Way too attracted to a dad at school.... how to defuse it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids will end up hating you because dh will tell them someday. Work with your DH. This guy might be attractive, but believe me he has his faults.

Yep, I did. Wife cheated, when kids asked why I told them. When they were younger I didn't say much but that their mom liked someone better than me. When they got older I told them. No point in hiding it, it's the truth. Don't do stuff if you're not prepared for the consequences and the the truth.

You're sick. My DH cheated on me in no way in HELL would I burden my children with that. Jesus, what a selfish prick you are. You are a real piece of shit.

NP. Boy, this is an emotional angry response. You really wish you could tell them don't you? Therapy, lady.

Misdirected anger at it's finest. PP thinks she's protecting her kids, but in reality she's trying to protect herself if she can keep up the picture of perfection she won't have to deal with the fact her husband IS a cheater.
Yes is he hasn't and won't stop.

How do I know this? My dad cheated on my mom. She didn't tell us, no she was like you and pretended. I found out anyway.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids will end up hating you because dh will tell them someday. Work with your DH. This guy might be attractive, but believe me he has his faults.

Yep, I did. Wife cheated, when kids asked why I told them. When they were younger I didn't say much but that their mom liked someone better than me. When they got older I told them. No point in hiding it, it's the truth. Don't do stuff if you're not prepared for the consequences and the the truth.

You're sick. My DH cheated on me in no way in HELL would I burden my children with that. Jesus, what a selfish prick you are. You are a real piece of shit.

DP

It's important the kids know their mother is of such low character and a whore.

The fact that you can't understand that shows you're a piece of shit, too.

As someone who was cheated on, i don't normally say this, but i definitly can see why she stepped out. Instead of turning sour like yourself, I've made the choice to coparent my kids with coorporation free from animosity and rancor. Clearly, not your style, but when it comes to my kids, I put their needs first. I might not love their dad, bit they still do and it is not their fault he couldnt keep his dick in his pants. What you have accomplished is making your kids pay for the sins of their mother. It take a special kind of sadist to do that to their own children. Just like my ex, I'm sure yours has moved on. You should move on too.

Please get help, your kids deserve better.

+1. You are doing this VERY wrong, PP. Your poor children

Did you all miss the part that when they were younger he didn't say much of anything, but they learned the truth when they were older?

Do you guys really think you are going to keep this hidden forever? That theyy are going to believe mommy and daddy just didn't want to live together anymore when they are 15? Get a clue!

[Anonymous]

I think it is good to tell the real reason.

My grandma cheated and divorced. My grandpa did not let my mom know ever and told me when I lived with them 40 years later. The real story (and I believe it) was a mystery to my mom and she has always felt unloveable for no reason. It was not about her but since she didn't know anything else, that has shaken her confidence for over 50 years.

Be honest. A kid needs to know it is not about them, for real.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids will end up hating you because dh will tell them someday. Work with your DH. This guy might be attractive, but believe me he has his faults.

Yep, I did. Wife cheated, when kids asked why I told them. When they were younger I didn't say much but that their mom liked someone better than me. When they got older I told them. No point in hiding it, it's the truth. Don't do stuff if you're not prepared for the consequences and the the truth.

You're sick. My DH cheated on me in no way in HELL would I burden my children with that. Jesus, what a selfish prick you are. You are a real piece of shit.

NP. Boy, this is an emotional angry response. You really wish you could tell them don't you? Therapy, lady.

Misdirected anger at it's finest. PP thinks she's protecting her kids, but in reality she's trying to protect herself if she can keep up the picture of perfection she won't have to deal with the fact her husband IS a cheater.
Yes is he hasn't and won't stop.

How do I know this? My dad cheated on my mom. She didn't tell us, no she was like you and pretended. I found out anyway.

