My kids are 8 and 9 and I think I want a third

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all the comments. This is OP. I would not go to great pains to do this-no miscarriages followed by trying again, no IVF, etc. Will keep thinking it over for the moment...

I support you in your decision to go for #3. However once you start trying you don't really know how you will if you face failure.

I thought if I suffered mosxsriage when trying for #3 I would abandon the plan because it would be a sign that I was too old. But in fact it made me all the more determined to make it happen. I would have never predicted that. Just something you should be aware of.

Thanks. I don’t think I would think of it as a challenge but rather as a sign. We will see. It may never happen, and that would be fine too.

just warning you that these things are unpredictable. i, too, thought i would look at it as a sign and that not having a third would be fine. but then when i got pregnant and miscarried, i felt very differently.

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Anonymous wrote:This is terribly selfish to do to your kids and husband. It will totally change family life- mom now has to hang back with the baby while the big kids do fun stuff. The household revolves around naps again. The youngest will effectively grow up like an only child and he left alone with old parents when the older ones go off to college in a few years.

You don't get to be a mom of young kids forever. They grow up and leave, that's life. You can't delay the inevitable by just forcing another baby into the situation. The time has passed. Enjoy your family for what it is now.

this is one of the stupidest reasons not to have (another) child. i had two kids and at no point did my life "revolved around naps". never, ever. babies napped wherever we happened to be at the time.

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Anonymous wrote:This is terribly selfish to do to your kids and husband. It will totally change family life- mom now has to hang back with the baby while the big kids do fun stuff. The household revolves around naps again. The youngest will effectively grow up like an only child and he left alone with old parents when the older ones go off to college in a few years.

You don't get to be a mom of young kids forever. They grow up and leave, that's life. You can't delay the inevitable by just forcing another baby into the situation. The time has passed. Enjoy your family for what it is now.

this is one of the stupidest reasons not to have (another) child. i had two kids and at no point did my life "revolved around naps". never, ever. babies napped wherever we happened to be at the time.

Why so crabby? Too many kids?

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Anonymous wrote:This is terribly selfish to do to your kids and husband. It will totally change family life- mom now has to hang back with the baby while the big kids do fun stuff. The household revolves around naps again. The youngest will effectively grow up like an only child and he left alone with old parents when the older ones go off to college in a few years.

You don't get to be a mom of young kids forever. They grow up and leave, that's life. You can't delay the inevitable by just forcing another baby into the situation. The time has passed. Enjoy your family for what it is now.

this is one of the stupidest reasons not to have (another) child. i had two kids and at no point did my life "revolved around naps". never, ever. babies napped wherever we happened to be at the time.

Cool for you. My kids lost their minds if they didn't nap and have never been car or stroller nappers.

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Anonymous wrote:This is terribly selfish to do to your kids and husband. It will totally change family life- mom now has to hang back with the baby while the big kids do fun stuff. The household revolves around naps again. The youngest will effectively grow up like an only child and he left alone with old parents when the older ones go off to college in a few years.

You don't get to be a mom of young kids forever. They grow up and leave, that's life. You can't delay the inevitable by just forcing another baby into the situation. The time has passed. Enjoy your family for what it is now.

this is one of the stupidest reasons not to have (another) child. i had two kids and at no point did my life "revolved around naps". never, ever. babies napped wherever we happened to be at the time.

Why so crabby? Too many kids?

I would rather be crabby with a house fulll of kids than overprotective parent of an only child whose life revolves around his naps.

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Anonymous wrote:This is terribly selfish to do to your kids and husband. It will totally change family life- mom now has to hang back with the baby while the big kids do fun stuff. The household revolves around naps again. The youngest will effectively grow up like an only child and he left alone with old parents when the older ones go off to college in a few years.

You don't get to be a mom of young kids forever. They grow up and leave, that's life. You can't delay the inevitable by just forcing another baby into the situation. The time has passed. Enjoy your family for what it is now.

this is one of the stupidest reasons not to have (another) child. i had two kids and at no point did my life "revolved around naps". never, ever. babies napped wherever we happened to be at the time.

Cool for you. My kids lost their minds if they didn't nap and have never been car or stroller nappers.

I don't believe you. I think people are inventing this stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:This is terribly selfish to do to your kids and husband. It will totally change family life- mom now has to hang back with the baby while the big kids do fun stuff. The household revolves around naps again. The youngest will effectively grow up like an only child and he left alone with old parents when the older ones go off to college in a few years.

You don't get to be a mom of young kids forever. They grow up and leave, that's life. You can't delay the inevitable by just forcing another baby into the situation. The time has passed. Enjoy your family for what it is now.

this is one of the stupidest reasons not to have (another) child. i had two kids and at no point did my life "revolved around naps". never, ever. babies napped wherever we happened to be at the time.

