He still is on his ex’s social media. Should I be worried.

[Anonymous]

Wait, so your good friend told you all of this? That he’s been liking his exes pictures, as well as the history of their breakup? Yet she was the one to set you both up?
Seems kind of weird.

[Anonymous]

He seems needy.

[Anonymous]

Social media sucks sometimes.

Personally, my take on it is that I don’t care if my DH is still friends with or likes/comments (or gets them from) girlfriends that are in the pretty distant past. I know he’s friends with at least 2 that I’m totally fine with. They appear to have happily moved on, as has he (duh, lol).

I did have a problem with his most recent ex even though she’s engaged to someone else. She’ll like all of his posts EXCEPT ones that have me in the picture or me tagged (I hate myself for analyzing it this much). She also cheated on my DH with her current fiancé and cheated on the guy before my DH with my DH, so she’s a serial cheater who doesn’t seem to care. She’s a big attention whore and would send selfie snapchats to my DH too. (He removed her.) I actually have never asked him to actually unfriend her on FB because I can see what she likes and if she comments. He never seems to comment on her posts (many which I can see because we have friends or her family members in common so I can see a lot of them.)

It just depends on the person and the nature of the breakup or past relationship. In your case I would not be cool with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems like he's one of those people who stays friends with everyone, there doesn't need to be some sort of longing to be with them just because he stays friends and likes their posts. If you're really concerned about it, talk to him about it.

But this guy does have some sort of longing with his.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so your good friend told you all of this? That he’s been liking his exes pictures, as well as the history of their breakup? Yet she was the one to set you both up?
Seems kind of weird.

+1

What is her take on things? Does she think this guy is hung up on his ex? Had things been going south for a while or was he blindsided/heartbroken by the breakup? Had he been happy in the relationship, but his ex wasn’t? We’re they fighting or incompatible? What was the reason for the breakup? We need more detail.

I’d definitely be very cautious here. It’s also possible his ex will get jealous when she learns he’s dating someone else and will try again to reconcile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so your good friend told you all of this? That he’s been liking his exes pictures, as well as the history of their breakup? Yet she was the one to set you both up?
Seems kind of weird.

+1

What is her take on things? Does she think this guy is hung up on his ex? Had things been going south for a while or was he blindsided/heartbroken by the breakup? Had he been happy in the relationship, but his ex wasn’t? We’re they fighting or incompatible? What was the reason for the breakup? We need more detail.

I’d definitely be very cautious here. It’s also possible his ex will get jealous when she learns he’s dating someone else and will try again to reconcile.

This is her SO’s good friend. She knew he was on the market, but didn’t know that he had been liking her pictures until recently. When she saw that he was she told me.

From what I know they had been arguing quite a bit and she thought he had been insecure about some things. He on the other hand didn’t believe he was being insecure. The week they had broken up he was talking to her sister telling her how much he wanted to fix things and wanted things to work. A few days later she broke up with him, so I guess he was blindsided? When she went to reconcile he told her they argued too much and he wasn’t being paranoid about his insecurities. After he turned her away he bombarded her with messages. Saying things like the breakup really screwed with him, how he wanted to stay but couldn’t, etc. Then eventually the this is hard for me/struggling text followed.

[Anonymous]

The social media thing is neither here nor there. I don't like it, but I'm also like you in that I'm not a fan of social media. Some people simply "like" whatever anyone posts. Who knows what it means or doesn't.

The larger issue is how recently he broke up and the fact that he was so attached. How can be ready for anything with you now? And what if the ex wants to get back together?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The social media thing is neither here nor there. I don't like it, but I'm also like you in that I'm not a fan of social media. Some people simply "like" whatever anyone posts. Who knows what it means or doesn't.

The larger issue is how recently he broke up and the fact that he was so attached. How can be ready for anything with you now? And what if the ex wants to get back together?

+1 on ALL fronts.
The point is, you don't trust him - whether it's warranted or not. The younger me would be obsessing just as you are, turning it over and over in my mind. The present-day me says walk away gracefully and be open to his returning in time or even better, a completely new opportunity with someone with whom you feel secure.

Don't mistake the intensity you feel with love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so your good friend told you all of this? That he’s been liking his exes pictures, as well as the history of their breakup? Yet she was the one to set you both up?
Seems kind of weird.

+1

What is her take on things? Does she think this guy is hung up on his ex? Had things been going south for a while or was he blindsided/heartbroken by the breakup? Had he been happy in the relationship, but his ex wasn’t? We’re they fighting or incompatible? What was the reason for the breakup? We need more detail.

I’d definitely be very cautious here. It’s also possible his ex will get jealous when she learns he’s dating someone else and will try again to reconcile.

This is her SO’s good friend. She knew he was on the market, but didn’t know that he had been liking her pictures until recently. When she saw that he was she told me.

