He still is on his ex’s social media. Should I be worried.

[Anonymous]

Let me preface this by saying I hate social media.

I just got back into the dating world after taking some time to work on myself so I’m pretty rusty. I met this guy a little over a month ago. We seem to be hitting it off. The issue is he likes about every other picture his ex has posted. They broke up in early October.

I’m trying to tell myself it’s just him liking the content. He’ll like his other ex’s pictures too, but she’s from years ago. He’ll even like pictures of old flings that didn’t work out, so maybe he’s just weird?

Either way should I be worried? I just don’t want to potentially invest in something down the line if there may be a red flag...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me preface this by saying I hate social media.

I just got back into the dating world after taking some time to work on myself so I’m pretty rusty. I met this guy a little over a month ago. We seem to be hitting it off. The issue is he likes about every other picture his ex has posted. They broke up in early October.

I’m trying to tell myself it’s just him liking the content. He’ll like his other ex’s pictures too, but she’s from years ago. He’ll even like pictures of old flings that didn’t work out, so maybe he’s just weird?

Either way should I be worried? I just don’t want to potentially invest in something down the line if there may be a red flag...

Because you hate social media, you are probably going to put a negative spin on everything he does that's connected to it. Don't let your bias make you paranoid.
Liking pictures of exes, flings, just about anyone it seems?, looks like it's his MO. I wouldn't worry about it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let me preface this by saying I hate social media.

I just got back into the dating world after taking some time to work on myself so I’m pretty rusty. I met this guy a little over a month ago. We seem to be hitting it off. The issue is he likes about every other picture his ex has posted. They broke up in early October.

I’m trying to tell myself it’s just him liking the content. He’ll like his other ex’s pictures too, but she’s from years ago. He’ll even like pictures of old flings that didn’t work out, so maybe he’s just weird?

Either way should I be worried? I just don’t want to potentially invest in something down the line if there may be a red flag...

Because you hate social media, you are probably going to put a negative spin on everything he does that's connected to it. Don't let your bias make you paranoid.
Liking pictures of exes, flings, just about anyone it seems?, looks like it's his MO. I wouldn't worry about it.

I would agree, BUT it’s one thing to like pictures of an ex from years ago and flings who didn’t amount to anything versus an ex from only a little over a month ago.

[Anonymous]

How do you know what posts he likes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know what posts he likes?

We met through a good mutual friend of mine. She told me. She also gave me the rundown on their breakup.

[Anonymous]

How did they breakup?

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Anonymous wrote:How did they breakup?

I do know she broke up with him and shortly tried to reconcile, he said no, but then later told her he was struggling with the breakup and she said she was too. That was mid October ( I think that’s what I was told). I also know that he wanted to marry her/they talked about marriage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How did they breakup?

I do know she broke up with him and shortly tried to reconcile, he said no, but then later told her he was struggling with the breakup and she said she was too. That was mid October ( I think that’s what I was told). I also know that he wanted to marry her/they talked about marriage.

He got dumped by someone he wanted to marry, what, six weeks ago? He is absolutely still hung up on her. You don't move on that quickly, especially not when you're still following their every move on social media.

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Anonymous wrote:How did they breakup?

I do know she broke up with him and shortly tried to reconcile, he said no, but then later told her he was struggling with the breakup and she said she was too. That was mid October ( I think that’s what I was told). I also know that he wanted to marry her/they talked about marriage.

He got dumped by someone he wanted to marry, what, six weeks ago? He is absolutely still hung up on her. You don't move on that quickly, especially not when you're still following their every move on social media.

Yea but he turned her away when she wanted to reconcile. If he likes his previous ex’s pictures and old flings, even the ones that weren’t interested in him, why would liking her pictures be any different? Wouldn’t she just be the same as the others?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How did they breakup?

I do know she broke up with him and shortly tried to reconcile, he said no, but then later told her he was struggling with the breakup and she said she was too. That was mid October ( I think that’s what I was told). I also know that he wanted to marry her/they talked about marriage.

He got dumped by someone he wanted to marry, what, six weeks ago? He is absolutely still hung up on her. You don't move on that quickly, especially not when you're still following their every move on social media.

Yea but he turned her away when she wanted to reconcile. If he likes his previous ex’s pictures and old flings, even the ones that weren’t interested in him, why would liking her pictures be any different? Wouldn’t she just be the same as the others?

And then he went back to her again to tell her he was struggling with the break-up. You don't get over struggling with a break up in a few weeks while perusing all of your exes photos. You're a rebound, don't expect anything more than that.

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Anonymous wrote:How did they breakup?

I do know she broke up with him and shortly tried to reconcile, he said no, but then later told her he was struggling with the breakup and she said she was too. That was mid October ( I think that’s what I was told). I also know that he wanted to marry her/they talked about marriage.

He got dumped by someone he wanted to marry, what, six weeks ago? He is absolutely still hung up on her. You don't move on that quickly, especially not when you're still following their every move on social media.

Yea but he turned her away when she wanted to reconcile. If he likes his previous ex’s pictures and old flings, even the ones that weren’t interested in him, why would liking her pictures be any different? Wouldn’t she just be the same as the others?

And then he went back to her again to tell her he was struggling with the break-up. You don't get over struggling with a break up in a few weeks while perusing all of your exes photos. You're a rebound, don't expect anything more than that.

Not OP, but saying he’s struggling doesn’t mean he went back to her per se. He could be liking her pictures to be nice-show that there’s no hard feelings and to relieve his guilt.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How did they breakup?