Cool for you. My kids lost their minds if they didn't nap and have never been car or stroller nappers.

I don't believe you. I think people are inventing this stuff.

Lmao!! You are a weirdo. People don't have to be inventing experiences just because you did not have them. How myopic can you be.

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Anonymous wrote:This is terribly selfish to do to your kids and husband. It will totally change family life- mom now has to hang back with the baby while the big kids do fun stuff. The household revolves around naps again. The youngest will effectively grow up like an only child and he left alone with old parents when the older ones go off to college in a few years.

You don't get to be a mom of young kids forever. They grow up and leave, that's life. You can't delay the inevitable by just forcing another baby into the situation. The time has passed. Enjoy your family for what it is now.

this is one of the stupidest reasons not to have (another) child. i had two kids and at no point did my life "revolved around naps". never, ever. babies napped wherever we happened to be at the time.

Cool for you. My kids lost their minds if they didn't nap and have never been car or stroller nappers.

I don't believe you. I think people are inventing this stuff.

Lmao!! You are a weirdo. People don't have to be inventing experiences just because you did not have them. How myopic can you be.

Because I have seen people blame 'naps' and 'sugar' for everything for no reason except for holding this weird superstition.. It's a distinctly American thing.

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Anonymous wrote:This is terribly selfish to do to your kids and husband. It will totally change family life- mom now has to hang back with the baby while the big kids do fun stuff. The household revolves around naps again. The youngest will effectively grow up like an only child and he left alone with old parents when the older ones go off to college in a few years.

You don't get to be a mom of young kids forever. They grow up and leave, that's life. You can't delay the inevitable by just forcing another baby into the situation. The time has passed. Enjoy your family for what it is now.

this is one of the stupidest reasons not to have (another) child. i had two kids and at no point did my life "revolved around naps". never, ever. babies napped wherever we happened to be at the time.

Why so crabby? Too many kids?

I would rather be crabby with a house fulll of kids than overprotective parent of an only child whose life revolves around his naps.

Surely that is what YOU'd rather do. What your "house full of kids" think about you is a complete different matter, which you do not seem to care.

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Anonymous wrote:This is terribly selfish to do to your kids and husband. It will totally change family life- mom now has to hang back with the baby while the big kids do fun stuff. The household revolves around naps again. The youngest will effectively grow up like an only child and he left alone with old parents when the older ones go off to college in a few years.

You don't get to be a mom of young kids forever. They grow up and leave, that's life. You can't delay the inevitable by just forcing another baby into the situation. The time has passed. Enjoy your family for what it is now.

this is one of the stupidest reasons not to have (another) child. i had two kids and at no point did my life "revolved around naps". never, ever. babies napped wherever we happened to be at the time.

Cool for you. My kids lost their minds if they didn't nap and have never been car or stroller nappers.

I don't believe you. I think people are inventing this stuff.

Lmao!! You are a weirdo. People don't have to be inventing experiences just because you did not have them. How myopic can you be.

Because I have seen people blame 'naps' and 'sugar' for everything for no reason except for holding this weird superstition.. It's a distinctly American thing.

Nobody said anything about sugar, dork. Kids do nap. Mine were too curious about what was going on around them to nap in a stroller or car. So if I didn't nap them in their beds, they didn't nap.

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Anonymous wrote:This is terribly selfish to do to your kids and husband. It will totally change family life- mom now has to hang back with the baby while the big kids do fun stuff. The household revolves around naps again. The youngest will effectively grow up like an only child and he left alone with old parents when the older ones go off to college in a few years.

You don't get to be a mom of young kids forever. They grow up and leave, that's life. You can't delay the inevitable by just forcing another baby into the situation. The time has passed. Enjoy your family for what it is now.

this is one of the stupidest reasons not to have (another) child. i had two kids and at no point did my life "revolved around naps". never, ever. babies napped wherever we happened to be at the time.

Cool for you. My kids lost their minds if they didn't nap and have never been car or stroller nappers.

I don't believe you. I think people are inventing this stuff.

Lmao!! You are a weirdo. People don't have to be inventing experiences just because you did not have them. How myopic can you be.

Because I have seen people blame 'naps' and 'sugar' for everything for no reason except for holding this weird superstition.. It's a distinctly American thing.

Nobody said anything about sugar, dork. Kids do nap. Mine were too curious about what was going on around them to nap in a stroller or car. So if I didn't nap them in their beds, they didn't nap.

oh, too curious about the world LOL. like home is not interesting.

newsflash: your kids are not special and not particularly curious. you just embraced the napping superstition.

