Sex with teens around.

[Anonymous]

People advocating for "just do it and who cares if they hear or walk in" - does the same extend to if your parents were around?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sex is a normal part of marriage. Unless you live in a tiny space, surely they can be in another part of the house doing something else. Get a white noise machine and put it just inside your door. Muffle the orgasms with a pillow, biting, whatever. Works for us.

You are disgusting. I'm an adult and I heard my parents once. I wish I didn't. That is not a memory I want.
Have some respect.

Right, it's much better to make your kids think that sex is only for procreation and once you have kids the only physical affection is a peck on the cheek. Freak.

NP. You're all about the TMI, huh?

Maybe your children don't WANT to hear you? It has nothing to do with thinking sex is only about procreation and everything to do with courtesy.

Yes, teens are grossed about by their parents having sex. Show them some respect.

AGREE. Show some respect.

It's our house and our marriage. Children do not define us. Adults have sex. I'm not giving up sex with my spouse because we have teenagers. It is such an important part of a healthy marriage and a healthy life. If the door is closed, don't walk in. We give them the same privacy. We also have healthy conversations about sex and relationships. I'm so glad my children are not growing up repressed and heading towards dysfunctional adult relationships and they will know to stay away from people like you.

Ok but unless you live in a shack it is easy to have sex without your kids hearing or seeing, even if they know what is going on. Knowing is one thing and is fine. Hearing or seeing isn't appropriate.

As for seeing no one here is saying have sex in the kitchen. But I don't think the adults in the home should avoid having sex because Larlo and LArla might walk in the room.

As for hearing please explain to me why that's so inappropriate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People advocating for "just do it and who cares if they hear or walk in" - does the same extend to if your parents were around?

Yes.
We're in our bedroom. If you walk in unannounced what you see is on you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Unless it sounds like Tarzan of the jungle who cares if they hear?

What's the big deal if they hear? Oh no they might discover mom and dad are in love and like expressing that physically! The horror!

Keep the noise level respectful i.e. No monkey calling.

Close the door. They are old enough to knock and if they don't that will be a lesson to them.

Book a weekend away for monkey times.
The end.

You are disgusting. I'm an adult and I heard my parents once. I wish I didn't. That is not a memory I want.
Have some respect.

Are you male or female? How old are your kids?

Not PP but you need some therapy. Seriously. Your reaction and the fact that you were so disturbed by the one time you heard your parents participating in a totally normal human behavior has left you with scars that remain today suggests you need help.

BTW I agree with the pp you attacked and I am female and have 4 kids the oldest being 16.

It's called controlling yourself until there is an appropriate time when kids won't hear. You aren't an animal.

My bedroom with the door closed is an appropriate time.

[Anonymous]

Honest questions for people who are advocating noise machines, waiting to the kids aren't home etc.


Why exactly are you afraid of your teens hearing you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People advocating for "just do it and who cares if they hear or walk in" - does the same extend to if your parents were around?

Yes.
We're in our bedroom. If you walk in unannounced what you see is on you.

No, I'm asking if your parents were at your house, and you knew that they could hear your head board banging or you moaning or whatever during the day (no walking in), would that be ok with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honest questions for people who are advocating noise machines, waiting to the kids aren't home etc.


Why exactly are you afraid of your teens hearing you?

I think it's rude. No teen wants to hear their parents having sex. None. Most adults don't want to hear people having sex either unless they're watching porn. If it's loud enough to be heard during the day, in normal circumstances, from other parts of the house, then I think it's appropriate to either quiet it down or put on some music.

I'm not one of the people freaking out that it is SO GROSS or anything. It's normal, and I don't think it should be kept a secret from the kids. But I don't think it's necessary to be so obvious as to make them uncomfortable, especially since we are talking about them going off during the day to have sex. It's already obvious what's going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless it sounds like Tarzan of the jungle who cares if they hear?

What's the big deal if they hear? Oh no they might discover mom and dad are in love and like expressing that physically! The horror!

Keep the noise level respectful i.e. No monkey calling.

Close the door. They are old enough to knock and if they don't that will be a lesson to them.

Book a weekend away for monkey times.
The end.

You are disgusting. I'm an adult and I heard my parents once. I wish I didn't. That is not a memory I want.
Have some respect.

Are you male or female? How old are your kids?

Not PP but you need some therapy. Seriously. Your reaction and the fact that you were so disturbed by the one time you heard your parents participating in a totally normal human behavior has left you with scars that remain today suggests you need help.

BTW I agree with the pp you attacked and I am female and have 4 kids the oldest being 16.

It's called controlling yourself until there is an appropriate time when kids won't hear. You aren't an animal.

My bedroom with the door closed is an appropriate time.

What do you tell your kids about where you're going, since OP is talking about during the day when the kids are just home, doing nothing apparently? BRB going to fuck?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless it sounds like Tarzan of the jungle who cares if they hear?

What's the big deal if they hear? Oh no they might discover mom and dad are in love and like expressing that physically! The horror!

Keep the noise level respectful i.e. No monkey calling.

Close the door. They are old enough to knock and if they don't that will be a lesson to them.

Book a weekend away for monkey times.
The end.

You are disgusting. I'm an adult and I heard my parents once. I wish I didn't. That is not a memory I want.
Have some respect.

Are you male or female? How old are your kids?

Not PP but you need some therapy. Seriously. Your reaction and the fact that you were so disturbed by the one time you heard your parents participating in a totally normal human behavior has left you with scars that remain today suggests you need help.

BTW I agree with the pp you attacked and I am female and have 4 kids the oldest being 16.