+1

And just to add, people, there is a difference IMHO between maliciously trying to paint the other parent in a bad light by revealing all of his/her horrors, vs just being honest about a situation and not trying to twist or lie or pretend. There is a difference. I have no dog in this fight personally so this is not about justifying my choices, FYI.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids will end up hating you because dh will tell them someday. Work with your DH. This guy might be attractive, but believe me he has his faults.

Yep, I did. Wife cheated, when kids asked why I told them. When they were younger I didn't say much but that their mom liked someone better than me. When they got older I told them. No point in hiding it, it's the truth. Don't do stuff if you're not prepared for the consequences and the the truth.

You're sick. My DH cheated on me in no way in HELL would I burden my children with that. Jesus, what a selfish prick you are. You are a real piece of shit.

NP. Boy, this is an emotional angry response. You really wish you could tell them don't you? Therapy, lady.

Misdirected anger at it's finest. PP thinks she's protecting her kids, but in reality she's trying to protect herself if she can keep up the picture of perfection she won't have to deal with the fact her husband IS a cheater.
Yes is he hasn't and won't stop.

How do I know this? My dad cheated on my mom. She didn't tell us, no she was like you and pretended. I found out anyway.

Follow along please. The woman is divorced. Don't cha think she realized he wouldn't stop when she decided to divorce him?

Keep up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids will end up hating you because dh will tell them someday. Work with your DH. This guy might be attractive, but believe me he has his faults.

Yep, I did. Wife cheated, when kids asked why I told them. When they were younger I didn't say much but that their mom liked someone better than me. When they got older I told them. No point in hiding it, it's the truth. Don't do stuff if you're not prepared for the consequences and the the truth.

You're sick. My DH cheated on me in no way in HELL would I burden my children with that. Jesus, what a selfish prick you are. You are a real piece of shit.

NP. Boy, this is an emotional angry response. You really wish you could tell them don't you? Therapy, lady.

Misdirected anger at it's finest. PP thinks she's protecting her kids, but in reality she's trying to protect herself if she can keep up the picture of perfection she won't have to deal with the fact her husband IS a cheater.
Yes is he hasn't and won't stop.

How do I know this? My dad cheated on my mom. She didn't tell us, no she was like you and pretended. I found out anyway.

Follow along please. The woman is divorced. Don't cha think she realized he wouldn't stop when she decided to divorce him?

Keep up!

I'm the guy that originally posted I told my kids. When they were younger I didn't tell them, just that mommy didn't love me anymore. Probably wrong.

When they got older I told them. It was the truth, I'm an honest person and try not to lie. They asked the real reason and I told them. That is the fact, she's a cheater.

I moved on but they hated their step-mom and I had to tell them the reason I moved on. It is what it is. Protecting kids from reality doesn't help them when they get older. That's why we have whiny college kids and young adults. Most have a hard time facing the truth and a lot of times it's brutal and unforgiving. The world is a shitty place and people are shitty to you more often than not, that's life. Anyways, their opinion of their step-mom has changed so that's one positive outcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids will end up hating you because dh will tell them someday. Work with your DH. This guy might be attractive, but believe me he has his faults.

Yep, I did. Wife cheated, when kids asked why I told them. When they were younger I didn't say much but that their mom liked someone better than me. When they got older I told them. No point in hiding it, it's the truth. Don't do stuff if you're not prepared for the consequences and the the truth.

You're sick. My DH cheated on me in no way in HELL would I burden my children with that. Jesus, what a selfish prick you are. You are a real piece of shit.

NP. Boy, this is an emotional angry response. You really wish you could tell them don't you? Therapy, lady.

Misdirected anger at it's finest. PP thinks she's protecting her kids, but in reality she's trying to protect herself if she can keep up the picture of perfection she won't have to deal with the fact her husband IS a cheater.
Yes is he hasn't and won't stop.

How do I know this? My dad cheated on my mom. She didn't tell us, no she was like you and pretended. I found out anyway.

Follow along please. The woman is divorced. Don't cha think she realized he wouldn't stop when she decided to divorce him?

