Sex with teens around.

[Anonymous]

OP, have sex when you want to. Just lock the door and turn on some music. It's healthy for your teens to know their parents have a sex life. If they happen to hear something, they'll just make sure to keep their distance next time.

I hope it's only a couple of hyper-neurotic prigs and trolling kids busily filling up six pages. Although, if there really are this many squeamish prudes, it may explain all the other "we have a sexless marriage" threads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of people here are disgustingly selfish.

I agree. Cutting off sex because you think your kids should never know that adults in a loving marriage have sex is incredibly selfish. It also means you aren't setting boundaries in your family. Kids are not supposed to be involved in every aspect of their parents lives. Couple time is important to build a relationship that will still exist when the kids leave the house.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of people here are disgustingly selfish.

I agree. Cutting off sex because you think your kids should never know that adults in a loving marriage have sex is incredibly selfish. It also means you aren't setting boundaries in your family. Kids are not supposed to be involved in every aspect of their parents lives. Couple time is important to build a relationship that will still exist when the kids leave the house.

+10000

So very true,

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So OP, why did you have kids then? You must of known they would eventually grow up and have to go through the teenage years.

This is truly a weird question to me.

OP here. I can live without sex. We don't have a lot of it. I don't understand your question.

If you didn't want your children to hear you then you should not of had kids. You knew for 18 years, they'd be living under your roof so don't complain now about them possibly hearing you all.

So people who have kids don't care about being heard? Sicko

WTF are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, have sex when you want to. Just lock the door and turn on some music. It's healthy for your teens to know their parents have a sex life. If they happen to hear something, they'll just make sure to keep their distance next time.

I hope it's only a couple of hyper-neurotic prigs and trolling kids busily filling up six pages. Although, if there really are this many squeamish prudes, it may explain all the other "we have a sexless marriage" threads.

No one is in favor of a sexless marriage. Just be discreet so you don't embarrass your kids. They have no interest in your healthy sex life. It's mortifying to them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of people here are disgustingly selfish.

I agree. Cutting off sex because you think your kids should never know that adults in a loving marriage have sex is incredibly selfish. It also means you aren't setting boundaries in your family. Kids are not supposed to be involved in every aspect of their parents lives. Couple time is important to build a relationship that will still exist when the kids leave the house.

+10000

So very true,

+20000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, have sex when you want to. Just lock the door and turn on some music. It's healthy for your teens to know their parents have a sex life. If they happen to hear something, they'll just make sure to keep their distance next time.

I hope it's only a couple of hyper-neurotic prigs and trolling kids busily filling up six pages. Although, if there really are this many squeamish prudes, it may explain all the other "we have a sexless marriage" threads.

No one is in favor of a sexless marriage. Just be discreet so you don't embarrass your kids. They have no interest in your healthy sex life. It's mortifying to them.

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Anonymous wrote:Honest questions for people who are advocating noise machines, waiting to the kids aren't home etc.


Why exactly are you afraid of your teens hearing you?

I think it's rude. No teen wants to hear their parents having sex. None. Most adults don't want to hear people having sex either unless they're watching porn. If it's loud enough to be heard during the day, in normal circumstances, from other parts of the house, then I think it's appropriate to either quiet it down or put on some music.

I'm not one of the people freaking out that it is SO GROSS or anything. It's normal, and I don't think it should be kept a secret from the kids. But I don't think it's necessary to be so obvious as to make them uncomfortable, especially since we are talking about them going off during the day to have sex. It's already obvious what's going on.

No one here is saying to be as ridiculously loud, but what is the big deal if they hear a headboard squeak or a stray moan?

Why do you find it so upsetting or assume your teens will find it upsetting to know their parents have sex?

I remember being a teen, and when you're a teen EVERYTHING your parents do is upsetting and embarrassing.

I can't see how I could get into it, knowing we are so damn loud that my kids can hear it and, if they're a typical teen, are grossed out.

Contrary to what you might want to believe, teens are going to be grossed out, even if you live in a sex positive home.

