Men: What was your reaction when your wife said she wanted to SAHM?

[Anonymous]

My husband would not be okay with it at our actual income of 170K, but I doubt he'd have a problem with it at your husband's, as long as it was a pretty secure job and there were no crazy extenuating circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Money is absolutely no issue at an HHI of $650 or $700,000. You must be trolling, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"Whaaattt? We can't afford that!!!" But he only makes 500K.

New Poster. Your husband won't let you SAHM on an income of half a million dollars? How badly do you want to do it?

I know my fiancé never would. He thinks everyone needs to "pull their own weight" and be "self sufficient" and he cannot imagine a husband supporting a wife. I can't stand him so often.

Why are you planning to marry him then? He sounds like an ass.

His position doesn't sound unreasonable to me.

My husband agrees with the above poster. Each adult should be financially self sufficient.

[Anonymous]

I never would have married a woman who would not have been a SAHM, so this wasn't even an issue.

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Anonymous wrote:"Whaaattt? We can't afford that!!!" But he only makes 500K.

New Poster. Your husband won't let you SAHM on an income of half a million dollars? How badly do you want to do it?

I know my fiancé never would. He thinks everyone needs to "pull their own weight" and be "self sufficient" and he cannot imagine a husband supporting a wife. I can't stand him so often.

Why are you planning to marry him then? He sounds like an ass.

His position doesn't sound unreasonable to me.

My husband agrees with the above poster. Each adult should be financially self sufficient.

Too bad your husband wasn't self sufficient enough to have a baby on his own. He had to use you for that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"Whaaattt? We can't afford that!!!" But he only makes 500K.

New Poster. Your husband won't let you SAHM on an income of half a million dollars? How badly do you want to do it?

I know my fiancé never would. He thinks everyone needs to "pull their own weight" and be "self sufficient" and he cannot imagine a husband supporting a wife. I can't stand him so often.

Why are you planning to marry him then? He sounds like an ass.

His position doesn't sound unreasonable to me.

My husband agrees with the above poster. Each adult should be financially self sufficient[i].

I'm so glad that he would approve of my staying home as I am independently wealthy. The approval of some strange man is SO important to all of us who stay at home!

I suppose you better load up on disability insurance in case you ever have something happen to you and you can't work…he might kick you to the curb! Sounds like a wonderful, loving relationship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Whaaattt? We can't afford that!!!" But he only makes 500K.

New Poster. Your husband won't let you SAHM on an income of half a million dollars? How badly do you want to do it?

I know my fiancé never would. He thinks everyone needs to "pull their own weight" and be "self sufficient" and he cannot imagine a husband supporting a wife. I can't stand him so often.

Why are you planning to marry him then? He sounds like an ass.

His position doesn't sound unreasonable to me.

My husband agrees with the above poster. Each adult should be financially self sufficient[i].

I'm so glad that he would approve of my staying home as I am independently wealthy. The approval of some strange man is SO important to all of us who stay at home!

I suppose you better load up on disability insurance in case you ever have something happen to you and you can't work…he might kick you to the curb! Sounds like a wonderful, loving relationship.

Np here you sound like a bitch. Better correct that before hubby kicks YOU to the curb.

[Anonymous]

Awww. A jealous little bitch.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Whaaattt? We can't afford that!!!" But he only makes 500K.

New Poster. Your husband won't let you SAHM on an income of half a million dollars? How badly do you want to do it?

I know my fiancé never would. He thinks everyone needs to "pull their own weight" and be "self sufficient" and he cannot imagine a husband supporting a wife. I can't stand him so often.

Why are you planning to marry him then? He sounds like an ass.

His position doesn't sound unreasonable to me.

My husband agrees with the above poster. Each adult should be financially self sufficient[i].

I'm so glad that he would approve of my staying home as I am independently wealthy. The approval of some strange man is SO important to all of us who stay at home!

I suppose you better load up on disability insurance in case you ever have something happen to you and you can't work…he might kick you to the curb! Sounds like a wonderful, loving relationship.

Honestly, I think he would. He wouldn't SAY it was for that reason, but would create some other "problem" that would justify it.

[Anonymous]

I was happy staying home and my husband made $500,000 at that point in his career. Me staying home made our lives easier. Go for it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Whaaattt? We can't afford that!!!" But he only makes 500K.

New Poster. Your husband won't let you SAHM on an income of half a million dollars? How badly do you want to do it?