I do know she broke up with him and shortly tried to reconcile, he said no, but then later told her he was struggling with the breakup and she said she was too. That was mid October ( I think that’s what I was told). I also know that he wanted to marry her/they talked about marriage.

He got dumped by someone he wanted to marry, what, six weeks ago? He is absolutely still hung up on her. You don't move on that quickly, especially not when you're still following their every move on social media.

Yea but he turned her away when she wanted to reconcile. If he likes his previous ex’s pictures and old flings, even the ones that weren’t interested in him, why would liking her pictures be any different? Wouldn’t she just be the same as the others?

And then he went back to her again to tell her he was struggling with the break-up. You don't get over struggling with a break up in a few weeks while perusing all of your exes photos. You're a rebound, don't expect anything more than that.

Not OP, but saying he’s struggling doesn’t mean he went back to her per se. He could be liking her pictures to be nice-show that there’s no hard feelings and to relieve his guilt.

Not wanting her back and being over her are not the same thing. He can know he shouldn't get back together with her and still being emotionally tied up in her and not ready to emotionally connect with someone else. I mean, if OP wants to date this guy knowing he's probably comparing every aspect of her to his ex to find the way that OP is both better and lacking, she can do that. But it rarely ends well, and you spend a lot of time wondering if he's thinking about how much better she was in bed while you're having sex.

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Anonymous wrote:How did they breakup?

I do know she broke up with him and shortly tried to reconcile, he said no, but then later told her he was struggling with the breakup and she said she was too. That was mid October ( I think that’s what I was told). I also know that he wanted to marry her/they talked about marriage.

He got dumped by someone he wanted to marry, what, six weeks ago? He is absolutely still hung up on her. You don't move on that quickly, especially not when you're still following their every move on social media.

Yea but he turned her away when she wanted to reconcile. If he likes his previous ex’s pictures and old flings, even the ones that weren’t interested in him, why would liking her pictures be any different? Wouldn’t she just be the same as the others?

And then he went back to her again to tell her he was struggling with the break-up. You don't get over struggling with a break up in a few weeks while perusing all of your exes photos. You're a rebound, don't expect anything more than that.

Not OP, but saying he’s struggling doesn’t mean he went back to her per se. He could be liking her pictures to be nice-show that there’s no hard feelings and to relieve his guilt.

Not wanting her back and being over her are not the same thing. He can know he shouldn't get back together with her and still being emotionally tied up in her and not ready to emotionally connect with someone else. I mean, if OP wants to date this guy knowing he's probably comparing every aspect of her to his ex to find the way that OP is both better and lacking, she can do that. But it rarely ends well, and you spend a lot of time wondering if he's thinking about how much better she was in bed while you're having sex.

Actually, I wouldn’t be surprised if he wanted her back. Liking the pictures doesn’t mean anything, but given the context he probably still wants to be with her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How did they breakup?

I do know she broke up with him and shortly tried to reconcile, he said no, but then later told her he was struggling with the breakup and she said she was too. That was mid October ( I think that’s what I was told). I also know that he wanted to marry her/they talked about marriage.

He got dumped by someone he wanted to marry, what, six weeks ago? He is absolutely still hung up on her. You don't move on that quickly, especially not when you're still following their every move on social media.

Yea but he turned her away when she wanted to reconcile. If he likes his previous ex’s pictures and old flings, even the ones that weren’t interested in him, why would liking her pictures be any different? Wouldn’t she just be the same as the others?

And then he went back to her again to tell her he was struggling with the break-up. You don't get over struggling with a break up in a few weeks while perusing all of your exes photos. You're a rebound, don't expect anything more than that.

Not OP, but saying he’s struggling doesn’t mean he went back to her per se. He could be liking her pictures to be nice-show that there’s no hard feelings and to relieve his guilt.

Not wanting her back and being over her are not the same thing. He can know he shouldn't get back together with her and still being emotionally tied up in her and not ready to emotionally connect with someone else. I mean, if OP wants to date this guy knowing he's probably comparing every aspect of her to his ex to find the way that OP is both better and lacking, she can do that. But it rarely ends well, and you spend a lot of time wondering if he's thinking about how much better she was in bed while you're having sex.

So why do you think he’s liking her pictures then?

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Anonymous wrote:How did they breakup?

I do know she broke up with him and shortly tried to reconcile, he said no, but then later told her he was struggling with the breakup and she said she was too. That was mid October ( I think that’s what I was told). I also know that he wanted to marry her/they talked about marriage.

He got dumped by someone he wanted to marry, what, six weeks ago? He is absolutely still hung up on her. You don't move on that quickly, especially not when you're still following their every move on social media.

Yea but he turned her away when she wanted to reconcile. If he likes his previous ex’s pictures and old flings, even the ones that weren’t interested in him, why would liking her pictures be any different? Wouldn’t she just be the same as the others?

And then he went back to her again to tell her he was struggling with the break-up. You don't get over struggling with a break up in a few weeks while perusing all of your exes photos. You're a rebound, don't expect anything more than that.

Not OP, but saying he’s struggling doesn’t mean he went back to her per se. He could be liking her pictures to be nice-show that there’s no hard feelings and to relieve his guilt.

Not wanting her back and being over her are not the same thing. He can know he shouldn't get back together with her and still being emotionally tied up in her and not ready to emotionally connect with someone else. I mean, if OP wants to date this guy knowing he's probably comparing every aspect of her to his ex to find the way that OP is both better and lacking, she can do that. But it rarely ends well, and you spend a lot of time wondering if he's thinking about how much better she was in bed while you're having sex.

So why do you think he’s liking her pictures then?

Huh? I think I've been pretty clear that I think he's liking her pictures because he's still hung up on her.