Keep up!

I'm the guy that originally posted I told my kids. When they were younger I didn't tell them, just that mommy didn't love me anymore. Probably wrong.

When they got older I told them. It was the truth, I'm an honest person and try not to lie. They asked the real reason and I told them. That is the fact, she's a cheater.

I moved on but they hated their step-mom and I had to tell them the reason I moved on. It is what it is. Protecting kids from reality doesn't help them when they get older. That's why we have whiny college kids and young adults. Most have a hard time facing the truth and a lot of times it's brutal and unforgiving. The world is a shitty place and people are shitty to you more often than not, that's life. Anyways, their opinion of their step-mom has changed so that's one positive outcome.

So you threw your kids' mom under the bus to make them like their step mom more. You still f*cking suck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids will end up hating you because dh will tell them someday. Work with your DH. This guy might be attractive, but believe me he has his faults.

Yep, I did. Wife cheated, when kids asked why I told them. When they were younger I didn't say much but that their mom liked someone better than me. When they got older I told them. No point in hiding it, it's the truth. Don't do stuff if you're not prepared for the consequences and the the truth.

You're sick. My DH cheated on me in no way in HELL would I burden my children with that. Jesus, what a selfish prick you are. You are a real piece of shit.

NP. Boy, this is an emotional angry response. You really wish you could tell them don't you? Therapy, lady.

Misdirected anger at it's finest. PP thinks she's protecting her kids, but in reality she's trying to protect herself if she can keep up the picture of perfection she won't have to deal with the fact her husband IS a cheater.
Yes is he hasn't and won't stop.

How do I know this? My dad cheated on my mom. She didn't tell us, no she was like you and pretended. I found out anyway.

Follow along please. The woman is divorced. Don't cha think she realized he wouldn't stop when she decided to divorce him?

Keep up!

I'm the guy that originally posted I told my kids. When they were younger I didn't tell them, just that mommy didn't love me anymore. Probably wrong.

When they got older I told them. It was the truth, I'm an honest person and try not to lie. They asked the real reason and I told them. That is the fact, she's a cheater.

I moved on but they hated their step-mom and I had to tell them the reason I moved on. It is what it is. Protecting kids from reality doesn't help them when they get older. That's why we have whiny college kids and young adults. Most have a hard time facing the truth and a lot of times it's brutal and unforgiving. The world is a shitty place and people are shitty to you more often than not, that's life. Anyways, their opinion of their step-mom has changed so that's one positive outcome.

So you threw your kids' mom under the bus to make them like their step mom more. You still f*cking suck.

Um no...he just told them the truth. His ex wife was a whore and broke up
The marriage. That's the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids will end up hating you because dh will tell them someday. Work with your DH. This guy might be attractive, but believe me he has his faults.

Yep, I did. Wife cheated, when kids asked why I told them. When they were younger I didn't say much but that their mom liked someone better than me. When they got older I told them. No point in hiding it, it's the truth. Don't do stuff if you're not prepared for the consequences and the the truth.

You're sick. My DH cheated on me in no way in HELL would I burden my children with that. Jesus, what a selfish prick you are. You are a real piece of shit.

NP. Boy, this is an emotional angry response. You really wish you could tell them don't you? Therapy, lady.

Misdirected anger at it's finest. PP thinks she's protecting her kids, but in reality she's trying to protect herself if she can keep up the picture of perfection she won't have to deal with the fact her husband IS a cheater.
Yes is he hasn't and won't stop.

How do I know this? My dad cheated on my mom. She didn't tell us, no she was like you and pretended. I found out anyway.

Follow along please. The woman is divorced. Don't cha think she realized he wouldn't stop when she decided to divorce him?

Keep up!

I'm the guy that originally posted I told my kids. When they were younger I didn't tell them, just that mommy didn't love me anymore. Probably wrong.

