Sons bday conflicts with husbands football- I’m stuck in middle

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Letter to the Husband: Guess what? Having kids is inconvenient. Sometimes you have to change what you want to do to do things for them. It is what you signed up for when you ejaculated inside your lady. Don't worry it doesn't last forever. Also, Go listen to "Cat's in the Cradle". Also, get over college. You are the weird old guys in the parking lot now.

You sound like a super treat to be married to. It’s nkt like he wants to stay home and watch the game on TV. It’s an out of town trip that was PREVIOUSLY SCHEDULED. Get a life.

[Anonymous]

Aren't you going to do a family bday with cake and family presents on the actual day? Then you can do the friend sleepover whenever. Get another cake and they can bring presents. Grandma def doesn't need to be there for a 13 yr old boy sleepover. Also, since they are 13 you prob don't need help. Have food and provide supervision. They can entertain themselves.

[Anonymous]

Ask your kid what he wants. If he doesn't care if dad is there for the sleepover, then dad goes to the game. If kid wants dad there (which I highly doubt), ask kid if he wants it that particular night. If he does, you put it to your husband to make the decision of if he will be there or not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is your husband IN college and ON the football team? If not, I fail to understand the problem. How could watching sportsball be more important to him than his son? His priorities are pathetic.

Why does he have to choose? Just pick a different day for the party. I don't get this AT ALL. Why does the soccer team's availability/preferences matter but not the husband's?

Because you know in DCUM Land the children are supposed to be the center of the parents' universe and all the wives are man-haters behind the scenes. And then the women wonder why their marriages are falling apart.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So your husband is the kicker for the university football team?

Didn't think so.

Of course his kid's birthday party trumps him sitting around on his ass drinking beer and watching football.

That is what DVRs are for.

This. Your husband sounds like a brat.

Are you really not reading this threat at all?

I'd be pissed if my DH tried to have me skip a girls trip (which comes around 1 time a year at most) that was long planned and included travel bc of DS's sleepover when there are a million other solutions!~

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why both parents have to be there for a 13 yr old sleepover.

I don't either. 13 is a little old for the dad to need to be there for cake cutting. Let him enjoy his homecoming game! You and grandma could even FaceTime with him during the cake cutting if that's what it takes.

No no no no no no. Do not enable your husband's petulance/selfishness. If a woman had an important (to her) event that coincided with her kids birthday, society would be willing to burn her at the stake.

Nonsense. If mom had a planned girls' getaway and dad tried to schedule the party on the same date, I'd be upset on her behalf and tell her to go, too. Have a private family celebration on a different date. This isn't a little kid - it's a teenager. It's all about his friends.

[Anonymous]

DD is about to turn 13 and we're starting to talk about the party. I assume DH won't be around and I'll just be there to facilitate things. At that age it's about the peers -- parents are encouraged to be nearly invisible and just show up with the credit card! Let DH go to his football and make party low maintenance fun.

[Anonymous]

Clearly this thread has been taken over by the crap dads and the wives married to them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why both parents have to be there for a 13 yr old sleepover.

I don't either. 13 is a little old for the dad to need to be there for cake cutting. Let him enjoy his homecoming game! You and grandma could even FaceTime with him during the cake cutting if that's what it takes.

No no no no no no. Do not enable your husband's petulance/selfishness. If a woman had an important (to her) event that coincided with her kids birthday, society would be willing to burn her at the stake.

Nonsense. If mom had a planned girls' getaway and dad tried to schedule the party on the same date, I'd be upset on her behalf and tell her to go, too. Have a private family celebration on a different date. This isn't a little kid - it's a teenager. It's all about his friends.

On the contrary, why would you plan a trip away the week your kid has a birthday? Some teenagers so want to spend time with their parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is your husband IN college and ON the football team? If not, I fail to understand the problem. How could watching sportsball be more important to him than his son? His priorities are pathetic.

Why does he have to choose? Just pick a different day for the party. I don't get this AT ALL. Why does the soccer team's availability/preferences matter but not the husband's?

Because you know in DCUM Land the children are supposed to be the center of the parents' universe and all the wives are man-haters behind the scenes. And then the women wonder why their marriages are falling apart.

I bet you wonder why your kids don't speak to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have lost a year of my life reading about birthday parties on this forum.

Birthdays are a big deal. It's one more year you got to have with your kid. Not everyone gets that.

[Anonymous]

Your DH should take your son to the game. He's 13 now old enough to be considered one of the guys. Perfect time for father and son bonding.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your husband IN college and ON the football team? If not, I fail to understand the problem. How could watching sportsball be more important to him than his son? His priorities are pathetic.

Why does he have to choose? Just pick a different day for the party. I don't get this AT ALL. Why does the soccer team's availability/preferences matter but not the husband's?

Because you know in DCUM Land the children are supposed to be the center of the parents' universe and all the wives are man-haters behind the scenes. And then the women wonder why their marriages are falling apart.

I bet you wonder why your kids don't speak to you.

I bet you wonder why your husband doesn't speak to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your husband IN college and ON the football team? If not, I fail to understand the problem. How could watching sportsball be more important to him than his son? His priorities are pathetic.

Why does he have to choose? Just pick a different day for the party. I don't get this AT ALL. Why does the soccer team's availability/preferences matter but not the husband's?

Because you know in DCUM Land the children are supposed to be the center of the parents' universe and all the wives are man-haters behind the scenes. And then the women wonder why their marriages are falling apart.

I bet you wonder why your kids don't speak to you.

I bet you wonder why your husband doesn't speak to you.

Nope. We talk We're happy. It's a beautiful thing. I'm sorry you chose to marry a child who didn't want to be a father.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your husband IN college and ON the football team? If not, I fail to understand the problem. How could watching sportsball be more important to him than his son? His priorities are pathetic.

Why does he have to choose? Just pick a different day for the party. I don't get this AT ALL. Why does the soccer team's availability/preferences matter but not the husband's?

Because you know in DCUM Land the children are supposed to be the center of the parents' universe and all the wives are man-haters behind the scenes. And then the women wonder why their marriages are falling apart.

I bet you wonder why your kids don't speak to you.

I bet you wonder why your husband doesn't speak to you.

Nope. We talk We're happy. It's a beautiful thing. I'm sorry you chose to marry a child who didn't want to be a father.

That’s quite a leap. You really need a reality check and to get a grip. (Not PP. Also not a man)