married professor dating a graduate student

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you do while you're hanging outside of your advisor's office 3-4 days per week for 3 or 4 hours? You could be doing productive, like research, you know...not just keeping tabs on someone's fictional comings and goings.

No joke, that is really creepy and stalkerish.

[Anonymous]

This happens all the time. You need to change advisers or just ignore it. You will ruin your career if you say anything.

[Anonymous]

This must be fake. Nobody is this naive. 11:09 has nailed it (no pun intended!).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you do while you're hanging outside of your advisor's office 3-4 days per week for 3 or 4 hours? You could be doing productive, like research, you know...not just keeping tabs on someone's fictional comings and goings.

I'm not there the entire time but my office is close by. It's not just me who noticed this. Other tas have asked me about this too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happens all the time. You need to change advisers or just ignore it. You will ruin your career if you say anything.

And how will he know it's OP? Say something after you graduate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What do you do while you're hanging outside of your advisor's office 3-4 days per week for 3 or 4 hours? You could be doing productive, like research, you know...not just keeping tabs on someone's fictional comings and goings.

I'm not there the entire time but my office is close by. It's not just me who noticed this. Other tas have asked me about this too.

You sound like a bunch of blue hairs at a bridge game. If your adviser is ghosting on you. THAT's your complaint. Raise it with your adviser and if it's not rectified to your satisfaction and he's still missing appointments with you, then raise the issue to the department chair. It's about him being a crappy adviser, not about you being the morality police for perceived marital indiscretions.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What do you do while you're hanging outside of your advisor's office 3-4 days per week for 3 or 4 hours? You could be doing productive, like research, you know...not just keeping tabs on someone's fictional comings and goings.

I'm not there the entire time but my office is close by. It's not just me who noticed this. Other tas have asked me about this too.

You sound like a bunch of blue hairs at a bridge game. If your adviser is ghosting on you. THAT's your complaint. Raise it with your adviser and if it's not rectified to your satisfaction and he's still missing appointments with you, then raise the issue to the department chair. It's about him being a crappy adviser, not about you being the morality police for perceived marital indiscretions.

Cheaters never want to be called out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What do you do while you're hanging outside of your advisor's office 3-4 days per week for 3 or 4 hours? You could be doing productive, like research, you know...not just keeping tabs on someone's fictional comings and goings.

I'm not there the entire time but my office is close by. It's not just me who noticed this. Other tas have asked me about this too.

You sound like a bunch of blue hairs at a bridge game. If your adviser is ghosting on you. THAT's your complaint. Raise it with your adviser and if it's not rectified to your satisfaction and he's still missing appointments with you, then raise the issue to the department chair. It's about him being a crappy adviser, not about you being the morality police for perceived marital indiscretions.

Cheaters never want to be called out.

Ok...

[Anonymous]

I used to close the door for all meetings with my married advisor in grad school. We were not having an affair, or even attracted to each other. I didn't like the noise from the hallway, though, or the distraction of undergrads who would pop by and interrupt. I was obsessed with my work and wanted all of my advisor's attention during our scheduled meetings.

I have found you pathetic, OP. I hope you decide not to embarrass yourself by repeating your idiotic gossip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to close the door for all meetings with my married advisor in grad school. We were not having an affair, or even attracted to each other. I didn't like the noise from the hallway, though, or the distraction of undergrads who would pop by and interrupt. I was obsessed with my work and wanted all of my advisor's attention during our scheduled meetings.

I have found you pathetic, OP. I hope you decide not to embarrass yourself by repeating your idiotic gossip.

*WOULD have found you pathetic (though I do also find your pathetic at this moment).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to close the door for all meetings with my married advisor in grad school. We were not having an affair, or even attracted to each other. I didn't like the noise from the hallway, though, or the distraction of undergrads who would pop by and interrupt. I was obsessed with my work and wanted all of my advisor's attention during our scheduled meetings.

I have found you pathetic, OP. I hope you decide not to embarrass yourself by repeating your idiotic gossip.

I like how you added that you "(weren't) even attracted to each other" as if that would have been a legitimate reason to have had the door closed. You people are such hypocrites.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:LOL at how many bootlickers in this thread are falling over themselves to defend an authority figure.

Lots of cheaters on here obviously

+1. This thread is full of defensive adulterers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:LOL at how many bootlickers in this thread are falling over themselves to defend an authority figure.

Lots of cheaters on here obviously

+1. This thread is full of defensive adulterers.

No, it is full of a bunch of people who don't jump to conclusions. Maybe the professor has an open marriage? Maybe they aren't sleeping together? Who cares? I also had professors who slept with grad students (including female professors with male students). If they are both consenting adults, how is it my business? I never dated professors as a grad student because I think it is a bad power dynamic and also worried about the gossip. The minute I got divorced, I had a few professors ask me out. But honestly, if they date other grad students, how does it affect me? It doesn't.

OP needs to understand that their will always be people out there who will act unethically or immoral.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is she attractive? Are you jealous of this alleged interaction?

No. I am male. He doesn't have time for his other students. It has nothing to do with jealously.

It's all about jealousy. You have the hots for the female student, you are jealous of the prof, and you want to retaliate in a petty underhanded way by making an unsubstantiated accusation. You are a garbage human being.

No I have beautiful girlfriend. I'm not jealous of a 30 something single mom who flirts with married men. It's disgusting.

Uh huh. You're fapping to porn. Otherwise you wouldn't care about this at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:LOL at how many bootlickers in this thread are falling over themselves to defend an authority figure.

Lots of cheaters on here obviously

+1. This thread is full of defensive adulterers.

Spare me, pot stirrer.

Male professor has office door closed with female student...OP jumps to conclusion that they're dating, and he should saying something about it.

What? That's quite the mental leap. I guess OP's PhD isn't going to be in logic and reasoning.