When they got older I told them. It was the truth, I'm an honest person and try not to lie. They asked the real reason and I told them. That is the fact, she's a cheater.

I moved on but they hated their step-mom and I had to tell them the reason I moved on. It is what it is. Protecting kids from reality doesn't help them when they get older. That's why we have whiny college kids and young adults. Most have a hard time facing the truth and a lot of times it's brutal and unforgiving. The world is a shitty place and people are shitty to you more often than not, that's life. Anyways, their opinion of their step-mom has changed so that's one positive outcome.

Dad of the year here! Using manupulation to paint the step mom in a more favorable light.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids will end up hating you because dh will tell them someday. Work with your DH. This guy might be attractive, but believe me he has his faults.

Yep, I did. Wife cheated, when kids asked why I told them. When they were younger I didn't say much but that their mom liked someone better than me. When they got older I told them. No point in hiding it, it's the truth. Don't do stuff if you're not prepared for the consequences and the the truth.

You're sick. My DH cheated on me in no way in HELL would I burden my children with that. Jesus, what a selfish prick you are. You are a real piece of shit.

NP. Boy, this is an emotional angry response. You really wish you could tell them don't you? Therapy, lady.

Misdirected anger at it's finest. PP thinks she's protecting her kids, but in reality she's trying to protect herself if she can keep up the picture of perfection she won't have to deal with the fact her husband IS a cheater.
Yes is he hasn't and won't stop.

How do I know this? My dad cheated on my mom. She didn't tell us, no she was like you and pretended. I found out anyway.

Follow along please. The woman is divorced. Don't cha think she realized he wouldn't stop when she decided to divorce him?

Keep up!

I'm the guy that originally posted I told my kids. When they were younger I didn't tell them, just that mommy didn't love me anymore. Probably wrong.

When they got older I told them. It was the truth, I'm an honest person and try not to lie. They asked the real reason and I told them. That is the fact, she's a cheater.

I moved on but they hated their step-mom and I had to tell them the reason I moved on. It is what it is. Protecting kids from reality doesn't help them when they get older. That's why we have whiny college kids and young adults. Most have a hard time facing the truth and a lot of times it's brutal and unforgiving. The world is a shitty place and people are shitty to you more often than not, that's life. Anyways, their opinion of their step-mom has changed so that's one positive outcome.

Wife of the year for being a cheating whore. For all you know the step-mom is a nice person and ex-wife is manipulating the kids against the father and new wife. Not unheard of at all.
Dad of the year here! Using manupulation to paint the step mom in a more favorable light.

[Anonymous]

The PP who told his kids their mother cheated it a dirtbag. I can totally see why she cheated. My ex husband cheated. My kids were 3 and 7 at the time. They are 28 and 24 now. They have no idea that their father cheated. All they know is that we weren't very good as husband and wife. They know that we both love them. We were both able to remain civil during our separation and divorce. I couldn't stay married to him after I found out about the cheating. But I wasn't about to allow it to further hurt my children. The divorce was tough enough.

Being an adult and a parent means putting aside your own petty need to prove you are right. It means rising above the need for revenge. Good parents protect their children from unnecessary pain. My ex cheated. I couldn't control that. But I did have control over my actions. I chose to take the high road and I have never regretted it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids will end up hating you because dh will tell them someday. Work with your DH. This guy might be attractive, but believe me he has his faults.

Yep, I did. Wife cheated, when kids asked why I told them. When they were younger I didn't say much but that their mom liked someone better than me. When they got older I told them. No point in hiding it, it's the truth. Don't do stuff if you're not prepared for the consequences and the the truth.

You're sick. My DH cheated on me in no way in HELL would I burden my children with that. Jesus, what a selfish prick you are. You are a real piece of shit.

NP. Boy, this is an emotional angry response. You really wish you could tell them don't you? Therapy, lady.

