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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was in a sexless marriage.  I had an affair with a beautiful woman from the gym that went for several months.  She was divorced and not looking for anything serious.  It was wonderful.  I ended it.  I have a kid and although I felt bad for cheating, I didn't at the same time.  It was rough getting over the addiction of having someone want you and says things to you like you're so hot, you're great in bed, you feel good...that stuff I missed so much.  Regardless I had to end it and did cold turkey.  I just concentrated in working, kid, working out.  [b]I still feel empty,[/b] but not much I can do.[/quote]

Did anything change at home? If not, you will cheat again[/quote]

It did for a bit.  Then it went right back.  They say cheaters repeat their behavior.  Honestly I won't.  I did feel guilt and stress.  I'll just leave at this point.  I'm not going through it again.  I felt guilty for cheating, but in a way felt justified as I'm a person who needs that physical connection and I wasn't getting it.  I felt alone and other than my kid, the only other thing I had I enjoyed was working out.  That's how I met her.  She approached me actually and I was shocked.  Here was this great looking, fit, funny woman who thought I was hot, laughed at my silly jokes, liked the same things and used to blow off dates with other guys just to come work out with me or hang out.  When she started doing that I knew she liked me.  I just went for it and it happened.  I knew it was a risk as we had become friends, but she was receptive.  She later told me she was conflicted about her feelings - me being married - but that she liked the way I made her feel.  It was nice and validating for me to have someone as attractive and type A as her so into me.  She looked up to me and respected my opinions.  There want the constant fighting, nagging and so on.  It was nice to be told "hey you're looking really good today, I really want to kiss you and have you".

In the end, I had to end it.  It wasn't going to end well, and I missed her - or the idea of her - for a long time.  I'll always remember what it's like to be wanted by someone so much.  It did make me realize that I am worth something though.  There are other people that will find me attractive and want to be with me.[/quote]

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