We're not loud.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So OP, why did you have kids then? You must of known they would eventually grow up and have to go through the teenage years.

This is truly a weird question to me.

OP here. I can live without sex. We don't have a lot of it. I don't understand your question.

That explains everything. You and your spouse have a low sex drive marriage, and it's not a priority to you. That's not true for many marriages with teens.

[Anonymous]

Your teens are more worried about you hearing them masturbating than they are about hearing you have sex.

I am sure we can all think of things that we thought were mortifying about our parents when we were teens, but then we got over that feeling after we went off to college and grew up. Hearing them have sex is probably in that category.

We try to keep the screams of "YES!" and "GIVE ME WHAT I NEED!" to a reasonable minimum.

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Anonymous wrote:Honest questions for people who are advocating noise machines, waiting to the kids aren't home etc.


Why exactly are you afraid of your teens hearing you?

I think it's rude. No teen wants to hear their parents having sex. None. Most adults don't want to hear people having sex either unless they're watching porn. If it's loud enough to be heard during the day, in normal circumstances, from other parts of the house, then I think it's appropriate to either quiet it down or put on some music.

I'm not one of the people freaking out that it is SO GROSS or anything. It's normal, and I don't think it should be kept a secret from the kids. But I don't think it's necessary to be so obvious as to make them uncomfortable, especially since we are talking about them going off during the day to have sex. It's already obvious what's going on.

No one here is saying to be as ridiculously loud, but what is the big deal if they hear a headboard squeak or a stray moan?

Why do you find it so upsetting or assume your teens will find it upsetting to know their parents have sex?

I remember being a teen, and when you're a teen EVERYTHING your parents do is upsetting and embarrassing.

I can't see how I could get into it, knowing we are so damn loud that my kids can hear it and, if they're a typical teen, are grossed out.

Contrary to what you might want to believe, teens are going to be grossed out, even if you live in a sex positive home.

We're not loud.

Then this doesn't apply to you. This applies to the people saying "who cares if they hear?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your teens are more worried about you hearing them masturbating than they are about hearing you have sex.

I am sure we can all think of things that we thought were mortifying about our parents when we were teens, but then we got over that feeling after we went off to college and grew up. Hearing them have sex is probably in that category.

We try to keep the screams of "YES!" and "GIVE ME WHAT I NEED!" to a reasonable minimum.

Uh, I still don't want to hear my parents have sex. Do you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless it sounds like Tarzan of the jungle who cares if they hear?

What's the big deal if they hear? Oh no they might discover mom and dad are in love and like expressing that physically! The horror!

Keep the noise level respectful i.e. No monkey calling.

Close the door. They are old enough to knock and if they don't that will be a lesson to them.

Book a weekend away for monkey times.
The end.

Oh c'mon!! You know it would be awkward! I wouldn't want my teen to hear it either. That doesn't mean they don't know there parents have a loving relationship. I don't want my parents to hear me having sex either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So OP, why did you have kids then? You must of known they would eventually grow up and have to go through the teenage years.

This is truly a weird question to me.

OP here. I can live without sex. We don't have a lot of it. I don't understand your question.

If you didn't want your children to hear you then you should not of had kids. You knew for 18 years, they'd be living under your roof so don't complain now about them possibly hearing you all.

I'm not complaining! I was asking for pointers on how other manage. As I said, I can live without. We have gone months before. We will rather not have sex Tham risk them hearing
If it's a sex life or kids, I choose kids. You are truly bizarre.

Can't you just have quiet, quick sex rather than none?

[Anonymous]

My guess is that OP doesn't really want to have sex. So, the kids hearing is just another roadblock thrown in the way so sex doesn't happen.

I think:
1. Tired in the evening.
2. Not a morning person.
3. Not while the kids are at home & awake.

might be the Triple Crown of excuses by the low drive spouse. Eliminates like 95% of the realistic sex opportunities. Throw in a period here and a headache there, and you can get sex down to once-a-month duty sex without having to spend much time giving your spouse excuses that make you feel bad.