Too big an age gap?

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to breed with someone that old. Big likelihood the baby would have issues. Lots of studies document issues caused by advanced paternal age.

Having said that, I doubt a 47 year old man wants kids anyway. He might not even want a wife. If he's never married, chances are he enjoys being on his own.

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I'm 34. My max is 39 and 40 is really pushing it. I agree advanced parternal age is partially the reason i don't date anyone in the 40's plus the generational difference. I want to go out to a bar or lounge and he probably wants stay home all day and do nothing. I want kids with a young man around my age and not someone closer to retirement.

Honey ,you're 34 ,(only 6 years from 40) you aren't that young yourself. Instead of drinking your time away at the lounge you might want to settle down with one of your young men and have the kids you want.

Go away misogynist troll. No one cares what you have to say. Run along

Eh, she's not wrong. You're advanced maternal age at 35. Thirty-five.

Nope, 40, actually.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Wrong. I had my first at 29, my second at 32, and my third at 35, and my fourth at 38. I was coded AMA at 35. 35 is AMA.

And there was an excellent story several years ago about how women are being fooled into believing you can hold off on having a baby until your 40s...but it's not true. You don't realize how many couples require medical intervention to have a baby in their mid to late 30s and certainly 40s.

Hmmmm. I think I'll go with the fairly well researched Atlantic article rather than your anecdotal experience. Perhaps you just have bad eggs?

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to breed with someone that old. Big likelihood the baby would have issues. Lots of studies document issues caused by advanced paternal age.

Having said that, I doubt a 47 year old man wants kids anyway. He might not even want a wife. If he's never married, chances are he enjoys being on his own.

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I'm 34. My max is 39 and 40 is really pushing it. I agree advanced parternal age is partially the reason i don't date anyone in the 40's plus the generational difference. I want to go out to a bar or lounge and he probably wants stay home all day and do nothing. I want kids with a young man around my age and not someone closer to retirement.

Honey ,you're 34 ,(only 6 years from 40) you aren't that young yourself. Instead of drinking your time away at the lounge you might want to settle down with one of your young men and have the kids you want.

Go away misogynist troll. No one cares what you have to say. Run along

Eh, she's not wrong. You're advanced maternal age at 35. Thirty-five.

Nope, 40, actually.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Wrong. I had my first at 29, my second at 32, and my third at 35, and my fourth at 38. I was coded AMA at 35. 35 is AMA.

And there was an excellent story several years ago about how women are being fooled into believing you can hold off on having a baby until your 40s...but it's not true. You don't realize how many couples require medical intervention to have a baby in their mid to late 30s and certainly 40s.

Hmmmm. I think I'll go with the fairly well researched Atlantic article rather than your anecdotal experience. Perhaps you just have bad eggs?

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My eggs were fine. I easily got pregnant without intervention.

AMA is a medical label that every pregnant women receives from her OB if she is 35 or will be 35 at delivery, Dumbass.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 32 and dating a guy who is 47. I'm not sure where the relationship is headed but I do worry that it might be too big an age gap. What's the biggest age gap others have faced and how did it work out? I'm not desperate to get married and have kids but I do know the clock is ticking.

It's a simple math problem:
32x2-7=57. That's the max age for creepy factor. You are good. I think the children question should be your only other potential barrier.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to breed with someone that old. Big likelihood the baby would have issues. Lots of studies document issues caused by advanced paternal age.

Having said that, I doubt a 47 year old man wants kids anyway. He might not even want a wife. If he's never married, chances are he enjoys being on his own.

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I'm 34. My max is 39 and 40 is really pushing it. I agree advanced parternal age is partially the reason i don't date anyone in the 40's plus the generational difference. I want to go out to a bar or lounge and he probably wants stay home all day and do nothing. I want kids with a young man around my age and not someone closer to retirement.

Honey ,you're 34 ,(only 6 years from 40) you aren't that young yourself. Instead of drinking your time away at the lounge you might want to settle down with one of your young men and have the kids you want.

Go away misogynist troll. No one cares what you have to say. Run along

Eh, she's not wrong. You're advanced maternal age at 35. Thirty-five.

Nope, 40, actually.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Wrong. I had my first at 29, my second at 32, and my third at 35, and my fourth at 38. I was coded AMA at 35. 35 is AMA.

And there was an excellent story several years ago about how women are being fooled into believing you can hold off on having a baby until your 40s...but it's not true. You don't realize how many couples require medical intervention to have a baby in their mid to late 30s and certainly 40s.

Hmmmm. I think I'll go with the fairly well researched Atlantic article rather than your anecdotal experience. Perhaps you just have bad eggs?

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My eggs were fine. I easily got pregnant without intervention.

AMA is a medical label that every pregnant women receives from her OB if she is 35 or will be 35 at delivery, Dumbass.

