My ex sent me a card today
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Anonymous
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My ex broke up with me in early October saying she was just exhausted from all the arguing. She tried to get back with me a week later and I told her no. I admit I messed up and sent her a lot of messages the next and the days that followed after I rejected her. A week later I told her I was struggling.
She is the first person I could see myself marrying and having kids with. Hell, I even told her when we were dating I though about what our house would be like and what our kids would look like. All my other exes cheated on me, but she was loyal and I know she'd never cheat on me, but at the same time I didn't trust her. Sadly, my mother passed away a year ago. She sent me a card, well the entire family really, saying she knew the anniversary of my mom's death was coming up and evertyhing with the holidays she imagines that it's hard, and all that other good stuff. Since I’ve been cheated on the other breakups were really different and now I don't know what to make of this. Should I say anything to her? I don't know, this means she's a really good person doesn't it? |
Anonymous
| Text or call her. Very sweet. |
Anonymous
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You thank her. It doesn't mean you will get back together.
It sounds like you are the one with issues, OP. Please think hard about why you think your other exes cheated on you, and if you have incontrovertible evidence they did, why you are attracted to that kind of person. You have to move past this if you want to be a decent future boyfriend. I don't know if self-help books or a therapist might help, but you can try. |
Anonymous
Thanks. Are you saying that I shouldn’t get my hopes up? |
Anonymous
| Maybe therapy will help sort out all your issues. |
Anonymous
| This doesn’t sound good. It was a nice gesture, but I’d leave it alone. Not even to say thank. Why open that door again. FYI if you argued all the time, it was a shitty relationship. Cheating is not the only benchmark here. You can do better. |
Anonymous
...or a creative writing course. |
Anonymous
I'm saying you have a lot of baggage to sort out first, before even thinking of seeing anybody! |
Anonymous
Is it really that serious to be making snide remarks? It’s just a forum and OP has a lot going on right now. Either give genuine advice or don’t say anything at all. |
Anonymous
Hello, Op. |
Anonymous
Being cheated on isn't necessarily the sign of a character flaw nor something he did. Cheating is about the cheater more than the relationship. He needs to work on his trust issues but that doesn't mean he was the problem that made past partners cheat. |
Anonymous
Not saying thank you is extremely rude. Just because something didn’t work out doesn’t mean you have to be rude. I disagree. You can learn to argue properly and it the relationship be better. Plus it’s not really our place to say if OP can do better or not. Personally if I loved someone enough who is loyal, supportive, and as caring as OP’s ex seems to be, learning to communicate better could be worth it. |
Anonymous
Wrong. I’m the PP from 21:53. |
Anonymous
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It's about if you want to be a good husband
Does she want to be a good wife To make it work you both - independently - need to be of the mindset that you want marriage. I don't understand what there is to argue about. That's not normal. Some couples are just in a continuous loop of drama and wanting attention. Is that you? |
Anonymous
...and 21;01, etc. |