Have you talked to your kids about 13 reasons why
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Anonymous
Do you need to do anything? What I mean by that is, did she violate a house rule by watching a new show without telling you, or has some sort of problem arisen as a result such as her being distressed or showing signs of unacceptable behaviors? If not, I might do nothing in particular and just let her decide whether to keep watching. If she enjoys the series, she would continue, but if it's more unpleasant (distressing, confusing, etc.) than enjoyable she'd likely choose to stop watching it on her own it it doesn't suddenly become forbidden and therefore more interesting to a teen. As long as you're available to talk to her if she has questions, I don't necessarily think that's a bad age to watch the show. |
Anonymous
| Nothing else to watch??!! |
Anonymous
I have only watched one episode, and I can tell you from that and the trailer that this is NOT appropriate for a 12-13 year old. As it is, I hope my 16 year old does not watch it. It is disturbing and the whole issue of suicide becomes confusing and glorified. |
Anonymous
| I have two teenage girls and I had no clue about this show. I am going to ask them tonight. |
Anonymous
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Washington Post just ran a piece explaining what the mental health community found problematic about this show. I use this as a springboard to discuss with my DD, who also just finished watching it. She was most focused on the mystery of whether the girl's perspective was "right." I haven't seen it, but she got from it that people might not be perceiving things the way you o. That one person's "truth" can be different from others'.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/arts-and-entertainment/wp/2017/04/14/the-problem-with-how-13-reasons-why-treats-suicide/?utm_term=.580f8494272b |
Anonymous
| My 13 yr old daughter watched it, read the article from Washington Post, agreed with the article, and told me exactly what she would have changed. |
Anonymous
| ^ Also, my 13 yr old knows more about suicide than a lot of kids, because my dad committed suicide when I was only 11. All of my children have known this since they were small. Suicide is not "glorified" in our home. It is something that never leaves....that never leaves your children, your grandchildren, all of the future generations who come after you are forever scarred by that one act. My daughter only skipped two episodes, because she thought that they were too mature for her. She made this decision on her own, because she has been raised to think for herself. |
Anonymous
| I don't care how mature your 13-year-old is...this show is completely inappropriate for a 13-year-old. There are many mature situations...rape, fatal car accidents, drinking, etc. in addition to the suicide scene. I watched it with a 17-year-old and was shocked. |
Anonymous
| I don't typically think that it helps to shield young teens from this kind of media, but I find the glorification of suicide to be very problematic. If I thought I had the kind of kid who would watch it on his/her own no matter what I said, I'd watch it with them and have lots of discussion about it. |
Anonymous
My best friend was raped when she was 13 and didn't know how to handle it. Parents need to talk to their kids about this this before it happens. |
Anonymous
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I read about it and was firmly in the "no" camp, but my DD13 asked me to watch it before issuing a finale decision. I did. I let her watch it. We talked about my problems with the story, we talked about her problems with it. We talked about suicide, about expecting other people to solve your problems, about how other people can let you down without knowing it, about how important communication is, about how hard adolescence is. I suspect we'll be having many conversations about it for quite a while.
We're reading the book next. Many of her friends have already read the book as well. Rape, suicide, drugs, horrible inter-personal relationships, yes, all of those are heavy things. But we teach our kids about slavery and the holocaust and the attempted genocide of native Americans, which are just as horrible aren't they? |
Anonymous
Yes because kids under 18 don't drink, masterbate, have sex, possibly could get assaulted and definitely don't commit suicide. 
Not letting them watch this is like starting sex ed class Senior year. Too late. Any kid going into high school and up need to watch it. No need to watch it with them either. That is kinda creepy. Watch it separate and talk about it. |
Anonymous
I think it depends on the 12-year-old. I have a DD who will be 12 next month & wouldn't want her watching alone but might watch it with her if she expresses interest. |
Anonymous
Just because some kids under 18 drink, get assaulted and commit suicide does not mean that showing a graphic violence, including rape scenes, is appropriate for the child. Yes, they are know about rape and sex at early age, but what is the educational or developmental benefit of actually seeing it? Other than trauma, i don't see any. |
Anonymous
Yes, "talk" being the operative word. There is no need for them to see all this. |