Okay.... so I have no idea what your statement has to do with anything then. You had no issues getting pregnant at 35, without intervention. Which is exactly what the article states...

Do you have reading comprehension issues? A learning disability?

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to breed with someone that old. Big likelihood the baby would have issues. Lots of studies document issues caused by advanced paternal age.

Having said that, I doubt a 47 year old man wants kids anyway. He might not even want a wife. If he's never married, chances are he enjoys being on his own.

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I'm 34. My max is 39 and 40 is really pushing it. I agree advanced parternal age is partially the reason i don't date anyone in the 40's plus the generational difference. I want to go out to a bar or lounge and he probably wants stay home all day and do nothing. I want kids with a young man around my age and not someone closer to retirement.

Honey ,you're 34 ,(only 6 years from 40) you aren't that young yourself. Instead of drinking your time away at the lounge you might want to settle down with one of your young men and have the kids you want.

Go away misogynist troll. No one cares what you have to say. Run along

Eh, she's not wrong. You're advanced maternal age at 35. Thirty-five.

Nope, 40, actually.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Oh honey you can't seriously think you have until 40 to start trying for kids? Don't be foolish!

So not true for many women. I struggled to get pregnant in my 20s, now mid 40s I am having periods on the dot, highly fertile, and really wondering if God, or Nature, whatever you believe in, in having some fun with me!

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to breed with someone that old. Big likelihood the baby would have issues. Lots of studies document issues caused by advanced paternal age.

Having said that, I doubt a 47 year old man wants kids anyway. He might not even want a wife. If he's never married, chances are he enjoys being on his own.

+2
I'm 34. My max is 39 and 40 is really pushing it. I agree advanced parternal age is partially the reason i don't date anyone in the 40's plus the generational difference. I want to go out to a bar or lounge and he probably wants stay home all day and do nothing. I want kids with a young man around my age and not someone closer to retirement.

Honey ,you're 34 ,(only 6 years from 40) you aren't that young yourself. Instead of drinking your time away at the lounge you might want to settle down with one of your young men and have the kids you want.

Go away misogynist troll. No one cares what you have to say. Run along

Eh, she's not wrong. You're advanced maternal age at 35. Thirty-five.

Nope, 40, actually.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Wrong. I had my first at 29, my second at 32, and my third at 35, and my fourth at 38. I was coded AMA at 35. 35 is AMA.

And there was an excellent story several years ago about how women are being fooled into believing you can hold off on having a baby until your 40s...but it's not true. You don't realize how many couples require medical intervention to have a baby in their mid to late 30s and certainly 40s.

Don't try to help her. She wants to spend her time drinking in lounges. Let her be 43 on her 9th round of IVF wondering where she went wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to breed with someone that old. Big likelihood the baby would have issues. Lots of studies document issues caused by advanced paternal age.

Having said that, I doubt a 47 year old man wants kids anyway. He might not even want a wife. If he's never married, chances are he enjoys being on his own.

+2
I'm 34. My max is 39 and 40 is really pushing it. I agree advanced parternal age is partially the reason i don't date anyone in the 40's plus the generational difference. I want to go out to a bar or lounge and he probably wants stay home all day and do nothing. I want kids with a young man around my age and not someone closer to retirement.

Honey ,you're 34 ,(only 6 years from 40) you aren't that young yourself. Instead of drinking your time away at the lounge you might want to settle down with one of your young men and have the kids you want.

Go away misogynist troll. No one cares what you have to say. Run along

Eh, she's not wrong. You're advanced maternal age at 35. Thirty-five.

Nope, 40, actually.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Wrong. I had my first at 29, my second at 32, and my third at 35, and my fourth at 38. I was coded AMA at 35. 35 is AMA.

And there was an excellent story several years ago about how women are being fooled into believing you can hold off on having a baby until your 40s...but it's not true. You don't realize how many couples require medical intervention to have a baby in their mid to late 30s and certainly 40s.

Hmmmm. I think I'll go with the fairly well researched Atlantic article rather than your anecdotal experience. Perhaps you just have bad eggs?

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My eggs were fine. I easily got pregnant without intervention.

AMA is a medical label that every pregnant women receives from her OB if she is 35 or will be 35 at delivery, Dumbass.

Okay.... so I have no idea what your statement has to do with anything then. You had no issues getting pregnant at 35, without intervention. Which is exactly what the article states...

Do you have reading comprehension issues? A learning disability?

I was rather lucky to easily get pregnant and end up with neuro typical healthy children. But the research shows that I had an edge since I had my first baby before age 30 and since my husband is not elderly.

Google risks related to AMA...and keep in mind that AMA is 35 (not 40 like you erroneously believe).

Also Google motility issues in men along with risks associated with advanced PATERNAL age. Scary stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to breed with someone that old. Big likelihood the baby would have issues. Lots of studies document issues caused by advanced paternal age.

