

It is killing you that you weren't able to slam the other mom to the ground, put your foot on her midsection, raise your arms above your head, and loudly proclaim to the world that you, through your careful editing and shaping, created this superior child.

Seek therapy.

Cut it out. You were using the same phrase on the UCLA thread. It's not nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, this is all about you dying to show your child's superiority.

It is killing you that you weren't able to slam the other mom to the ground, put your foot on her midsection, raise your arms above your head, and loudly proclaim to the world that you, through your careful editing and shaping, created this superior child.

Seek therapy.

Cut it out. You were using the same phrase on the UCLA thread. It's not nice.

That’s s really weird scenario someone (you?) typed out in regards to a response to another mom. I mean—really weird. I shudder to think that that is what runs through people’s minds.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Easy answer. UVA is ranked horribly low in all world university rankings. It's very weak in all the difficult subjects. That's why it has zero Nobel alumni and suprisingly few Pulitzers and Emmys. It also has no academy award alumni and no truly impactful alumni in the last 100 years. It's a safe school for safe people that fantasize for the old southern plantation. The world doesn't get the plantation fantasy.

OMG, "world university rankings" poster please go away.

I know! They keep on and on about world rankings not knowing no one cares!

Except the whole world .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread cracked me up because years ago, at a nova big box hs reception, I faced a similar mom. My daughter was between UVA and Wharton undergrad and chose Wharton. A UVA uber alles mom, whose son was going to UVA (the son was friends with my daughter) sneered at me (and my daughter) and made a bitchy remark about cost. Wharton was simply my daughter’s top choice and we made it happen.

I guess it depends on how you and your kid made Wharton happen. Not everyone is in the position to make things happen at OOS schools.

Personally, I think that Virginia has a nice selection of beautiful schools with awesome college towns to choose from.

It happened because our other kid was at UVA, we cash out refinanced, and I went back to work.

That choice worked for you and your daughter. That isn't something that would work for a lot of families. A parent reentering the workforce after a rather long absence may not be able to cover OOS tuition + a bigger house payment due to the refinance.

I would imagine that it would require the kid to qualify for at least partial merit scholarship, maybe work PT and get student loans for the costs that aren't covered. It can definitely be done if the kid wants it badly enough.

[Anonymous]

Look, an excited mom with a golden ticket was looking for a high five from an (apparently) similarly situated mom. You pissed on her parade (no fault of yours!) and she got a bit jealous, I guess. She got carried away and said something dumb. She’s hot tunnel vision. I’d hate to see her reaction if your kid got Echols or something. To be fair, though, her reaction is not uncommon. And if it helps, just imagine what she thinks about parents whose kids are going to VA Tech, Richmond, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Virginia has a much better selection of colleges than Marylan d does.

+ 1000

Which is why M.D. Is a wealthier and more educated state.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread cracked me up because years ago, at a nova big box hs reception, I faced a similar mom. My daughter was between UVA and Wharton undergrad and chose Wharton. A UVA uber alles mom, whose son was going to UVA (the son was friends with my daughter) sneered at me (and my daughter) and made a bitchy remark about cost. Wharton was simply my daughter’s top choice and we made it happen.

I guess it depends on how you and your kid made Wharton happen. Not everyone is in the position to make things happen at OOS schools.

Personally, I think that Virginia has a nice selection of beautiful schools with awesome college towns to choose from.

It happened because our other kid was at UVA, we cash out refinanced, and I went back to work.

That choice worked for you and your daughter. That isn't something that would work for a lot of families. A parent reentering the workforce after a rather long absence may not be able to cover OOS tuition + a bigger house payment due to the refinance.

I would imagine that it would require the kid to qualify for at least partial merit scholarship, maybe work PT and get student loans for the costs that aren't covered. It can definitely be done if the kid wants it badly enough.

I hadn’t been out of the work force that long. It wasn’t easy and I totally understand not doing it. But DD makes seven figures so I think it was the right move for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Virginia has a much better selection of colleges than Marylan d does.

+ 1000

Which is why M.D. Is a wealthier and more educated state.

They why is everyone who is getting sick of being taxed to death moving from MD to Virginia?

[Anonymous]

Why do you have to react to anything. Just say "ok" and be done with it!

[Anonymous]

OP - it's possible that the financial difference between UVA and private options is a big issue for this mom so she just blurted out "what's there to think about?". A lot of us are donut hole families and can't afford the SLACs and Ivies so getting into UVA is a pretty big deal. I'd cut her some slack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, this is all about you dying to show your child's superiority.

It is killing you that you weren't able to slam the other mom to the ground, put your foot on her midsection, raise your arms above your head, and loudly proclaim to the world that you, through your careful editing and shaping, created this superior child.

I'm confused. Should OP have lied and said her daughter is committed to UVA when she isn't [yet]? "UVA mom" was being a typical myopic provincial and abrasive UVA parent.

[Anonymous]

There's nothing to deal with. Does your daughter even WANT you telling randos where she got in? This is HER business. Stop blabbing all over town to anyone who will listen about your almost-adult child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Virginia has a much better selection of colleges than Marylan d does.

+ 1000

Which is why M.D. Is a wealthier and more educated state.

Maryland is a better state and I live here but it seems like Virginia does a few more good University options

I would like my future kids to go to Maryland with a scholarship or some other school that they would like in another part of the country