My wife hates my beard...I just think she is jelious because her face is cold and mine is warm

[Anonymous]

OP here. I wrote this mostly as a spin off of the other hair thread, where the guy was not happy with the hair color. The answer was, suck it up (for him). For me, it is shave it off (mostly).

1) I will shave it off when it gets warm again.
2) I will not shave it off until it starts warming up.

But, it is temporary. It is clean. And it is soft. And it is warm.

I figured this would be a good example of the anti-male sexism....

DCUM did not disappoint.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm a woman and I'm on your side. The DCUM double standard is totally unfair. It's such a joke!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The responses to this thread are interesting. So much different than the ones about the guy who doesn't like his fiancé's new hairdo! Why the double standard? Honest question? The womenfolk would be flipping out if a guy made a comment like "I'll dye it back in her sleep"

Yup, that would unconsented to, but shaving off a dude's beard while he is sleeping (not sure how that could work) is just a joke there, ya.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I wrote this mostly as a spin off of the other hair thread, where the guy was not happy with the hair color. The answer was, suck it up (for him). For me, it is shave it off (mostly).

1) I will shave it off when it gets warm again.
2) I will not shave it off until it starts warming up.

But, it is temporary. It is clean. And it is soft. And it is warm.

I figured this would be a good example of the anti-male sexism....

DCUM did not disappoint.

People like what they like, doesn't make them haters.

On the right guy beards are sexy IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I wrote this mostly as a spin off of the other hair thread, where the guy was not happy with the hair color. The answer was, suck it up (for him). For me, it is shave it off (mostly).

1) I will shave it off when it gets warm again.
2) I will not shave it off until it starts warming up.

But, it is temporary. It is clean. And it is soft. And it is warm.

I figured this would be a good example of the anti-male sexism....

DCUM did not disappoint.

Full disclosure: I'm married to a guy with a great big gray piratey-looking beard. It's your face. Do what you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I wrote this mostly as a spin off of the other hair thread, where the guy was not happy with the hair color. The answer was, suck it up (for him). For me, it is shave it off (mostly).

1) I will shave it off when it gets warm again.
2) I will not shave it off until it starts warming up.

But, it is temporary. It is clean. And it is soft. And it is warm.

I figured this would be a good example of the anti-male sexism....

DCUM did not disappoint.

It's not a great example of anything and it's not comparable to the hair color issue. But if you want to think you were somehow clever, have at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I wrote this mostly as a spin off of the other hair thread, where the guy was not happy with the hair color. The answer was, suck it up (for him). For me, it is shave it off (mostly).

1) I will shave it off when it gets warm again.
2) I will not shave it off until it starts warming up.

But, it is temporary. It is clean. And it is soft. And it is warm.

I figured this would be a good example of the anti-male sexism....

DCUM did not disappoint.

It's not a great example of anything and it's not comparable to the hair color issue. But if you want to think you were somehow clever, have at it.

Dh changes the color of his hair or his haircut- I don't care. It doesn't affect me at all. Dh has a beard- it irritates my skin, so that does affect me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I wrote this mostly as a spin off of the other hair thread, where the guy was not happy with the hair color. The answer was, suck it up (for him). For me, it is shave it off (mostly).

1) I will shave it off when it gets warm again.
2) I will not shave it off until it starts warming up.

But, it is temporary. It is clean. And it is soft. And it is warm.

I figured this would be a good example of the anti-male sexism....

DCUM did not disappoint.

I'm a PP who said shave it. I've also had my DH tell me when my hair looks like crap and I've changed it for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I wrote this mostly as a spin off of the other hair thread, where the guy was not happy with the hair color. The answer was, suck it up (for him). For me, it is shave it off (mostly).

1) I will shave it off when it gets warm again.
2) I will not shave it off until it starts warming up.

But, it is temporary. It is clean. And it is soft. And it is warm.

I figured this would be a good example of the anti-male sexism....

DCUM did not disappoint.

It's not a great example of anything and it's not comparable to the hair color issue. But if you want to think you were somehow clever, have at it.

NP. Would you care to share with us how it's different? Or would you rather just leave us with a little sample of the snark you carry around inside?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has a baby face. He grows his beard because he thinks it makes him look older at work. I hate it. It's scratchy, uncomfortable, looks gross, and I am not at all physically attracted to men with facial hair.

He still grows it each winter. There is no kissing or other shenanigans when it exists. I don't want a chapped face.

Men who can grow longer, fuller beards get past that scratchy stage. It is only scratchy for a bit when it is short, but then as it gets longer it gets softer and it is actually less irritating on your face and body than stubble if he hasn't shaved for a few hours. I've been with all stages of a beard/non-beard and full beards, although I think they can be gross if they aren't clean and kept up nicely, are not uncomfortable on your face or anywhere else on your body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I wrote this mostly as a spin off of the other hair thread, where the guy was not happy with the hair color. The answer was, suck it up (for him). For me, it is shave it off (mostly).

1) I will shave it off when it gets warm again.
2) I will not shave it off until it starts warming up.

But, it is temporary. It is clean. And it is soft. And it is warm.

I figured this would be a good example of the anti-male sexism....

DCUM did not disappoint.

Whoops, I just posted but didn't get all the way through to your comment before I commented on the feel of full beards. (one post up ^^^^)

Frankly, I agree, DCUM and the whole fucking world is sexist. Is this news?

But I don't think all women are like that. It is your face, your hair, and you should be able to do what you want. I don't like my husband's beard, but he's had one for maybe 14-15 years now? A long time. Different lengths,shapes, sizes of ugly. But, WtF, it is his face after all. I don't think he knows what I think of it. He knows I prefer he keep it trimmed and not unruly, clean definitely. But, ultimately, it is his, not mine. And I've never asked him to shave it off.

Don't kiss your wife when you've just come in from the wet/cold/snow until you wipe off the beard. I hate that!

[Anonymous]

The only way this would be comparable is if the other thread was a complaint about whether the oP should tell his wife he hates her facial hair. Then, it would be different.


To accurately measure the double standard there should have been evaluations in the most similar of circumstances.

Mr. Mispell Ing Scientist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My beard is practical: it keeps my face warm. It really does. If I could grow ear muffs, I would. I envy my dog who has a warm coat.

Oh, and my dog loves the beard. My DD thinks it is awesome.

After about 2 weeks, my beard is also soft/not scratchy.

It is never smelly -- I shower every day and wash my beard like I wash my hair/face.

I know this is not the explicit forum so I'll try to be vague, but when my husband has a beard it is not comfortable for me when he goes south. That's one of the main reasons I do not like him to wear a beard. When he has a beard, my drive diminishes and we have less sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:good luck getting laid

OP here. I don't get laid when clean shaven.

There is your answer. Who cares what she thinks? It's not impacting your sex life. How does your AP feel about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My beard is practical: it keeps my face warm. It really does. If I could grow ear muffs, I would. I envy my dog who has a warm coat.

Oh, and my dog loves the beard. My DD thinks it is awesome.

After about 2 weeks, my beard is also soft/not scratchy.

It is never smelly -- I shower every day and wash my beard like I wash my hair/face.

I know this is not the explicit forum so I'll try to be vague, but when my husband has a beard it is not comfortable for me when he goes south. That's one of the main reasons I do not like him to wear a beard. When he has a beard, my drive diminishes and we have less sex.

Yep, unless everything down there is shaved, no action.