It's called controlling yourself until there is an appropriate time when kids won't hear. You aren't an animal.

My bedroom with the door closed is an appropriate time.

What do you tell your kids about where you're going, since OP is talking about during the day when the kids are just home, doing nothing apparently? BRB going to fuck?

Um we just go to our room.
We never got into the habit of explaining our every move to our kids.
They know if they need us they can come find us , knock, call out, or in the case of the oldest 2 text.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honest questions for people who are advocating noise machines, waiting to the kids aren't home etc.


Why exactly are you afraid of your teens hearing you?

I think it's rude. No teen wants to hear their parents having sex. None. Most adults don't want to hear people having sex either unless they're watching porn. If it's loud enough to be heard during the day, in normal circumstances, from other parts of the house, then I think it's appropriate to either quiet it down or put on some music.

I'm not one of the people freaking out that it is SO GROSS or anything. It's normal, and I don't think it should be kept a secret from the kids. But I don't think it's necessary to be so obvious as to make them uncomfortable, especially since we are talking about them going off during the day to have sex. It's already obvious what's going on.

No one here is saying to be as ridiculously loud, but what is the big deal if they hear a headboard squeak or a stray moan?

Why do you find it so upsetting or assume your teens will find it upsetting to know their parents have sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest questions for people who are advocating noise machines, waiting to the kids aren't home etc.


Why exactly are you afraid of your teens hearing you?

I think it's rude. No teen wants to hear their parents having sex. None. Most adults don't want to hear people having sex either unless they're watching porn. If it's loud enough to be heard during the day, in normal circumstances, from other parts of the house, then I think it's appropriate to either quiet it down or put on some music.

I'm not one of the people freaking out that it is SO GROSS or anything. It's normal, and I don't think it should be kept a secret from the kids. But I don't think it's necessary to be so obvious as to make them uncomfortable, especially since we are talking about them going off during the day to have sex. It's already obvious what's going on.

No one here is saying to be as ridiculously loud, but what is the big deal if they hear a headboard squeak or a stray moan?

Why do you find it so upsetting or assume your teens will find it upsetting to know their parents have sex?

I remember being a teen, and when you're a teen EVERYTHING your parents do is upsetting and embarrassing.

I can't see how I could get into it, knowing we are so damn loud that my kids can hear it and, if they're a typical teen, are grossed out.

Contrary to what you might want to believe, teens are going to be grossed out, even if you live in a sex positive home.

[Anonymous]

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JackieTreehorn wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I used to hear my parents having sex once in a while. My brother and I would look at each other and roll our eyes (my parents bedroom was right above the family room).

I think it was fine. It actually let me know that sex is a natural part of a strong marriage. My parents are now in their early 80's and still have sex. Good for them!

How do you know so much about your parent's sex life?

HUH?

I think PP means knowing that they're still having sex in their 80s.

Yeah that's not "so much" info at all. Just one indication of their health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest questions for people who are advocating noise machines, waiting to the kids aren't home etc.


Why exactly are you afraid of your teens hearing you?

I think it's rude. No teen wants to hear their parents having sex. None. Most adults don't want to hear people having sex either unless they're watching porn. If it's loud enough to be heard during the day, in normal circumstances, from other parts of the house, then I think it's appropriate to either quiet it down or put on some music.

I'm not one of the people freaking out that it is SO GROSS or anything. It's normal, and I don't think it should be kept a secret from the kids. But I don't think it's necessary to be so obvious as to make them uncomfortable, especially since we are talking about them going off during the day to have sex. It's already obvious what's going on.

No one here is saying to be as ridiculously loud, but what is the big deal if they hear a headboard squeak or a stray moan?

Why do you find it so upsetting or assume your teens will find it upsetting to know their parents have sex?

What a sicko. No, your teens don't want to hear you having sex. And actually, you can get yourself arrested for having sex when others can hear/see you -- even in your own house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest questions for people who are advocating noise machines, waiting to the kids aren't home etc.


Why exactly are you afraid of your teens hearing you?

I think it's rude. No teen wants to hear their parents having sex. None. Most adults don't want to hear people having sex either unless they're watching porn. If it's loud enough to be heard during the day, in normal circumstances, from other parts of the house, then I think it's appropriate to either quiet it down or put on some music.

I'm not one of the people freaking out that it is SO GROSS or anything. It's normal, and I don't think it should be kept a secret from the kids. But I don't think it's necessary to be so obvious as to make them uncomfortable, especially since we are talking about them going off during the day to have sex. It's already obvious what's going on.

No one here is saying to be as ridiculously loud, but what is the big deal if they hear a headboard squeak or a stray moan?

Why do you find it so upsetting or assume your teens will find it upsetting to know their parents have sex?

I remember being a teen, and when you're a teen EVERYTHING your parents do is upsetting and embarrassing.

I can't see how I could get into it, knowing we are so damn loud that my kids can hear it and, if they're a typical teen, are grossed out.

Contrary to what you might want to believe, teens are going to be grossed out, even if you live in a sex positive home.

Maybe they will.

I know that I wasn't.

I know my husband wasn't.

There's a possibility they won't be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

JackieTreehorn wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to hear my parents having sex once in a while. My brother and I would look at each other and roll our eyes (my parents bedroom was right above the family room).

I think it was fine. It actually let me know that sex is a natural part of a strong marriage. My parents are now in their early 80's and still have sex. Good for them!

How do you know so much about your parent's sex life?

HUH?

I think PP means knowing that they're still having sex in their 80s.

Yeah that's not "so much" info at all. Just one indication of their health.

No one said anything about their health. I don't think most people discuss their 80 year old parents sex life with them.