Having said that, I doubt a 47 year old man wants kids anyway. He might not even want a wife. If he's never married, chances are he enjoys being on his own.

+2
I'm 34. My max is 39 and 40 is really pushing it. I agree advanced parternal age is partially the reason i don't date anyone in the 40's plus the generational difference. I want to go out to a bar or lounge and he probably wants stay home all day and do nothing. I want kids with a young man around my age and not someone closer to retirement.

Honey ,you're 34 ,(only 6 years from 40) you aren't that young yourself. Instead of drinking your time away at the lounge you might want to settle down with one of your young men and have the kids you want.

Go away misogynist troll. No one cares what you have to say. Run along

Eh, she's not wrong. You're advanced maternal age at 35. Thirty-five.

Nope, 40, actually.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Oh honey you can't seriously think you have until 40 to start trying for kids? Don't be foolish!

So not true for many women. I struggled to get pregnant in my 20s, now mid 40s I am having periods on the dot, highly fertile, and really wondering if God, or Nature, whatever you believe in, in having some fun with me!

You're barreling towards menopause is what's happening. You may get knocked up during the going out of business sale, but to act like getting pregnant at 40 is easy and no big deal is false.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to breed with someone that old. Big likelihood the baby would have issues. Lots of studies document issues caused by advanced paternal age.

Having said that, I doubt a 47 year old man wants kids anyway. He might not even want a wife. If he's never married, chances are he enjoys being on his own.

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I'm 34. My max is 39 and 40 is really pushing it. I agree advanced parternal age is partially the reason i don't date anyone in the 40's plus the generational difference. I want to go out to a bar or lounge and he probably wants stay home all day and do nothing. I want kids with a young man around my age and not someone closer to retirement.

Honey ,you're 34 ,(only 6 years from 40) you aren't that young yourself. Instead of drinking your time away at the lounge you might want to settle down with one of your young men and have the kids you want.

Go away misogynist troll. No one cares what you have to say. Run along

Eh, she's not wrong. You're advanced maternal age at 35. Thirty-five.

Nope, 40, actually.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Oh honey you can't seriously think you have until 40 to start trying for kids? Don't be foolish!

So not true for many women. I struggled to get pregnant in my 20s, now mid 40s I am having periods on the dot, highly fertile, and really wondering if God, or Nature, whatever you believe in, in having some fun with me!

Regular cycles don't necessarily equate to fertility.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to breed with someone that old. Big likelihood the baby would have issues. Lots of studies document issues caused by advanced paternal age.

Having said that, I doubt a 47 year old man wants kids anyway. He might not even want a wife. If he's never married, chances are he enjoys being on his own.

+2
I'm 34. My max is 39 and 40 is really pushing it. I agree advanced parternal age is partially the reason i don't date anyone in the 40's plus the generational difference. I want to go out to a bar or lounge and he probably wants stay home all day and do nothing. I want kids with a young man around my age and not someone closer to retirement.

Honey ,you're 34 ,(only 6 years from 40) you aren't that young yourself. Instead of drinking your time away at the lounge you might want to settle down with one of your young men and have the kids you want.

Go away misogynist troll. No one cares what you have to say. Run along

Eh, she's not wrong. You're advanced maternal age at 35. Thirty-five.

Nope, 40, actually.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Wrong. I had my first at 29, my second at 32, and my third at 35, and my fourth at 38. I was coded AMA at 35. 35 is AMA.

And there was an excellent story several years ago about how women are being fooled into believing you can hold off on having a baby until your 40s...but it's not true. You don't realize how many couples require medical intervention to have a baby in their mid to late 30s and certainly 40s.

Hmmmm. I think I'll go with the fairly well researched Atlantic article rather than your anecdotal experience. Perhaps you just have bad eggs?

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My eggs were fine. I easily got pregnant without intervention.

AMA is a medical label that every pregnant women receives from her OB if she is 35 or will be 35 at delivery, Dumbass.

Okay.... so I have no idea what your statement has to do with anything then. You had no issues getting pregnant at 35, without intervention. Which is exactly what the article states...

Do you have reading comprehension issues? A learning disability?

I was rather lucky to easily get pregnant and end up with neuro typical healthy children. But the research shows that I had an edge since I had my first baby before age 30 and since my husband is not elderly.

Google risks related to AMA...and keep in mind that AMA is 35 (not 40 like you erroneously believe).

Also Google motility issues in men along with risks associated with advanced PATERNAL age. Scary stuff.

I definitely know about advanced paternal age. But much of the research done on maternal age in the past is FLAWED as the article explains fairly succinctly.

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"The widely cited statistic that one in three women ages 35 to 39 will not be pregnant after a year of trying, for instance, is based on an article published in 2004 in the journal Human Reproduction. Rarely mentioned is the source of the data: French birth records from 1670 to 1830. The chance of remaining childless—30 percent—was also calculated based on historical populations.