From what I know they had been arguing quite a bit and she thought he had been insecure about some things. He on the other hand didn’t believe he was being insecure. The week they had broken up he was talking to her sister telling her how much he wanted to fix things and wanted things to work. A few days later she broke up with him, so I guess he was blindsided? When she went to reconcile he told her they argued too much and he wasn’t being paranoid about his insecurities. After he turned her away he bombarded her with messages. Saying things like the breakup really screwed with him, how he wanted to stay but couldn’t, etc. Then eventually the this is hard for me/struggling text followed.

If your friend thought these things were insignificant, she wouldn't have even mentioned them. She told you because she thinks they may be red flags. Also, how do you know all of this stuff about their break-up? Did he tell you or did your friend? If the latter, does he know you've been told all of this? It kind of sounds like your friend likes drama and may be dragging you along for the ride by setting you up with this guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The social media thing is neither here nor there. I don't like it, but I'm also like you in that I'm not a fan of social media. Some people simply "like" whatever anyone posts. Who knows what it means or doesn't.

The larger issue is how recently he broke up and the fact that he was so attached. How can be ready for anything with you now? And what if the ex wants to get back together?

+1 the liking her pictures just reinforces that he more than likely still wants to be with her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so your good friend told you all of this? That he’s been liking his exes pictures, as well as the history of their breakup? Yet she was the one to set you both up?
Seems kind of weird.

+1

What is her take on things? Does she think this guy is hung up on his ex? Had things been going south for a while or was he blindsided/heartbroken by the breakup? Had he been happy in the relationship, but his ex wasn’t? We’re they fighting or incompatible? What was the reason for the breakup? We need more detail.

I’d definitely be very cautious here. It’s also possible his ex will get jealous when she learns he’s dating someone else and will try again to reconcile.

This is her SO’s good friend. She knew he was on the market, but didn’t know that he had been liking her pictures until recently. When she saw that he was she told me.

From what I know they had been arguing quite a bit and she thought he had been insecure about some things. He on the other hand didn’t believe he was being insecure. The week they had broken up he was talking to her sister telling her how much he wanted to fix things and wanted things to work. A few days later she broke up with him, so I guess he was blindsided? When she went to reconcile he told her they argued too much and he wasn’t being paranoid about his insecurities. After he turned her away he bombarded her with messages. Saying things like the breakup really screwed with him, how he wanted to stay but couldn’t, etc. Then eventually the this is hard for me/struggling text followed.

If your friend thought these things were insignificant, she wouldn't have even mentioned them. She told you because she thinks they may be red flags. Also, how do you know all of this stuff about their break-up? Did he tell you or did your friend? If the latter, does he know you've been told all of this? It kind of sounds like your friend likes drama and may be dragging you along for the ride by setting you up with this guy.

This is her SO’s friend. She didn’t know he was still liking her pictures. When she found out she told me and gave me more details on the breakup.

[Anonymous]

Even if he didn’t want to take her off social media he didn’t have to like her pictures. If he wanted to move on he’d avoid her pictures but still keep her as a friend. He doesn’t want to move on.

[Anonymous]

For goodness sakes. It’s just a stupid “like”. It doesn’t mean anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so your good friend told you all of this? That he’s been liking his exes pictures, as well as the history of their breakup? Yet she was the one to set you both up?
Seems kind of weird.

+1

What is her take on things? Does she think this guy is hung up on his ex? Had things been going south for a while or was he blindsided/heartbroken by the breakup? Had he been happy in the relationship, but his ex wasn’t? We’re they fighting or incompatible? What was the reason for the breakup? We need more detail.

I’d definitely be very cautious here. It’s also possible his ex will get jealous when she learns he’s dating someone else and will try again to reconcile.

This is her SO’s good friend. She knew he was on the market, but didn’t know that he had been liking her pictures until recently. When she saw that he was she told me.

From what I know they had been arguing quite a bit and she thought he had been insecure about some things. He on the other hand didn’t believe he was being insecure. The week they had broken up he was talking to her sister telling her how much he wanted to fix things and wanted things to work. A few days later she broke up with him, so I guess he was blindsided? When she went to reconcile he told her they argued too much and he wasn’t being paranoid about his insecurities. After he turned her away he bombarded her with messages. Saying things like the breakup really screwed with him, how he wanted to stay but couldn’t, etc. Then eventually the this is hard for me/struggling text followed.

If your friend thought these things were insignificant, she wouldn't have even mentioned them. She told you because she thinks they may be red flags. Also, how do you know all of this stuff about their break-up? Did he tell you or did your friend? If the latter, does he know you've been told all of this? It kind of sounds like your friend likes drama and may be dragging you along for the ride by setting you up with this guy.

This is her SO’s friend. She didn’t know he was still liking her pictures. When she found out she told me and gave me more details on the breakup.

And she told you this because she thinks there is cause of concern there.

OP, it's really up to you. If you want to keep going with this relationship, then go for it and stop asking everyone else's opinion. But arguing with us isn't going to change anything about him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For goodness sakes. It’s just a stupid “like”. It doesn’t mean anything.

+1 if liking a picture means he still wants to be with someone the most of my followers want to be with me *rolls eyes*