Misdirected anger at it's finest. PP thinks she's protecting her kids, but in reality she's trying to protect herself if she can keep up the picture of perfection she won't have to deal with the fact her husband IS a cheater.
Yes is he hasn't and won't stop.

How do I know this? My dad cheated on my mom. She didn't tell us, no she was like you and pretended. I found out anyway.

Follow along please. The woman is divorced. Don't cha think she realized he wouldn't stop when she decided to divorce him?

Keep up!

I'm the guy that originally posted I told my kids. When they were younger I didn't tell them, just that mommy didn't love me anymore. Probably wrong.

When they got older I told them. It was the truth, I'm an honest person and try not to lie. They asked the real reason and I told them. That is the fact, she's a cheater.

I moved on but they hated their step-mom and I had to tell them the reason I moved on. It is what it is. Protecting kids from reality doesn't help them when they get older. That's why we have whiny college kids and young adults. Most have a hard time facing the truth and a lot of times it's brutal and unforgiving. The world is a shitty place and people are shitty to you more often than not, that's life. Anyways, their opinion of their step-mom has changed so that's one positive outcome.

Dad of the year here! Using manupulation to paint the step mom in a more favorable light.

This. What a loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The PP who told his kids their mother cheated it a dirtbag. I can totally see why she cheated. My ex husband cheated. My kids were 3 and 7 at the time. They are 28 and 24 now. They have no idea that their father cheated. All they know is that we weren't very good as husband and wife. They know that we both love them. We were both able to remain civil during our separation and divorce. I couldn't stay married to him after I found out about the cheating. But I wasn't about to allow it to further hurt my children. The divorce was tough enough.

Being an adult and a parent means putting aside your own petty need to prove you are right. It means rising above the need for revenge. Good parents protect their children from unnecessary pain. My ex cheated. I couldn't control that. But I did have control over my actions. I chose to take the high road and I have never regretted it.

Good for you. You did it right.

My dad cheated, my parents divorced. My mom made it clear every time I saw her that my dad and his cheating was the reason for divorce. It got to the point I just couldn't be around mom anymore. When you tear into my dad (or my mom) you tear into me (that's how it feels to kids, trust me on this).

Sorry to derail the thread. I liked to OP's topic better, the hot mom in lingerie pining over the neighbor, far more entertaining!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The PP who told his kids their mother cheated it a dirtbag. I can totally see why she cheated. My ex husband cheated. My kids were 3 and 7 at the time. They are 28 and 24 now. They have no idea that their father cheated. All they know is that we weren't very good as husband and wife. They know that we both love them. We were both able to remain civil during our separation and divorce. I couldn't stay married to him after I found out about the cheating. But I wasn't about to allow it to further hurt my children. The divorce was tough enough.

Being an adult and a parent means putting aside your own petty need to prove you are right. It means rising above the need for revenge. Good parents protect their children from unnecessary pain. My ex cheated. I couldn't control that. But I did have control over my actions. I chose to take the high road and I have never regretted it.

Good for you. You did it right.

My dad cheated, my parents divorced. My mom made it clear every time I saw her that my dad and his cheating was the reason for divorce. It got to the point I just couldn't be around mom anymore. When you tear into my dad (or my mom) you tear into me (that's how it feels to kids, trust me on this).

Sorry to derail the thread. I liked to OP's topic better, the hot mom in lingerie pining over the neighbor, far more entertaining!

I had a friend who found out about mothers infidelity from the wife of the guy she cheated with. I expect this would also happen if spouse cheated within social circle. You can't protect the kids forever.

[Anonymous]

Hey OP, back to your subject here.

If all your interest in the 'dad' is sexual then there is no way you should sex with him. The close proximity will blow it all up eventually. AND, right now it's a real possibility that your husband knows you are attracted to the single dad although maybe not to the full extent. If you change that to knowing the other man in the proverbial biblical sense your body language etc. will likely be impossible to control so that added personal familiarity will be seen by him and the neighbors. This is TOO CLOSE to home!