In other words, millions of women are being told when to get pregnant based on statistics from a time before electricity, antibiotics, or fertility treatment. Most people assume these numbers are based on large, well-conducted studies of modern women, but they are not. When I mention this to friends and associates, by far the most common reaction is: “No … No way. Really?”"


Because apparently people are too lazy to read an article but feel qualified to spout off

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Surprisingly few well-designed studies of female age and natural fertility include women born in the 20th century—but those that do tend to paint a more optimistic picture. One study, published in Obstetrics & Gynecology in 2004 and headed by David Dunson (now of Duke University), examined the chances of pregnancy among 770 European women. It found that with sex at least twice a week, 82 percent of 35-to-39-year-old women conceive within a year, compared with 86 percent of 27-to-34-year-olds. (The fertility of women in their late 20s and early 30s was almost identical—news in and of itself.) Another study, released this March in Fertility and Sterility and led by Kenneth Rothman of Boston University, followed 2,820 Danish women as they tried to get pregnant. Among women having sex during their fertile times, 78 percent of 35-to-40-year-olds got pregnant within a year, compared with 84 percent of 20-to-34-year-olds. A study headed by Anne Steiner, an associate professor at the University of North Carolina School of Medicine, the results of which were presented in June, found that among 38- and 39-year-olds who had been pregnant before, 80 percent of white women of normal weight got pregnant naturally within six months (although that percentage was lower among other races and among the overweight). “In our data, we’re not seeing huge drops until age 40,” she told me.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to breed with someone that old. Big likelihood the baby would have issues. Lots of studies document issues caused by advanced paternal age.

Having said that, I doubt a 47 year old man wants kids anyway. He might not even want a wife. If he's never married, chances are he enjoys being on his own.

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I'm 34. My max is 39 and 40 is really pushing it. I agree advanced parternal age is partially the reason i don't date anyone in the 40's plus the generational difference. I want to go out to a bar or lounge and he probably wants stay home all day and do nothing. I want kids with a young man around my age and not someone closer to retirement.

Honey ,you're 34 ,(only 6 years from 40) you aren't that young yourself. Instead of drinking your time away at the lounge you might want to settle down with one of your young men and have the kids you want.

Go away misogynist troll. No one cares what you have to say. Run along

Eh, she's not wrong. You're advanced maternal age at 35. Thirty-five.

Nope, 40, actually.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Wrong. I had my first at 29, my second at 32, and my third at 35, and my fourth at 38. I was coded AMA at 35. 35 is AMA.

And there was an excellent story several years ago about how women are being fooled into believing you can hold off on having a baby until your 40s...but it's not true. You don't realize how many couples require medical intervention to have a baby in their mid to late 30s and certainly 40s.

Don't try to help her. She wants to spend her time drinking in lounges. Let her be 43 on her 9th round of IVF wondering where she went wrong.

You sound hilariously angry. Did you have a hard time getting pregnant or something? Sucks to suck.

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Anonymous wrote:Is he a lobbyist by any chance?

No,and he's not a lawyer!

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to breed with someone that old. Big likelihood the baby would have issues. Lots of studies document issues caused by advanced paternal age.

Having said that, I doubt a 47 year old man wants kids anyway. He might not even want a wife. If he's never married, chances are he enjoys being on his own.

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I'm 34. My max is 39 and 40 is really pushing it. I agree advanced parternal age is partially the reason i don't date anyone in the 40's plus the generational difference. I want to go out to a bar or lounge and he probably wants stay home all day and do nothing. I want kids with a young man around my age and not someone closer to retirement.

Honey ,you're 34 ,(only 6 years from 40) you aren't that young yourself. Instead of drinking your time away at the lounge you might want to settle down with one of your young men and have the kids you want.

Go away misogynist troll. No one cares what you have to say. Run along

Eh, she's not wrong. You're advanced maternal age at 35. Thirty-five.

Nope, 40, actually.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Wrong. I had my first at 29, my second at 32, and my third at 35, and my fourth at 38. I was coded AMA at 35. 35 is AMA.

And there was an excellent story several years ago about how women are being fooled into believing you can hold off on having a baby until your 40s...but it's not true. You don't realize how many couples require medical intervention to have a baby in their mid to late 30s and certainly 40s.

Don't try to help her. She wants to spend her time drinking in lounges. Let her be 43 on her 9th round of IVF wondering where she went wrong.

You sound hilariously angry. Did you have a hard time getting pregnant or something? Sucks to suck.

No I didn't fritter away my fertility in my 30s still partying like I was 21. I knew I wanted marriage and a family so I made those things happen before 34. I do have a number of female friends who bought into the 40 is the new 20 narrative and are now either childless or struggling majorly with infertility, buy ymmv.