He still is on his ex’s social media. Should I be worried.

[Anonymous]

You know too much about his past relationship, and too little about him, since you’ve only been together a month. The whole thing is off somehow. And your description of his behavior doesn’t reflect well on him - it’s too much drama, too recently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For goodness sakes. It’s just a stupid “like”. It doesn’t mean anything.

+1 if liking a picture means he still wants to be with someone the most of my followers want to be with me *rolls eyes*

Oh did you used to date most of your followers?

I would consider it very disrespectful of our relationship if my boyfriend was interacting with his VERY RECENT ex's photos. There is absolutely no good reason for him to be doing it. The only reasons he could be doing it have to do with her - she gets a notification so it makes her think of him and look at his Facebook to see that he's dating someone else,
he wants to look like he's totally chill and friendly and mature about the whole thing, or wants her to know he's still following her life. Aside from being performative for the ex's benefit why do it?

[Anonymous]

Some of you sound so insecure and nutso. It's a "like" that is all. He appears to like everyone's post, he's not going out of his way to like only hers. So dramatic OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For goodness sakes. It’s just a stupid “like”. It doesn’t mean anything.

+1 if liking a picture means he still wants to be with someone the most of my followers want to be with me *rolls eyes*

Oh did you used to date most of your followers?

I would consider it very disrespectful of our relationship if my boyfriend was interacting with his VERY RECENT ex's photos. There is absolutely no good reason for him to be doing it. The only reasons he could be doing it have to do with her - she gets a notification so it makes her think of him and look at his Facebook to see that he's dating someone else,
he wants to look like he's totally chill and friendly and mature about the whole thing, or wants her to know he's still following her life. Aside from being performative for the ex's benefit why do it?

Maybe because he genuinely likes the content. Maybe he wants to show that there’s no bad blood between them. Maybe to show he’s happy that she’s moving on.

[Anonymous]

You are his rebound. He may not want his ex anymore, but he is not over her.

You've been dating a month and already have problems with him. End it, or keep things very superficial until something better comes along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are his rebound. He may not want his ex anymore, but he is not over her.

You've been dating a month and already have problems with him. End it, or keep things very superficial until something better comes along.

Thanks yea you’re right. So his best friend’s girlfriend just asked her to this thing with her. So obviously she’s still in the group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are his rebound. He may not want his ex anymore, but he is not over her.

You've been dating a month and already have problems with him. End it, or keep things very superficial until something better comes along.

Thanks yea you’re right. So his best friend’s girlfriend just asked her to this thing with her. So obviously she’s still in the group.

Maybe they were friends before then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you sound so insecure and nutso. It's a "like" that is all. He appears to like everyone's post, he's not going out of his way to like only hers. So dramatic OP.

You clearly didn’t read the entire post. Given the rest of the context OP has a lot to be worried about. It’s more than just a ‘like’

[Anonymous]

Hate to resurrect a thread but I had to comment after having a but similar discussion with my niece last night.He’s more than likely liking her pictures because he’s happy for her. Happy/relieved to see that she’s okay.

[Anonymous]

if you are talking something like instagram, its just likes it doesn't mean anything, that's what you're supposed to do with instagram. you are supposed to follow people and "like" their photos to collect "likes." in return they "like" your photos too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:if you are talking something like instagram, its just likes it doesn't mean anything, that's what you're supposed to do with instagram. you are supposed to follow people and "like" their photos to collect "likes." in return they "like" your photos too.

Yes, but the woman he wanted to marry and have kids with he tried to make her jealous and told her he was struggling with the breakup. After he tries to make her jealous he proceeded to like her posts. I think him liking her posts in this context does mean something.

[Anonymous]

Update:

Well now I really do believe that he's just liked her things to be friendly.

His father was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer.. I was at his house and he was getting his mail. He opened it and he looked a little funny so I asked him what was up. He said his ex sent a sympathy letter for he and his family.

Later on I see him text her thanks for the letter. I think if he was still interested he would've said more than that to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update:

Well now I really do believe that he's just liked her things to be friendly.

His father was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer.. I was at his house and he was getting his mail. He opened it and he looked a little funny so I asked him what was up. He said his ex sent a sympathy letter for he and his family.

Later on I see him text her thanks for the letter. I think if he was still interested he would've said more than that to her.

OP I mean this in the nicest way, but are you dense?

What else was he supposed to say back to a card like that? Could he have said more? Sure, but this does not mean he isn't interested in her. He is still interested in her

If my ex sent me a sympathy card, addressed to me and my family what else is there to say but thank you?

No mention of missing me, no mention of wanting to get back together, nothing. I would just take it as a kind gesture and respond accordingly. Especially if in our last interaction you told me you loved me enough to be happy for me to move on after I tried to make you jealous/flaunted another person in your face on purpose. Nope, all I'm saying is thank you.

[Anonymous]

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/688465.page

Why don’t you show him this thread since you both post questions here and get remarkably, have not stumbled across each other’s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/688465.page

Why don’t you show him this thread since you both post questions here and get remarkably, have not stumbled across each other’s.

Thank you PP, was thinking it all sounded familiar but knew I hadn’t read OPs post!