What do you think of leaving a 2-3 month old behind so you can travel?

[Anonymous]

haven't read all the posts so forgive me if this has already been brought up- are your parents even willing to watch a 2/3 month old for 5 days? They're a lot of work at that age still, and likely not sleeping through the night. No judgement if you go (from me, at least), but I wouldn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:haven't read all the posts so forgive me if this has already been brought up- are your parents even willing to watch a 2/3 month old for 5 days? They're a lot of work at that age still, and likely not sleeping through the night. No judgement if you go (from me, at least), but I wouldn't.

They probably aren't but OP mentioned they provide financial support so they will probably be guilted into it. I mean poor OP NEEDS a break from her fetus.

[Anonymous]

Would I do it? No. Can you do it if you have the support system and some things set up? Sure. Assume you will not breasfeed and dry up before you go since pumping would suck. Work on getting baby on formula and bottles after a month and assume she'll take a bottle easily. Write up and notarize power of attorney for medical decisions for a grandparent. Since a fever in a newborn usually leads to a spinal tap. Make sure grandparents know and can handle the possible round the clock care. Have them visit overnight with you and do bottle feeds then. Buy travel insurance.
This is what I would do if I had to leave for some reason. For vacation of take the baby and a nanny or a couple grandparents.

[Anonymous]

I would have done it, but I didn't have enough milk supply saved for it. And even though I lost most of the weight, wasn't interested in being on a beach at 3 months pp.

My parents were begging us to leave our baby with them for the weekend. But it's our first and we're still thrilled to be around here. I'm sure it will wear off soon and then we'll be grateful for the help. She's 4 months.

[Anonymous]

This is so sad and selfish.

[Anonymous]

It's fine! I think you may want to examine whether you are truly happy being a SAHM, however. You shouldn't be motivated to make those kinds of decisions out of guilt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with others that you sound incredibly selfish. 2-3 months is too young and putting too much on the grandparents. I'd have a different opinion if the baby would be 6 months and older, but 2-3 months just isn't the right time.

totally disagree. at 2-3 months the baby is barely conscious and really has little idea who is taking care of him/her as long as they are loving. If OP is confident in the grandparents caregiving there is absolutely no reason she shouldn't do this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with others that you sound incredibly selfish. 2-3 months is too young and putting too much on the grandparents. I'd have a different opinion if the baby would be 6 months and older, but 2-3 months just isn't the right time.

totally disagree. at 2-3 months the baby is barely conscious and really has little idea who is taking care of him/her as long as they are loving. If OP is confident in the grandparents caregiving there is absolutely no reason she shouldn't do this.

I don't think PP was referring to the baby noticing who would be providing the care. I think people are pointing out how much constant care young babies require, which is a lot to ask of even the most willing grandparents. You do you, OP, but barring a true emergency I would never leave a baby that young just so that I could vacation.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with others that you sound incredibly selfish. 2-3 months is too young and putting too much on the grandparents. I'd have a different opinion if the baby would be 6 months and older, but 2-3 months just isn't the right time.

totally disagree. at 2-3 months the baby is barely conscious and really has little idea who is taking care of him/her as long as they are loving. If OP is confident in the grandparents caregiving there is absolutely no reason she shouldn't do this.

Maybe some or even most babies. One of mine had separation anxiety starting at two months and was miserable if we left him with anyone. It was kind of unbelievable and it sucked, but there is no way I would have left him to take a trip.

I wouldn't do it with any baby, though.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't do this OP. It's called being a mom. This is what you signed up for.

[Anonymous]

sorry but these posts are so selfish. cant you wait at least until 6 months? I mean why have a baby if you cant delay a vacation by a few months. I have 2 kids. I know ITS HARD! but you don't need to get away for a week- can you do a weekend?

[Anonymous]

I left our 12 Mo old with family to take a long weekend with the older siblings out of state. 12 month old got sick and the hours until I got home were frightening for me and more than grandmother signed up for. No way I would do this, and not just because the baby will be so young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine any grandmother is equipped or willing to care for a 2-3 month old overnight...let alone for five nights!

The baby won't be STTN.

It's too much to ask of a grandmother IMHO.

I'm a young grandmother and would be totally capable of caring for a newborn. I was only 46 when my first grandchild was born. That said, I would be incredibly disappointed if my DIL and son were willing to take off on vacation and leave their infant for several days. Thankfully, they are not that kind of parents.

[Anonymous]

OP, just because you've spent years being guilted into parenting decisions doesn't mean it's okay to "be selfish" when your baby is still so little. You felt guilty because you missed some midweek school events? This is your problem. Don't make it someone else's. You chose to live your life as a mommy martyr; if you're not happy, then take constructive steps to change that.

I think that 2-3 months is too early to leave a baby for an extended period of time. Babies that little need lots of constant care, and it's not really fair to ask grandparents to do it for a non-emergency reason. Pick a vacation locale other than the beach.

[Anonymous]

OP I think you're intentionally being vague. Will the baby be 2 months or 3 months old? Are you going for 3 days or 5 days? I think you're not going to fly to the tropics for 3 days. I think you're planning on leaving a 2 month old for a week, and you're not being honest, even to yourself, about the details.

Wait until the baby is at least 6 months. Then the kids will be on summer break