Being cut off by a sibling

[Anonymous]

OP, I think you are old enough to know we can't always get what we want. We don't get to control other people's feelings towards us. You need to learn to accept your sister for who she is and move on. Agonizing about her attitude towards you is completely unproductive and painful for you. Focus on your family etc. It sounds you have enough of your own life to occupy your mind. Good luck with the therapy!

[Anonymous]

That was quite the read... OP, looking at some of your other threads and trying to take things into context, I think you need to learn the value of atonement. Perhaps therapy can assist in that process. I feel genuinely bad for your sister, who could not have been more clear with you about her feelings before finally cutting you off.

[Anonymous]

You messed up your relationship with your sister, it's like you couldn't help yourself. Hopefully your therapist will give you some much needed insight. Good luck.


I did NOT force her to do anything or control her in anyway. I expressed an opinion expecting her to value my thoughts and insight. As her only family member in the country I thought it only natural that she get a sense of how I feel when making a huge life altering decision. I did not lock her up or run over her cat or something horrible.

The bolded items are part of your problem. You are expecting her to value your thoughts, insight, feelings and opinions about HER life. She doesn't and that is acceptable to everyone but you. I hope you show your threads to your therapist so she might help you better understand how you have so continuously tried to manipulate and control her. I understand that you don't see that but that doesn't mean you don't - which is why you need to work on it in therapy so you understand how you have damaged your relationship with your sister so much that she wants nothing to do with you.

[Anonymous]

OP, take the other posters advice to go to therapy. This is an upsetting situation, but you need to accept it and move forward with a life which does not involve your sister. Once you get some help and concentrate on your own life and your own happiness, not your sister or what she is doing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you insist on having a relationship your sister is not interested in? Enjoy relationships with people who care about you. Crying yourself to sleep? My goodness, DH may be right, and therapy may help.

Relationships of sisters are rarely easy or pleasant. It's just a fact of life.

Because she's my sister and you do not cut off family?

I am going to therapy tomorrow. I feel like I am losing my mind.

Says who? Family strife is more common than you think. Shared genetics is not enough to build a relationship.

If she was anyone other than my blood relative I would never have felt so hurt by what has happened. She even snubbed me and sent me a cold "congrats!" text when I told her I was pregnant.

I feel like I cannot let go because she is my sister and you do not do that to your family. You fight you makeup.

I'm so glad you are seeing a therapist, maybe they can help you.
You believe that you never cut off family but she believes differently. And she's allowed to because she is a completely different person than you and you don't get to control her!
And her congrats text when you told her you were pregnant? That's not cold, that's civil and polite. And if that's all she wants to be towards you, that's her right. The way you post in here about her, you'd be hard pressed to find someone who blames her for feeling and acting as she does.
You messed up your relationship with your sister, it's like you couldn't help yourself. Hopefully your therapist will give you some much needed insight. Good luck.

I did NOT force her to do anything or control her in anyway. I expressed an opinion expecting her to value my thoughts and insight. As her only family member in the country I thought it only natural that she get a sense of how I feel when making a huge life altering decision. I did not lock her up or run over her cat or something horrible.

OP, you're a controlling and manipulative biatch. Plenty of posters have told you this in your neverending threads about your sister. Seek therapy, and seek it fast. You need professional help. And lots of it.