Have you talked to your kids about 13 reasons why

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I binged the entire season and I found it very disturbing, very graphic. The Post article makes good points. Parents should definitely discuss this with their children because there are salient issues brought up in the show--not just the suicide, but the objectification of women, social media bullying, rape and inability to consent to sex because of intoxication. Even the parents' infuriating tendency to take their kids' "everything's fine" without digging deeper is a good talking point.

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My daughter (15) just thinks it is horribly produced and the girl is manipulative. How would ALL these kids find cassette players? HOW does Tony keep popping up at just the right moment? If he wears that leather jacket EVERY day, why does it still look like new? What is the deal with Clay's parents - Seriously? The principal is surprised that the kids write on the bathroom walls?! And the school photographer kid is everywhere! How many high school kids are that heavily tatted up - its like a prison yard! The whole thing is a mess.

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Dh and I were watching it over the past 2 week to prescreen it for our 13yo anti social DS. We could not get past the 7th episode. I don't think it's a good show - bad production value, terrible writing. Maybe it gets better but I don't have 6 more hours to waste and find out.

So far I dont think it's appropriate for our DS. He has 2-3 good friends he plays video games with and would prefer to watch cartoons or super hero flicks!

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter (15) just thinks it is horribly produced and the girl is manipulative. How would ALL these kids find cassette players? HOW does Tony keep popping up at just the right moment? If he wears that leather jacket EVERY day, why does it still look like new? What is the deal with Clay's parents - Seriously? The principal is surprised that the kids write on the bathroom walls?! And the school photographer kid is everywhere! How many high school kids are that heavily tatted up - its like a prison yard! The whole thing is a mess.

Ugh, tell your daughter it's "make believe" like in a tv special. Heavily tatted up, visit my DD's school, the teachers have more tattoos than that and yes, plenty of students have that many tattoos and the piercings are out of control.

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Anonymous wrote:Dh and I were watching it over the past 2 week to prescreen it for our 13yo anti social DS. We could not get past the 7th episode. I don't think it's a good show - bad production value, terrible writing. Maybe it gets better but I don't have 6 more hours to waste and find out.

So far I dont think it's appropriate for our DS. He has 2-3 good friends he plays video games with and would prefer to watch cartoons or super hero flicks!

It's meant to be seen through a teenager's eyes, not their parents. Laughable.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it is hilarious that most of you don't seem to realize it is based on a novel. A popular YA novel that a lot of kids read before the TV series.

This. The parents on this forum are so "reactive" rather than pro active. Too late again, parents.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it is hilarious that most of you don't seem to realize it is based on a novel. A popular YA novel that a lot of kids read before the TV series.

This. The parents on this forum are so "reactive" rather than pro active. Too late again, parents.

Agree. And they come off just like previous generations.

"Oh that Elvis Presley and his gyrating hips! My daughter will never listen to his music!"

"There is nudity and sex in Fast Times at Ridgemont High. My teen will never watch this!!"

Why, why are your turning into these LAME parents that think you are going to rescue your teen by dictating their lives. You are so out of the loop.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter (15) just thinks it is horribly produced and the girl is manipulative. How would ALL these kids find cassette players? HOW does Tony keep popping up at just the right moment? If he wears that leather jacket EVERY day, why does it still look like new? What is the deal with Clay's parents - Seriously? The principal is surprised that the kids write on the bathroom walls?! And the school photographer kid is everywhere! How many high school kids are that heavily tatted up - its like a prison yard! The whole thing is a mess.

Ugh, tell your daughter it's "make believe" like in a tv special. Heavily tatted up, visit my DD's school, the teachers have more tattoos than that and yes, plenty of students have that many tattoos and the piercings are out of control.

Wait, what? It isn't real?????? Teens can not tell the difference. We must ban this.

[Anonymous]

Our 12 year old ask to watch and was told no. Way too graphic for a child her age and widely criticized for glorifying suicide. we generally are pretty liberal as to what she is allowed to watch.

Yes, some of her friends have seen in but I am pretty sure their parents were clueless about the content.

[Anonymous]

My kids middle school (NBMS) just sent a letter home to all parents about this show yesterday.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids middle school (NBMS) just sent a letter home to all parents about this show yesterday.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids middle school (NBMS) just sent a letter home to all parents about this show yesterday.

+1. My kid is at TJ, and they just sent an email saying their had concerns. They couldn't stop parents from letting kids watch it but... kids were discussing at school, please talk to your kid, please watch it with them if you do let them, please remind them of the following mental health resources available, etc.

DC 2 is at an FCPS MS. Nothing from them (yet). Did other FCPS HSs get an email? our was signed by the principal, "to the TJ community," and not a KIT blast.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter (12) says all her friends are watching this, and it's true. They're all talking about it over social media, texting, etc. (yes, I check and my daughter is fully aware that I do). I don't want her watching this; it seems far too mature for her age group, and yet her friends are watching it. Anyone else in a similar situation?

I am in the same situation with my dd13. She watched the first 11 eps without telling me. Not sure what I will do and open to advice.

Do you need to do anything? What I mean by that is, did she violate a house rule by watching a new show without telling you, or has some sort of problem arisen as a result such as her being distressed or showing signs of unacceptable behaviors? If not, I might do nothing in particular and just let her decide whether to keep watching. If she enjoys the series, she would continue, but if it's more unpleasant (distressing, confusing, etc.) than enjoyable she'd likely choose to stop watching it on her own it it doesn't suddenly become forbidden and therefore more interesting to a teen. As long as you're available to talk to her if she has questions, I don't necessarily think that's a bad age to watch the show.

Don't you find it disturbing that this child binge-watched nearly an entire series without parent knowledge? It's only been on the air for like a couple of days. Does PP have zero control/limits on screens?

Tbh no, I don't find it disturbing. It's less than an hour a day total if she watched the episodes one at a time. And even if she did spend 12 hours one day just watching Netflix, or several hours for a few days, if it's an occasional thing and she still has a life other than TV & meets her commitments I wouldn't be terribly bothered by an occasional TV binge. I've done it before, too. Not ideal, but certainly wouldn't be something I would call "disturbing"; to me that's a fairly strong word.

It's appropriate though. You give your young teen unfettered access to Netflix? Wow.

This is what I don't understand. My daughter's friends (all 12 or almost 13) watch anything they want via Netflix on their computers. Grey's Anatomy, 13 Reasons Why, Vampire Diaries, etc. They just watch in their rooms and the parents have no idea. I get that high schoolers watch these programs and don't need permission to do so, but 12 seems pretty young.

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The rape scenes are very graphic. The suicide scene is very, very graphic. Far too much so got young teens IMHO. It makes me sad that my 13 year old has seen very little sex in her life, but what she has seen are two rapes courtesy of 13 reasons.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you talked to them about how they fell about this show? I don't think blocking them from watching it is an option if they are 17 but would you watch with them? so they know they're not alone?

LOL I'm 13!!! just watched it ... it's pretty good but anyways um because EVERYONE talks about shows at school. Doesn't really matter what age group it was meant to be for, everyone in or above middle school will watch it anyway. 5/6 of all the classmates I know have watched it... word spreads quickly.