I know my fiancé never would. He thinks everyone needs to "pull their own weight" and be "self sufficient" and he cannot imagine a husband supporting a wife. I can't stand him so often.

Why are you planning to marry him then? He sounds like an ass.

His position doesn't sound unreasonable to me.

My husband agrees with the above poster. Each adult should be financially self sufficient[i].

I'm so glad that he would approve of my staying home as I am independently wealthy. The approval of some strange man is SO important to all of us who stay at home!

I suppose you better load up on disability insurance in case you ever have something happen to you and you can't work…he might kick you to the curb! Sounds like a wonderful, loving relationship.

Np here you sound like a bitch. Better correct that before hubby kicks YOU to the curb.

She's not a bitch if she's right.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Whaaattt? We can't afford that!!!" But he only makes 500K.

New Poster. Your husband won't let you SAHM on an income of half a million dollars? How badly do you want to do it?

I know my fiancé never would. He thinks everyone needs to "pull their own weight" and be "self sufficient" and he cannot imagine a husband supporting a wife. I can't stand him so often.

Why are you planning to marry him then? He sounds like an ass.

His position doesn't sound unreasonable to me.

My husband agrees with the above poster. Each adult should be financially self sufficient[i].

I'm so glad that he would approve of my staying home as I am independently wealthy. The approval of some strange man is SO important to all of us who stay at home!

I suppose you better load up on disability insurance in case you ever have something happen to you and you can't work…he might kick you to the curb! Sounds like a wonderful, loving relationship.

+1. I can't imagine being with a man like this. I wanted a man who respects femininity and thinks that raising children is a big deal. I will be a working mom but I couldn't tolerate a man insisting I have a job to be financially self sufficient. What about loving and raising his children well? What about the lack of maternity leave in this country? What if your child has a disability and needs you to stay at home for them? What if your husband has a job requiring constant travel and the household can't manage with the mom also in a traveling role? Such a hard stance on something - must contribute financially - is silly. It makes me think that the man doesn't understand a partner can contribute in many other ways besides just financially. It's also grossly unfair since I guarantee this same man is expecting his wife to bear his children, do the brunt of child rearing but then also judging her on her financial contributions. It seems like a man like this should just marry another man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Whaaattt? We can't afford that!!!" But he only makes 500K.

New Poster. Your husband won't let you SAHM on an income of half a million dollars? How badly do you want to do it?

I know my fiancé never would. He thinks everyone needs to "pull their own weight" and be "self sufficient" and he cannot imagine a husband supporting a wife. I can't stand him so often.

Why are you planning to marry him then? He sounds like an ass.

His position doesn't sound unreasonable to me.

My husband agrees with the above poster. Each adult should be financially self sufficient[i].

I'm so glad that he would approve of my staying home as I am independently wealthy. The approval of some strange man is SO important to all of us who stay at home!

I suppose you better load up on disability insurance in case you ever have something happen to you and you can't work…he might kick you to the curb! Sounds like a wonderful, loving relationship.

+1. I can't imagine being with a man like this. I wanted a man who respects femininity and thinks that raising children is a big deal. I will be a working mom but I couldn't tolerate a man insisting I have a job to be financially self sufficient. What about loving and raising his children well? What about the lack of maternity leave in this country? What if your child has a disability and needs you to stay at home for them? What if your husband has a job requiring constant travel and the household can't manage with the mom also in a traveling role? Such a hard stance on something - must contribute financially - is silly. It makes me think that the man doesn't understand a partner can contribute in many other ways besides just financially. It's also grossly unfair since I guarantee this same man is expecting his wife to bear his children, do the brunt of child rearing but then also judging her on her financial contributions. It seems like a man like this should just marry another man.

I have made that point that I contribute in other ways, but he completely disregards those contributions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Whaaattt? We can't afford that!!!" But he only makes 500K.

New Poster. Your husband won't let you SAHM on an income of half a million dollars? How badly do you want to do it?

I know my fiancé never would. He thinks everyone needs to "pull their own weight" and be "self sufficient" and he cannot imagine a husband supporting a wife. I can't stand him so often.

He makes over half million.

Why marry for money if you're going to have to keep working anyway? If you can land him, you can land another "provider." Or are you really young and planning to build some assets for a few years and then divorce him?

[Anonymous]

If my husband disregarded my contributions I would stop contributing in those ways until he appreciated me.