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Anonymous wrote:This is terribly selfish to do to your kids and husband. It will totally change family life- mom now has to hang back with the baby while the big kids do fun stuff. The household revolves around naps again. The youngest will effectively grow up like an only child and he left alone with old parents when the older ones go off to college in a few years.

You don't get to be a mom of young kids forever. They grow up and leave, that's life. You can't delay the inevitable by just forcing another baby into the situation. The time has passed. Enjoy your family for what it is now.

this is one of the stupidest reasons not to have (another) child. i had two kids and at no point did my life "revolved around naps". never, ever. babies napped wherever we happened to be at the time.

Why so crabby? Too many kids?

I would rather be crabby with a house fulll of kids than overprotective parent of an only child whose life revolves around his naps.

Surely that is what YOU'd rather do. What your "house full of kids" think about you is a complete different matter, which you do not seem to care.

yes what I want is important, too. our family life does not revolve around kids' wishes only. that's he reason why, unlike most Americans, I don't count days till I can dump my kids at college.

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Anonymous wrote:This is terribly selfish to do to your kids and husband. It will totally change family life- mom now has to hang back with the baby while the big kids do fun stuff. The household revolves around naps again. The youngest will effectively grow up like an only child and he left alone with old parents when the older ones go off to college in a few years.

You don't get to be a mom of young kids forever. They grow up and leave, that's life. You can't delay the inevitable by just forcing another baby into the situation. The time has passed. Enjoy your family for what it is now.

this is one of the stupidest reasons not to have (another) child. i had two kids and at no point did my life "revolved around naps". never, ever. babies napped wherever we happened to be at the time.

Cool for you. My kids lost their minds if they didn't nap and have never been car or stroller nappers.

I don't believe you. I think people are inventing this stuff.

Lmao!! You are a weirdo. People don't have to be inventing experiences just because you did not have them. How myopic can you be.

Because I have seen people blame 'naps' and 'sugar' for everything for no reason except for holding this weird superstition.. It's a distinctly American thing.

Nobody said anything about sugar, dork. Kids do nap. Mine were too curious about what was going on around them to nap in a stroller or car. So if I didn't nap them in their beds, they didn't nap.

oh, too curious about the world LOL. like home is not interesting.

newsflash: your kids are not special and not particularly curious. you just embraced the napping superstition.

You're right. I and every other parent who experiences it made up the fact our kids could not settle and close their eyes to sleep in crowded loud places. Your kids are the Ur Kids, the only true kids, by whom all others' development and personalities should be measured.

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Anonymous wrote:This is terribly selfish to do to your kids and husband. It will totally change family life- mom now has to hang back with the baby while the big kids do fun stuff. The household revolves around naps again. The youngest will effectively grow up like an only child and he left alone with old parents when the older ones go off to college in a few years.

You don't get to be a mom of young kids forever. They grow up and leave, that's life. You can't delay the inevitable by just forcing another baby into the situation. The time has passed. Enjoy your family for what it is now.

this is one of the stupidest reasons not to have (another) child. i had two kids and at no point did my life "revolved around naps". never, ever. babies napped wherever we happened to be at the time.

Cool for you. My kids lost their minds if they didn't nap and have never been car or stroller nappers.

I don't believe you. I think people are inventing this stuff.

Lmao!! You are a weirdo. People don't have to be inventing experiences just because you did not have them. How myopic can you be.

Because I have seen people blame 'naps' and 'sugar' for everything for no reason except for holding this weird superstition.. It's a distinctly American thing.

Nobody said anything about sugar, dork. Kids do nap. Mine were too curious about what was going on around them to nap in a stroller or car. So if I didn't nap them in their beds, they didn't nap.

oh, too curious about the world LOL. like home is not interesting.

newsflash: your kids are not special and not particularly curious. you just embraced the napping superstition.

You're right. I and every other parent who experiences it made up the fact our kids could not settle and close their eyes to sleep in crowded loud places. Your kids are the Ur Kids, the only true kids, by whom all others' development and personalities should be measured.

nope, it's only that I have experienced other culture where napping myth is not so widespread.

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Anonymous wrote:This is terribly selfish to do to your kids and husband. It will totally change family life- mom now has to hang back with the baby while the big kids do fun stuff. The household revolves around naps again. The youngest will effectively grow up like an only child and he left alone with old parents when the older ones go off to college in a few years.

You don't get to be a mom of young kids forever. They grow up and leave, that's life. You can't delay the inevitable by just forcing another baby into the situation. The time has passed. Enjoy your family for what it is now.

That is so ridiculous. There are ways of structuring family life to be less affected by naps. No he won't grow up like an only child. All babies are forced into life, whether at 20 or at 40. If she can get pregnant, her time hasn't passed. Women have children at 40 every day.